Today is my brothers birthday....He died 1 month after his 32nd birthday...He was my older brother my hero my best friend ...He died Feb 22,1989...quite sometime ago...He use to say he came in partying he'd go out partying...Maybe it was easy for him when he did pass after all he enjoyed his drinking his cocaine..what was hard is here I am all these years later still missing him,his smile the sound of his laughter....Wishing maybe he could have seen his nephews...maybe he might have had some words of wisdom to help my herion addicted son stop his nonsense....I am so sick of drugs and alcohol effecting my life. .I am worn from all the hurt ....the pain ...I lost my brother and I feel like I have lost a son...when are addicts going to stop being so friggen selfish and realize the hurt and pain they inflict upon us?When is this country going to make a serious effect to stop these drugs from filtering onto the streets...when are the insurance companies pencil pushers going to stop kicking them out of rehab after a few days...how many more have to be buried before we as a nation stand up and say enough already?We need to treat this as a epidemic ...it is killing our brothers son wives daughters children...we need to be strong in our voices and say enough...contact your state legislature senators anyone in governmental positions....before we lose one more....who knows that one more maybe your loved one...we all need to stop being silent and hiding in shame ...we need to fight for changes and put pressure on those who can make a difference from the judges and courts to insurance companies to governmental agencies. ...we can't cower in the corner ..the pushers are winning ...let's fight back...anyone willing to fight with me?
I am sorry I have no words of wisdom, but want to say I am sending you love, prayers and long distance support. Please take care.
Mom:
The first paragraph of AA's HOW IT WORKS describes the issue quite simply and truthfully.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/p-10..._howitworks.pdf
Al-Anon and Nar-Anon will help you make The Serenity Prayer work in your life.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
All the best.
Bob
The first paragraph of AA's HOW IT WORKS describes the issue quite simply and truthfully.
http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/p-10..._howitworks.pdf
Al-Anon and Nar-Anon will help you make The Serenity Prayer work in your life.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
All the best.
Bob
Hi Christophers mom, that was a very powerful post-i will remember both you and your family in my prayers-you are right about the damage that we addicts cause to those around us and unfortunately this can also be true in recovery-recovering addicts are encouraged to put their own recovery before everything else in their lives-this can leave family and partners feeling excluded just as they were when the addict was in full active addiction- this leads to the destruction of many relationships and much hurt and pain for those involved- addiction has no respect for relationships - i think it is grossly unfair to expect anyone to remain in a relationship with any addict in active addiction or newly recovered- we need to realise the hurt we have/are causing and show some respect and consideration for the lives and feelings of the people around us and involved with us- we need to stop using our addiction as an excuse for being selfish and put other peoples needs before our own-even in recovery-
I have my boxing gloves on and ready to fight!
have you an opponent in mind sportsgirl
I first would like to attack the medical insurance community. There really needs so much more they can do to help the addicts. I supposedly have good insurance but so upset by how little they cover. When we have this many individuals in our society who are ill with this disease the insurance company really needs to step up and do their part.
My Dear Sports Girl,I agree completely regarding the insurance companies and the rehabs...they want to classify addiction as a diease. .yet they feel within a few days they feel the addict can follow up with outside meetings...I'm sorry I will call it as I see it they are turnstile money making outfits ...I have paid thousands of dollars ...we need to be vigilant contact senators and local governmental agencies. ..traveling man I understand you don't believe one person can make a difference...but I won't believe that I will fight on and my voice will be loud...I'm not only fighting for my son ...but I'm going to fight for all those affected by addiciton...they just want to look at them as junkies well....My son call him whatever you choose...but he is my son and he has alot to offer ...we just have to work at getting him clean.....Our country needs to wake up and realize this is a epidemic. ..maybe instead of sending all this money overseas to rebuild and build up other country's they should WAKE UP ...and invest some money here in our homeland on our own citizens and the future of our citizens.
HI Christophers mom- i do not believe that at all- i believe we can all help each other- the point i was making is that we(addicts) must be aware of the pain and suffering that we cause to other people, especially our loved ones. i do not think it is fair to expect other people to carry the can for our disease- if a mother, husband, wife, partner etc decides they wish to involve themselves in a loved ones recovery then they are very much to be admired- the sacrifices and emotional investment in another persons recovery is massive- but we as addicts can not take this for granted - that is the point i was trying to make- we the addict must start to think about the impact of our addiction on those around us - here private insurance covers you for 90 days in a treatment centre or hospital in any 5 year period- they do not cover after-care or any medication related to addiction. i totaly agree with you about societies attitude to addiction- in this country there is huge stigma attached to being in recovery- very few people openly admit to being addicted to either alcohol or drugs- alcoholics are commonly referred to as being unable to hold their drink- and anyone who is addicted to drugs legal or otherwise is deemed to be a junkie- this is not a term i would use to describe any person- i think it is degrading and demeening to any person- i wish you and your son all the best and thank you for your posts-
Traveling Man, Bless you From your posts,I see you to be kind and compassionate....I thank you for expressing the understanding that addiction doesn't affect just the user it affects all those that love them....why some might ask...never any easier question to answer ..because we know who they are what they have to offer ...I wish you the best...I appreciate your insight and wisdom....You have alot of courage...it takes courage to not only share your experience but courage to battle on...Traveling Man...Your alright by me....God Bless
