I've had it.... I've been smoking for 25 years I have tried to quit many times but I just haven't been able to. I've tried to go cold turkey but it just doesn't work for me. I worry for my health and I want to be around for my children. Even they know I smoke and I'm worried that they will follow in my footsteps. I get so angry with myself because I haven't been able to stop. Any suggestions ? I hope to start tomorrow because I already blew it today I smoked right when I woke up. What also scares me is that I have become very forgetful. I have mood swings at times and I don't know if it is from all the years of smoking.
Mamajo, Yes I would say mood swings is a major side effect of smoking weed. All chemicals have side effects & weed is no different. I think our children are the greatest reason to quit & if they see you turn your life around it could save them from making the same mistakes you did. I will be thinking of you as you start your journey tommorrow. If you cant stick it out please keep posting. It took me over a year on this board to finally be able to really let it go.
Love to you,
Cole
Love to you,
Cole
mamajo
i think the first step in quiting is that you have to really want to. and it sounds like you do. no one program works for everyone. i had to go cold turkey. the cupboard had to be 100% bare. if it was still around, i could not stop myself from smoking it. you will just have to decide what you think will work for you. hippienerd has something he calls sacred time. i think the post in which he talks about that is called "what works" . not sure though. it is an older post.
this board can be a great source of support. dont wait for replies to your post, jump on, read and reply to as many post as you have time for. this will work you into the group faster. this is a really great group of people here. and as aea said you dont have to be clean to post here.we are all understanding of where you are as we have all been there. best wishes and good luck in your recovery.
i think the first step in quiting is that you have to really want to. and it sounds like you do. no one program works for everyone. i had to go cold turkey. the cupboard had to be 100% bare. if it was still around, i could not stop myself from smoking it. you will just have to decide what you think will work for you. hippienerd has something he calls sacred time. i think the post in which he talks about that is called "what works" . not sure though. it is an older post.
this board can be a great source of support. dont wait for replies to your post, jump on, read and reply to as many post as you have time for. this will work you into the group faster. this is a really great group of people here. and as aea said you dont have to be clean to post here.we are all understanding of where you are as we have all been there. best wishes and good luck in your recovery.
One of the main problems is that my husband gets high also. His drug of choice is alcohol and mine has always been weed. He does like to get high though so weed is always around. I tried the "I'll only smoke on the weekends" blah blah blah It didn't work. I only made it to Wednessdays.
there are others here that deal with their spouses using while they are in recovery. yes it does make it harder, but it can still be done. you can ask him not to smoke it or keep it in the house. a lock box in the garage is a good idea. that way you dont have acsess to it. like i said if you want it bad enough, you can do it. and if he cares about and respects you he will honor your request and be supportive of your attempt at recovery. and maybe he will follow your lead and give quiting a try himself. sit down and talk to him. but remember make it a request and not a demand. good luck.
thanks cajan lady Your kind words help
mamajo
wondering if you talked with your hubbie and if so, how did it go. hand in there. you can do this.
wondering if you talked with your hubbie and if so, how did it go. hand in there. you can do this.
hi mamajo- can i suggest 'sacred time'? read up on it in old posts. it helped me wean down, adjust and create new habits and eventually let go. if you want to know more i'll be happy to fill you in..... look for hippinerd's old posts.
i think it's called 'whatever works is good, edited'.....
i recommend it totally!
good luck.
jojo
i think it's called 'whatever works is good, edited'.....
i recommend it totally!
good luck.
jojo
I don't think my husband believes that this time I'm really going to quit. I've said it so many times that he wonders what makes this time different?
From similar circumstances as you, I have had to learn to focus on me and not my husband. It's important he takes you seriously. If he doesn't, you may have to try other ways to get his attention. Safe, sane and healthy ways of course.
Mood swings are part of the wd. I recommend talking with your Doctor.
Mood swings are part of the wd. I recommend talking with your Doctor.
well here I am and still no luck with the quiting. Today I only took one hit all day though but how sad, that is the best I've done. I keep scoring, smoking, feeling guilty, throwing out the weed, and then buying more again. Financially this is getting ridiculous. I feel like I'm on a spinning wheel that just keeps going on and on. I'm really starting to question if I'll ever be able to stop. Even knowing the health risks and the bad model I am for my kids, I just can't stop.
mamajo
you have to start some where. one hit in a day is better than 4 or 5 joints. dont know how heavy your habit is, but that is how much i used to smoke. but the buying and then throwing away and then buying and then throwing away, that just seems silly. maybe just ration your self a little for each day. cutting back more each day. but like i said, for me it had to be all gone. and weed dude lives an hour and a half away. time for the urges to pass before acting on them. dont give up. hang in there. you can do this. you just still have to find the way that will work for you.
you have to start some where. one hit in a day is better than 4 or 5 joints. dont know how heavy your habit is, but that is how much i used to smoke. but the buying and then throwing away and then buying and then throwing away, that just seems silly. maybe just ration your self a little for each day. cutting back more each day. but like i said, for me it had to be all gone. and weed dude lives an hour and a half away. time for the urges to pass before acting on them. dont give up. hang in there. you can do this. you just still have to find the way that will work for you.
*************Even knowing the health risks and the bad model I am for my kids, I just can't stop. ***********
Yes you can.
Yes you can.
Well still not able to stop Ugh I'm feeling desperate. My son's behavior is becoming very disrespectful toward me. I can't help but wonder if it is my smoking. I crave then I smoke and then I feel guilty It is an ongoing cycle that I want to stop
dont give up. keep working at it. it will come. have you thought about a substance abuse counselor. either one on one or in a group setting? something to think about. our children also had a lack of respect for us when using. not saying thats all better now, but its improving.
I know the guilt, smoke, guilt, smoke cycle very well. Years of trying to quit and feeling like crap because i couldn't. Getting angry and feeling useless as i couldn't do it. I had such will power in other areas of my life but had nothing when it came to giving up pot.
I ended up going to detox for a week at a hospital type place. It gave me a week without the children and life to deal with. I came out still feeling like i could smoke but i didn't want to blow the week i had just made it through.
I have also been going to NA which has helped a huge deal. I had no spirituality when i arrived and now i ask the universe to help me get through the day. A saying i like is "Just for today". Just for today i will not pick up, no matter what happens. Worrying about tomorrow and next month, year just makes me want to bong on. So i just concentrate on today. Sometimes just for this hour or minute also helps when it gets tough.
This board has been a huge help also. The sacred time is worth a try. I did it for the 2 weeks before going into detox so i knew how to deal with doing other things at home when i was hanging out.
I am 8 weeks clean today. I have had some close calls but i have had to change alot of my life. I dont go around to my smoking friends houses anymore, we meet up in town for a juice or a coffee instead. Some friends i have realised were only smoking friends and used me for my pot so now i rarely hear from them. I have taken some time to recover avoiding stressful situations as much as possible as this would always trigger me to use.
I can now spend such wonderful time with my children. I used to think i was present because i was there, now i know i am really present. We do things now that i just couldn't be bothered to do before.
It took me along time to decide i was finally ready to quit for good. I am so glad i did it. My life is so much better now. I used to think people on this board were lying when they said that, but now i know it's the truth.
Don't be hard on yourself, do what you can and be proud of yourself for any achievement, no matter how small. Even if you hold back from a smoke for a few hours or sometimes minutes be proud of that. It's so very hard to initiate those first few days without a smoke but so worth it when you make it through. Take care of yourself.
Goodluck with the husband. My partner gave up 3 years before me. I just kept on smoking all day every day. He never harrassed me and i came to the decision to stop when i was ready. I am really grateful for this. He says he was ready and nothing i did was going to change it. Although im sure it didn't make it too easy for him.
Take care and good luck
I ended up going to detox for a week at a hospital type place. It gave me a week without the children and life to deal with. I came out still feeling like i could smoke but i didn't want to blow the week i had just made it through.
I have also been going to NA which has helped a huge deal. I had no spirituality when i arrived and now i ask the universe to help me get through the day. A saying i like is "Just for today". Just for today i will not pick up, no matter what happens. Worrying about tomorrow and next month, year just makes me want to bong on. So i just concentrate on today. Sometimes just for this hour or minute also helps when it gets tough.
This board has been a huge help also. The sacred time is worth a try. I did it for the 2 weeks before going into detox so i knew how to deal with doing other things at home when i was hanging out.
I am 8 weeks clean today. I have had some close calls but i have had to change alot of my life. I dont go around to my smoking friends houses anymore, we meet up in town for a juice or a coffee instead. Some friends i have realised were only smoking friends and used me for my pot so now i rarely hear from them. I have taken some time to recover avoiding stressful situations as much as possible as this would always trigger me to use.
I can now spend such wonderful time with my children. I used to think i was present because i was there, now i know i am really present. We do things now that i just couldn't be bothered to do before.
It took me along time to decide i was finally ready to quit for good. I am so glad i did it. My life is so much better now. I used to think people on this board were lying when they said that, but now i know it's the truth.
Don't be hard on yourself, do what you can and be proud of yourself for any achievement, no matter how small. Even if you hold back from a smoke for a few hours or sometimes minutes be proud of that. It's so very hard to initiate those first few days without a smoke but so worth it when you make it through. Take care of yourself.
Goodluck with the husband. My partner gave up 3 years before me. I just kept on smoking all day every day. He never harrassed me and i came to the decision to stop when i was ready. I am really grateful for this. He says he was ready and nothing i did was going to change it. Although im sure it didn't make it too easy for him.
Take care and good luck
Mamajo, When I realized that my kids were growing up whether I was high or not, it put things in perspective for me.
hello mamajo
just wondering how things are going with you. i hope good. keep trying. you CAN do this. it is easier for some than others. i think if you were able, that you would really benefit from a detox program like sharkgirl did. it helps to get completely detoxed before being out here in this world on your own. the withdrawl and the smoke vs shame cycle are hard to deal with. and again i will say that you need to get rid of anything related to smoking pot. just dont give up. you CAN do this. have a great day.
just wondering how things are going with you. i hope good. keep trying. you CAN do this. it is easier for some than others. i think if you were able, that you would really benefit from a detox program like sharkgirl did. it helps to get completely detoxed before being out here in this world on your own. the withdrawl and the smoke vs shame cycle are hard to deal with. and again i will say that you need to get rid of anything related to smoking pot. just dont give up. you CAN do this. have a great day.
It's april 29th and I'm really ready this time to quit for good One day at a time or for me one hour at a time. Tomorrow will be day 1 I've been feeling really forgetful and foggy lately I can't remember anything and I'ts really starting to scare me. I've also been making a lot of careless mistakes at work. I'ts so hard to quit but I'm really starting to think there is some permanent damage there. 25 years is a long time but I guess it's never too late as long as I'm alive. I don't want to waste any more time from my life. I want so desperately
to be clean and healthy
to be clean and healthy
mamajo
you can do this. be strong. everytime you get a craving, go do something. take a walk, take a bath, get on this site, call a friend, anything. the average craving only last 15 to 20 minutes. at first thats how you have to get through it, one craving at a time. good luck. dont listen to any of the negativity going on on the site right now. just tell yourself over and over. I CAN DO THIS. I CAN DO THIS. I CAN DO THIS. I CAN DO THIS. I CAN DO THIS. you have to believe in your self. good luck.
you can do this. be strong. everytime you get a craving, go do something. take a walk, take a bath, get on this site, call a friend, anything. the average craving only last 15 to 20 minutes. at first thats how you have to get through it, one craving at a time. good luck. dont listen to any of the negativity going on on the site right now. just tell yourself over and over. I CAN DO THIS. I CAN DO THIS. I CAN DO THIS. I CAN DO THIS. I CAN DO THIS. you have to believe in your self. good luck.
