Hello Friends!
I returned from my camping trip to the mountains yesterday (a lot of fires around, but we were on the other side of them). It was 100 degrees in the shade though! Came back to my apt at the beach but it wasn't much better...Had a very busy day today however wanted to check in and see what is going on.
Thanks for checkin' on me Valarie (did you have lightning and thunder in the OC last night?).
Idgie, so proud of you for getting right back into action after your slip.
Ginge, Happy 17th months!
Jayde, Where the heck are you?
Welcome to the board Nina and Connie.
How are you Love-Dove and how's your father?
Also, just a quick hello to CB, Zac, Avondale Girl, 12 Stepper, WondersWhy, Elim Garak, LL, Gina & Bob, and anyone else who I may have forgotten...missed you guys!
Still sober, still going thru the ups and downs of life. Have been offerred a new position at my Company, now have to come up with a transition plan...still struggling with the raising of my challenging 15 year old daughter...sometimes I just don't feel I can do this parenting thing...I feel hopeless at times. Well, wanted again, to check in..let you guys know I'm still kickin...
Howdee do VW....I was wondering how it went up at Big Bear. These damn fires are aweful! I have a terrible feeling that it is only going to get worse. First everything will be burnt up and then comes the rain and flooding. Glad you are back and good luck with the new job!
Your Friend,
Valarie
Your Friend,
Valarie
Hey VW, good to see you back... good luck with your promotion, hope that's a good thing for you! And sorry you're having a tough time with your daughter, I have such respect for mothers, not sure I could ever pull it off myself. I hope that situation will get better soon. Thanks for checking in... it's always good to hear from you.
Hey Val, how's things??
Hey Val, how's things??
Hey Bella,
All is well with me. I have been a bit meloncholly (sp?) lately. I think that comes with not drinking anymore. The boredum gets to me sometimes too. I am still waiting to have a full on blast sober. Hasn't happened yet but I am sure it will eventually. Is it hot as all hell in Colorado too? It was 123 at our house in the desert over the weekend! It seems the entire country is going through a heat wave at the moment.
Hope you are doing well!
Your Friend
All is well with me. I have been a bit meloncholly (sp?) lately. I think that comes with not drinking anymore. The boredum gets to me sometimes too. I am still waiting to have a full on blast sober. Hasn't happened yet but I am sure it will eventually. Is it hot as all hell in Colorado too? It was 123 at our house in the desert over the weekend! It seems the entire country is going through a heat wave at the moment.
Hope you are doing well!
Your Friend
Hi back Val, yeah boredom totally bites, it's always been my biggest trigger... lately I've been going for walks & bike rides when the boredom hits to keep my mind occupied. It is bloody hot here, actually a littel better today, mid-90s instead of 100s but it's supposed to go up again in the next few days, then drop to the 70s this weekend. Crazy but you know what they say, "if you don't like the weather in CO wait 10 minutes," LOL. Hope you'll perk up soon, we spend so long convincing ourselves we can't have fun if we're not loaded that it can be hard to shake the thought. But keep on keepin on, girl, you're doing awesome!
hihi VW
Hi VWGirl, I heard about those fires, I am so glad to hear that you are on the other side, seems Cali gets those every year, here in B.C. we are the same lots of fires, mostly started by some idiot who either means to start them or unintentionally. Congrads on your offer of a new position within your company, I can see why they would want you!!!
Thank-you for asking about my Dad and I things are the greatest as you will read in my post, but I'm going for One day at a Time....
Lots of love
lovedove
Thank-you for asking about my Dad and I things are the greatest as you will read in my post, but I'm going for One day at a Time....
Lots of love
lovedove
Hey VWGirl congrats on the promotion - awesome - I know you'll do a great job.
Hey hope things ease up with your daughter, boy I have so much admiration for you mothers, esp. those with teenagers. Just think about how much harder it would be if you were still drinking though.
With kids sometimes the rewards come much much later down the track. Hang in there.
glad you're back with us.
Idgie.
Hey hope things ease up with your daughter, boy I have so much admiration for you mothers, esp. those with teenagers. Just think about how much harder it would be if you were still drinking though.
With kids sometimes the rewards come much much later down the track. Hang in there.
glad you're back with us.
Idgie.
Thanks all...glad to hear everyone is keepin on...I tell ya the other night I had a rough time with my daughter and it took me to a painful place emotionally and for a split second a drink seemed like the solution...what I did instead of picking up a drink is I picked up the phone and called another recovering alcoholic woman, who has a daughter the same age as I do with similar traits, and talked until I couldn't talk or cry anymore. I must never forget I am alcoholic woman who went to a very dark place during the last several months of her drinking. If I was to drink again, all bets would be off with my daughter and her chances of recovery would definitely be lessened. However, I don't know why my ex-husband, his wife or anyone else seems surprised that he and I produced an alcoholic/addict ~ geez we are lucky that our oldest daughter is not alcoholic. The chances of two drug addict/alcoholics producing a "normal" kid is pretty slim, me thinks! Thanks again for listening everyone.
HeyVWGirl hows things?
Sometimes all you can do as a parent is say i love you and i'm proud of you to both your daughters they both have there journeys and as long as you are a constant for them that's all that matters. If you were drinking then the daughter thats doing okay would be the one you would be worrying about.
It's hard but we all had to live our lives as young adults. at least one day at a time i am going to be there for my kids as a good break in the cycle . Not the perfect Dad but at least one that cares.
You are doing well and remember all this giving of energy to others is good but don't empty your own energy levels, go for a massage or take some time out for you as you are worth it, what was the coffee macadamianut or something anyway acknowledge yourself as the great person you are.
Light and love Zac
Sometimes all you can do as a parent is say i love you and i'm proud of you to both your daughters they both have there journeys and as long as you are a constant for them that's all that matters. If you were drinking then the daughter thats doing okay would be the one you would be worrying about.
It's hard but we all had to live our lives as young adults. at least one day at a time i am going to be there for my kids as a good break in the cycle . Not the perfect Dad but at least one that cares.
You are doing well and remember all this giving of energy to others is good but don't empty your own energy levels, go for a massage or take some time out for you as you are worth it, what was the coffee macadamianut or something anyway acknowledge yourself as the great person you are.
Light and love Zac
Hey VW, I'm glad you didn't pick up that drink! Good on you there! I know what you mean about producing "normal" kids... I know a woman who's a pill addict, her ex is a coke addict (both in recovery), they just found out their 15 yr old son is doing coke, E & drinking... she seemed shocked & I'm not sure why, she doesn't seem to get the genetic issue. Though I guess she still sees him as her little boy. But she should be more surprised, like you said, that her daughter is doing so well. I'm glad you have one child doing well, but there is always hope for the other... she is so young, and hopefully will turn to the right path while she IS still so young. I was nothing but hell to my parents when I was a teen, especially my mother, I simply wouldn't listen, maybe your daughter is the same. Most teens, in my experience, seem to think they know everything, but most eventually learn that they do not. I wish that very much for your daughter. Keep on keeping on, keep posting, you're always so helpful to all of us here that anytime we can return the favor we will do our best! Wishing you a great sober day today...
Hey girl,
thanks for checking in. Glad your back safe and sound. :)
love,
C
thanks for checking in. Glad your back safe and sound. :)
love,
C
