I am a mother of three, my oldest son is 19. He recently got home from department of corrections boot camp. He has been on a downward spiral the last 2 years from making meth to stealing to breaking and entering . He went on a self destruct mission July of 2014 14 counts of illegal use of a credit card, theft of gas, possession of controlled substance , breaking and entering (to a church, his aunts,his grandparents...) of corse the family didn't report it :( he has been in jail three times in three county's ! 2 states. He broke probation which sent him to boot camp ......he will be 20 in the spring I pray he makes it! 8th grade education and a meth addiction........where did I go wrong ?
Can you get to a Na meeting? One of the things you'll learn is the three C's. and they are.
You didn't cause this, You can't control this, and You can't cure this.
I once read a post by a woman whose son was on drugs and she felt so guilty and blamed herself. She was a single mom, worked a couple of jobs and felt her son turned to drugs because he had an absentee father and she wasn't around enough.
But my son's on drugs too. I was always a stay at home mom and helped him with his homework, and walked him to and from school. Nightly dinner etc. My husband and I have been married forever and there was nothing my son was lacking. But yet he turned to drugs too. We may never know the reason why they chodse drugs. They may not know.
But the bottom line is you can't fix him.
He has to want to get clean. It's a choice he has to make.. I do hope that boot camp opens his eyes and he's chooses to stay clean. Keep posting here. You'll find lots of compassion and understanding because we're all going through the same thing.
Most importantly.. Be kind to yourself. You didn't cause this.
You didn't cause this, You can't control this, and You can't cure this.
I once read a post by a woman whose son was on drugs and she felt so guilty and blamed herself. She was a single mom, worked a couple of jobs and felt her son turned to drugs because he had an absentee father and she wasn't around enough.
But my son's on drugs too. I was always a stay at home mom and helped him with his homework, and walked him to and from school. Nightly dinner etc. My husband and I have been married forever and there was nothing my son was lacking. But yet he turned to drugs too. We may never know the reason why they chodse drugs. They may not know.
But the bottom line is you can't fix him.
He has to want to get clean. It's a choice he has to make.. I do hope that boot camp opens his eyes and he's chooses to stay clean. Keep posting here. You'll find lots of compassion and understanding because we're all going through the same thing.
Most importantly.. Be kind to yourself. You didn't cause this.
Thank you for sharing that. My daughter is 18 years old and has been on drugs for about two and a half years...cocaine and now a meth addiciton. I am a single Mom although I have been to Alanon it is hard to remember I did not cause this. I find myself frequently going into the past asking myself what did I do wrong....
It is a good reminder to keep reading posts. Thank you all for sharing.
It is a good reminder to keep reading posts. Thank you all for sharing.
Hi, I'm so sorry to read about your pain and suffering. It's the day dreaming of the days when they were normal kids. That's what's the hardest! When I start going there now I stop it before it begins because it just brings on sadness and I can't let myself go there anymore. It's all so heartbreaking I know. But there comes a time when you have to stop blaming yourself. They try drugs because they've been offered them by one of their peers. You should read posts on here and it will help you understand better. When your mind starts wondering remember what "TheMom" says...You didn't cause this. You can't control it. You can't cure it. The day she told me these three things I truly think it's how I started seeing things clearer. You are not alone. We are all here for you because we're all in this together. Come back here and read the posts. They will help you understand better and in turn help you better cope with it all. We give each other strength. Good to see you TheMom it's been a while, I've missed you being on here! God Bless Mary.
