Hi guys - its me again. How are you all? Please help. My boyfriend is home detoxing outpatient using clonodine and ativan and something else. He has been sleeping all day but is now growing uncomfortable. He is coming off of oxycontin. He is thrashing in the bed. I just approached him to see if he needed anything and he said "you can get the f---away from me."
He is very big and can be tempormental. I am nervous but don't know what to do. SHould I just leave him alone, should I leave my house, or call his doctor's office and tell them he is getting worse? I don't know. Please I will stand by. Jen
Hi Jen,
Withdraw from oxy's is rough to say the least. Yes, leave him alone, I wouldn't think it would hurt to call his doc. and tell him whats going on. I would say he needs to be in a detox but if thats out of the question he's in for a few days of hell till the worst is over. After that it's no picnic but the first few days are the worst. It's gonna be hell for you too, he's not gonna want you to keep asking him if hes ok, he'll be very short tempered and have periods of getting sick probably, bad stomach cramps, sweats, then diareah, sleeplessness etc..
Only approach him if he asks, he'll probably say things hes gonna wish he didn't
but thats because of the withdraw, hang in there, good luck.
Take care.................................God bless...........................................Bob
Make sure without nagging, he gets fluids!
Withdraw from oxy's is rough to say the least. Yes, leave him alone, I wouldn't think it would hurt to call his doc. and tell him whats going on. I would say he needs to be in a detox but if thats out of the question he's in for a few days of hell till the worst is over. After that it's no picnic but the first few days are the worst. It's gonna be hell for you too, he's not gonna want you to keep asking him if hes ok, he'll be very short tempered and have periods of getting sick probably, bad stomach cramps, sweats, then diareah, sleeplessness etc..
Only approach him if he asks, he'll probably say things hes gonna wish he didn't
but thats because of the withdraw, hang in there, good luck.
Take care.................................God bless...........................................Bob
Make sure without nagging, he gets fluids!
jenn
I didnt want to give you wrong advice .... but... here is what my gut is telling me... typically from opiates.. it is not life threatening... now dont tell that to the person going through the w/d at the time ,,, It is the benzo's and alcohol that is the most life threatening... having said that .. he is already taking precaution if it were to get serious with the clonidine for the blood pressure as well as ativan for anxiety.. (most people do not get this luxury...) but ... my instincts tell me and let it be known that I am not the most compassionate person in the world about this as I have seen it been through it myself twice... sooo.... it wont be pleasant... if it were me.... and I were nervous...as you seem to be for my security as well as his.. I would leave... but at the very least I would leave him alone.... if he needs anything more than likely he will let you know...
again this is most generally not life threatening and if it were he is already taking the meds that they would be giving him in the ER or detox facility should he choose to go there so....
that is my advice.... but it should not be substituted for medical advice from a trained and/or licensed medical professional....
Good luck and God Bless...
(btw.. this usually starts at the 12 hour mark after the drugs are withdrawn and lasts for about 72 for the worst of it...)
I didnt want to give you wrong advice .... but... here is what my gut is telling me... typically from opiates.. it is not life threatening... now dont tell that to the person going through the w/d at the time ,,, It is the benzo's and alcohol that is the most life threatening... having said that .. he is already taking precaution if it were to get serious with the clonidine for the blood pressure as well as ativan for anxiety.. (most people do not get this luxury...) but ... my instincts tell me and let it be known that I am not the most compassionate person in the world about this as I have seen it been through it myself twice... sooo.... it wont be pleasant... if it were me.... and I were nervous...as you seem to be for my security as well as his.. I would leave... but at the very least I would leave him alone.... if he needs anything more than likely he will let you know...
again this is most generally not life threatening and if it were he is already taking the meds that they would be giving him in the ER or detox facility should he choose to go there so....
that is my advice.... but it should not be substituted for medical advice from a trained and/or licensed medical professional....
Good luck and God Bless...
(btw.. this usually starts at the 12 hour mark after the drugs are withdrawn and lasts for about 72 for the worst of it...)
Hi Guys, I had to call an ambulance and he had overdosed on help meds, and was having severe withdrawal apparently from heroin as well. Now I get the truth after he spent two and a half days in intensive care. He is here now. I will get on when I can talk. Thanks so much.
Jen
Jen
Jen,
OMG. See we don't know what we don't know. It's hard to know what to tell someone sometimes. You get a gut feeling but blah blah blah. lol I'm glad you got him the help he needed. Hang in there and come back when you are ready.
Peace,
PM
OMG. See we don't know what we don't know. It's hard to know what to tell someone sometimes. You get a gut feeling but blah blah blah. lol I'm glad you got him the help he needed. Hang in there and come back when you are ready.
Peace,
PM
Hi Jenn-
So sorry to hear about your boyfriend - well, happy that he got help in time. He's lucky to have you, Jenn. I know you have been through alot with him, hon. Maybe this "overdose" will be a wake up call for him. I'll be praying for you and him. Please keep us posted and let us know how it goes.I know you have been through the ringer. You're one tough cookie. Hang in there, Jenn. I wish you guys all the best.
Love,
Marie
So sorry to hear about your boyfriend - well, happy that he got help in time. He's lucky to have you, Jenn. I know you have been through alot with him, hon. Maybe this "overdose" will be a wake up call for him. I'll be praying for you and him. Please keep us posted and let us know how it goes.I know you have been through the ringer. You're one tough cookie. Hang in there, Jenn. I wish you guys all the best.
Love,
Marie
Hey Jenn:
I'm so sorry to hear about your boyfriend but thank God he has you. I used heroin (smoked it) because the pills stopped working. Nobody knew but my life started going down the tubes at a higher rate of speed, hence, I went back to the hell of the pills. That was back in June, after being clean for many years. My prayers are with you and I know the anguish you must be feeling. He's lucky to have a strong support system.
Rachel
I'm so sorry to hear about your boyfriend but thank God he has you. I used heroin (smoked it) because the pills stopped working. Nobody knew but my life started going down the tubes at a higher rate of speed, hence, I went back to the hell of the pills. That was back in June, after being clean for many years. My prayers are with you and I know the anguish you must be feeling. He's lucky to have a strong support system.
Rachel
Hi Guys,
Thank you for your kind words. I don't feel tough. I feel weak. I feel like if I was tough I would have left at some point over this. I just found out that he has also been using heroin (probably it is cheaper than oc). He spent time in intensive care and now his parents are involved and able to openly help. I think it is up to him though. I guess he was snorting heroin. I was wondering because things seemed to be getting worse back when I first flipped my lid online a while back. I hope this scared him but I am afraid he will use soon. Just my intuition. I hope I am wrong. He is already planning to go to go out tomorrow with a friend to watch football in a bar. I think this is foolish and shows that he is not taking it seriously. He also just got out of intensive car and they told him he should stay on another floor for another day! He left against medical advice and his parents drove him home to me! Yikes. Now he is clean and sleeping and says he feels okay just tired. I feel depressed and nervous that he is going to continue this and I think I will than have to have him leave the house or I will go. There is no point in sticking around to this situation unless he really realizes that he was literrally incoherant as result of these drugs for 3 days! I thought he might never come out of it and he does not remember the time in the hospital until today or late last night. I slept on the chairs in the room for 2 nights. God help us all. All of you hang in there.
Thank you for your kind words. I don't feel tough. I feel weak. I feel like if I was tough I would have left at some point over this. I just found out that he has also been using heroin (probably it is cheaper than oc). He spent time in intensive care and now his parents are involved and able to openly help. I think it is up to him though. I guess he was snorting heroin. I was wondering because things seemed to be getting worse back when I first flipped my lid online a while back. I hope this scared him but I am afraid he will use soon. Just my intuition. I hope I am wrong. He is already planning to go to go out tomorrow with a friend to watch football in a bar. I think this is foolish and shows that he is not taking it seriously. He also just got out of intensive car and they told him he should stay on another floor for another day! He left against medical advice and his parents drove him home to me! Yikes. Now he is clean and sleeping and says he feels okay just tired. I feel depressed and nervous that he is going to continue this and I think I will than have to have him leave the house or I will go. There is no point in sticking around to this situation unless he really realizes that he was literrally incoherant as result of these drugs for 3 days! I thought he might never come out of it and he does not remember the time in the hospital until today or late last night. I slept on the chairs in the room for 2 nights. God help us all. All of you hang in there.
I hope everything works out for you, you sound like a nice caring person & it sounds like he's lucky to have u . God bless.
