Just 2 say hello 2 every1 I've not bin on here 4 ages cos I've had a load of s*** goin on, my friends little girl started her first day of nursery and got caught on some rope at the top of the slide but no1 was watchin so she choked 2 death,she was 3 :( it has been awful.I've been goin 2 college full time aswell 2 get the qualifications I need 2 train 2 become a midwife which I love ,I am clean which is good and losing Lydia has made me cherish every second I have with the boys cos god only knows wots round the corner,we all think we've got all the time in the world with each other and take things for granted its maybe not that we don't know wot we've got its that we expect it 2 always be there.I'm having problems with my eldest (8) Callum he is behind at school and his teacher has decided 2 stick all the kids on colour coded tables depending on their ability,Callum and another little boy are on the red table or as the rest of the class calls it,the 'stupid table' Callum is a very articulate,intelligent boy but he has now stopped trying all 2getha as he is now being the class clown with the other little boy 2 deflect attention away from his shortcomings but the teacher refuses 2 seperate them!! Arrgh!! I think that Callum is probably dyslexic and he is falling further and further behind and the stupid teacher has left it 2 me 2 get him up 2 scratch.1.I am not qualified 2 do so and 2. With being a single mum,keeping the house tidy,doing masses of college work I just don't have enough time :( I have decided 2 pay 4 Callum a tutor,I can't afford it but I'm not spending money on drugs so that helps :) and I wud be skint 4 the rest of my life 2 help Callum realise his full potential.when I went 2 parents evening callums teacher went on and on bout wot Callum can't do without saying 1 positive thing (his drawings are amazing) and left Callum in tears as we then had 2 go 2 cains parents evening and his teacher gushed about how clever cain is and that he can already write his own name (he is just 4) leaving Callum feeling totally inadequate,I am so f***ing angry with this idiot teacher who shud be helping him more not segregating him from the rest of the class as a lower set child! I tell Callum constantly how intelligent he is but he doesn't believe me :( other than the private tutor any suggestions?? Hope u are all ok anyway Jenny xxxx
Go over the teacher's head Jenny. Talk to her supervisor or principle or head teacher or whomever is in charge of the school..here in the states, it's the principle. Is there a guidance counselor at his school? He should be tested for disabilites, like dyslixia. You have to remember that the teacher is also overwhelmed and as parents, it's up to us to be advocates for our children. Make them listen to you.
I am so incrediably sad to hear of the little girl who died. What a waste of a precious life. Her family must be going through hell..I am so, so sorry.
With all that's going on in your life..you're still clean. That's a miracle and so are you. Sending you hugs today...
I am so incrediably sad to hear of the little girl who died. What a waste of a precious life. Her family must be going through hell..I am so, so sorry.
With all that's going on in your life..you're still clean. That's a miracle and so are you. Sending you hugs today...
Wow Jenny...You certainly have your plate full don't you?
I am so sorry to hear about the little girls accident.
I went thru a lot of the same things with my grandkids while they were in elementary school.It seemed they got in trouble when some other kid was causing the problem. A kid would be making noise and/or bugging the other kids and one of mine would finally say stop doing that or whatever and that ,of course was the only thing the teacher would hear,so my gk would get in trouble,or "have a card pulled". It made me so mad.
I wholeheartedly agree with CG,go over the teachers head about her lack of watching her mouth and to have him tested. My youngest son and my grandson were/are in a program called IEP, Individual Education Program. They go once or twice a day to a class with teachers who are trained to deal with kids with learning disabilities. The class sizes are much smaller so they get more individualized attention. My GS is doing really well because of these classes. It is a lot to deal with and think about,but just take one thing at a time,deal with it and go on to the next one.
And...look at what you are dealing with and you havent used because of it!! CONGRATS!!!! Its not so hard now is it?? If you keep your mind focused on something else,anything else, the days will fly by and your clean days will keep adding up and your brain gets focused on something other than using. Please keep up with your meetings and support.
One BIG mistake I made the first time I got clean, We had like 3+ years clean and we moved to where there weren't meetings close by. We didnt push ourselves to find one,regardless of how far it was, thinking we had been clean long enough to not have to go anymore.When we were clean almost 5 years,we had been having some problems and my husband came home one night with heroin and cocaine. Do you think I said,oh we shouldnt do this,what about our being clean for so long??? Heck no!! I was right behind him down the hall to get high. Dont underestimate your addict brain. It is smarter than you may think.....Obviously.
After just a few months out I was done. I went on methadone and never looked back and my life is pretty good & I am in a good place today. Getting loaded never even enters my thoughts today,but I think thats because I keep too busy to give it the chance.
Good for you.
Granny
I am so sorry to hear about the little girls accident.
I went thru a lot of the same things with my grandkids while they were in elementary school.It seemed they got in trouble when some other kid was causing the problem. A kid would be making noise and/or bugging the other kids and one of mine would finally say stop doing that or whatever and that ,of course was the only thing the teacher would hear,so my gk would get in trouble,or "have a card pulled". It made me so mad.
I wholeheartedly agree with CG,go over the teachers head about her lack of watching her mouth and to have him tested. My youngest son and my grandson were/are in a program called IEP, Individual Education Program. They go once or twice a day to a class with teachers who are trained to deal with kids with learning disabilities. The class sizes are much smaller so they get more individualized attention. My GS is doing really well because of these classes. It is a lot to deal with and think about,but just take one thing at a time,deal with it and go on to the next one.
And...look at what you are dealing with and you havent used because of it!! CONGRATS!!!! Its not so hard now is it?? If you keep your mind focused on something else,anything else, the days will fly by and your clean days will keep adding up and your brain gets focused on something other than using. Please keep up with your meetings and support.
One BIG mistake I made the first time I got clean, We had like 3+ years clean and we moved to where there weren't meetings close by. We didnt push ourselves to find one,regardless of how far it was, thinking we had been clean long enough to not have to go anymore.When we were clean almost 5 years,we had been having some problems and my husband came home one night with heroin and cocaine. Do you think I said,oh we shouldnt do this,what about our being clean for so long??? Heck no!! I was right behind him down the hall to get high. Dont underestimate your addict brain. It is smarter than you may think.....Obviously.
After just a few months out I was done. I went on methadone and never looked back and my life is pretty good & I am in a good place today. Getting loaded never even enters my thoughts today,but I think thats because I keep too busy to give it the chance.
Good for you.
Granny
Jenny, I am a teacher of ESL children who live in poverty and dysfunction and every day I suit up anhd show up for what is an incredibly challenging job. What's going on with your boy is simply not acceptable. There is NO educational practice that makes it okay for children to be segregated in that way. DO NOT TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER. It is NOT up to you to be the teacher, that is the ranting of an unqualified teacher. Go as far above her as you must to get him the help he needs...it is HER job to differentiate instruction for your child while providing access to the general curriculum. The stigma attached to ability grouping by color or number or whatever is widely known to children and that's why no good teacher does it anymore...that is old school and inappropriate in this day and age. Sure, there are times when children of similar abilities are seated together for instruction that addresses their specific needs in a particular area, but groupings should be fluid and changing all the time as children acquire skills.
OMG, I cannot tell you how crazy this makes me. It is BAD TEACHING plain and simple and should not be tolerated by any parent anywhere. If you need coaching on what to say come back here and I will cheer you through it. I am so mad after reading this I could spit nails!
OMG, I cannot tell you how crazy this makes me. It is BAD TEACHING plain and simple and should not be tolerated by any parent anywhere. If you need coaching on what to say come back here and I will cheer you through it. I am so mad after reading this I could spit nails!
Thanks for replyin guys,Callums teacher is a man and yes a complete idiot! I have an appointment with the schools special needs co ordinater so hopefully she will help me.Callums teacher doesn't seem 2 realise that he is leaving Callum wide open 2 gettin bullied by segregating him,because Callum needs help in both English and maths it is 2 separate fees and I just can't afford both of them :( Last yr Callum had a brilliant teacher who recognised his potential and pushed him 2 achieve it and he was coming on leaps and bounds but his teacher this year has wrote him off :( I'll let u know how I get on Xx
If I were you Jenny, I would take MomNMore up on her offer. She knows what she's talking about. Let her help you..heads will roll with her on your side. She's spitting nails afterall.
I really hope that meeting goes well. Every child deserves the best education they can get.
I really hope that meeting goes well. Every child deserves the best education they can get.
