I have a girlfriend who's addicted to Oxy's. She has a fractured disk in her back, and has been self medicating for about 3 years now. She snorts 40-160 mg a day (40 to feel normal, more to get high.)
She doesn't think she can quit, but I can see there's still a spark there. How do I convince her she's able to quit, that I'll be there to support her without pushing her away from me?
I've been supportive, never critical of her or the drugs, even gone with her to buy. I want to help her, but don't know what to do. I need the ear of someone who's been there.
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Tee, I wish I had some advice for you. I have always been the one that people wanted to help. The only thing I can think is that you sit her down and explain how you feel. Tell her that you are here for her, but don't be too pushy like you said. She has got to want to do this herself. I took suboxone for 3 weeks to help me quit vicodin and tylenol. Just a suggestion, maybe she could look in to. Good luck and God Bless.
Thanks, Stormy,
I was just reading some of your posts. Congrats on your week. I hope to be able to say that to her someday.
I'm the only person she knows who doesn't do something, and all her other friends are saying, "Don't do that, but give me a hit."
If I could get her through detox, I'd put her on my sailboat and take her to the carribean to live for a year or so, just to keep her out of harms way. Otherwise, her friends and dealers would drag her right back in.
I was just reading some of your posts. Congrats on your week. I hope to be able to say that to her someday.
I'm the only person she knows who doesn't do something, and all her other friends are saying, "Don't do that, but give me a hit."
If I could get her through detox, I'd put her on my sailboat and take her to the carribean to live for a year or so, just to keep her out of harms way. Otherwise, her friends and dealers would drag her right back in.
I wish I had someone like you.:) I too hope that you will be saying that to her one day very soon. Does she want to quit? She has to want to do it. Her "friends" don't sound like very good friends. Those people definately have to go. But the sad thing is that she has to want to do it, or it won't work. Just talk to her. She is very lucky to have someone like you in her life.
Also, maybe you will get more support from people who know in the family/friends of addicts section of this forum.
Also, maybe you will get more support from people who know in the family/friends of addicts section of this forum.
She doesn't think she can quit. I told her I think she can, and for now, that's enough.
She just got busted for paraphanalia, is about to lose her car, and has about 1000 in bad checks. I'm helping her as much as I can, but I'm not rich. On top of all that, she doesn't have a script, just buys from dealers, and that's too expensive to do for long.
She hates herself, wants to die rather than live this way, and your story reminded me of her so much, I was about to cry.
What can I say to tell her she's important? She told me she hates herself, and I said that was okay, because I love her enough for the both of us.
How do I raise her self-respect? Is that the answer?
She just got busted for paraphanalia, is about to lose her car, and has about 1000 in bad checks. I'm helping her as much as I can, but I'm not rich. On top of all that, she doesn't have a script, just buys from dealers, and that's too expensive to do for long.
She hates herself, wants to die rather than live this way, and your story reminded me of her so much, I was about to cry.
What can I say to tell her she's important? She told me she hates herself, and I said that was okay, because I love her enough for the both of us.
How do I raise her self-respect? Is that the answer?
Is she afraid of the physical withdrawal or the mental part or has she ever quit before?
I don't know what you can say to her. It seems that you are really showing and telling her how much you care. I think, and this is just my opinion, that there are probably deeper issues. What I mean is that if she does not love herself enough to quit, I don't know if you can say anything to her to make her. Yes, her self-respect needs to be raised, but I don't know how to tell you to do that. I think she has to work out issues herself, and that will make her stronger.
I don't know if I am the right one for you to be talking to because I have major issues with self-respect and self-love. I know that I have problems I need to work out. No one else. You just need to be there for her and guide her in the right direction.
That really breaks my heart to hear. I am really stumped, I don't know what to say. Really makes me sad.
Do you know what suboxone is?
I don't know what you can say to her. It seems that you are really showing and telling her how much you care. I think, and this is just my opinion, that there are probably deeper issues. What I mean is that if she does not love herself enough to quit, I don't know if you can say anything to her to make her. Yes, her self-respect needs to be raised, but I don't know how to tell you to do that. I think she has to work out issues herself, and that will make her stronger.
I don't know if I am the right one for you to be talking to because I have major issues with self-respect and self-love. I know that I have problems I need to work out. No one else. You just need to be there for her and guide her in the right direction.
That really breaks my heart to hear. I am really stumped, I don't know what to say. Really makes me sad.
Do you know what suboxone is?
No, I'm completely lost when it come to this stuff. I've read a few posts now and suboxone seems to be something that eases the cravings?
Shes detoxed a couple of times, but when she gets out, she's worse than when she went in. She's tried the 12 steps, but she has a problem with turning things over to God because she believes in freewill, meaning it's her choice, not God's.
I think you've been helpful, and I want to thank you for it.
I don't want to make this painful for you, but I've read some of your posts. Is there anything your boyfriend could say to you or do for you that would help your self esteem?
Shes detoxed a couple of times, but when she gets out, she's worse than when she went in. She's tried the 12 steps, but she has a problem with turning things over to God because she believes in freewill, meaning it's her choice, not God's.
I think you've been helpful, and I want to thank you for it.
I don't want to make this painful for you, but I've read some of your posts. Is there anything your boyfriend could say to you or do for you that would help your self esteem?
My last little trist was with tylenol and vicoin. I could not quit, so I found out some stuff about suboxone. Some people don't like it, but I think it is great for detoxing. Like for a 10 day thing. My withdrawal was non-existent and no cravings, but it costs kind of a lot of money.
What do you mean worse when she gets out? I don't like the twelve steps either, but for other reasons. God is a sticky topic for some people. I agree that it is her choice and not God's. We all have free will. Personally I believe in God but a lot of people don't.
Actually I think this helps me. I know I am not alone. I think the situation with my boyfriend is probably very different than your relationship. He is a lot older than me and there are other issues. But...if he would be there for me I think it would be sooo much easier. Actually, he could help my self-esteem or so I think. If he made me feel loved and wanted. I guess just showing your love. But it seems like you already do that. I don't think there are any magic words that will change her self-image. I am trying to think, but that's a tough one cause I don't know much about her.
What do you mean worse when she gets out? I don't like the twelve steps either, but for other reasons. God is a sticky topic for some people. I agree that it is her choice and not God's. We all have free will. Personally I believe in God but a lot of people don't.
Actually I think this helps me. I know I am not alone. I think the situation with my boyfriend is probably very different than your relationship. He is a lot older than me and there are other issues. But...if he would be there for me I think it would be sooo much easier. Actually, he could help my self-esteem or so I think. If he made me feel loved and wanted. I guess just showing your love. But it seems like you already do that. I don't think there are any magic words that will change her self-image. I am trying to think, but that's a tough one cause I don't know much about her.
Where can I get suboxone? Is it safe for her to detox at home?
I'm hoping that if I keep telling her what a great person she is, it will help. She's beautiful, is smarter than me, she makes me smile and she makes me laugh. I'd like to show her this sight. Maybe some of the stories of the people here might help.
I'm hoping that if I keep telling her what a great person she is, it will help. She's beautiful, is smarter than me, she makes me smile and she makes me laugh. I'd like to show her this sight. Maybe some of the stories of the people here might help.
You should definately show her this site. She can talk to some people or read some of the posts. Keep tellling her all of those things, I think she probably needs to hear them. You are doing great, continue to try and help her.
I will post a link of where you can get a suboxone doctor in your area. It is worth looking into. Yes, it is safe. Type in buprenorphrine in an internet search and check it out.
I can't type anymore cause my b/f said my typing is too loud. Whatever. I wish i could be of more help to you tonight. I should be here tomorrow if you or her need anything. Take care and God Bless. Goodnight.Suboxone doctor in your area
I will post a link of where you can get a suboxone doctor in your area. It is worth looking into. Yes, it is safe. Type in buprenorphrine in an internet search and check it out.
I can't type anymore cause my b/f said my typing is too loud. Whatever. I wish i could be of more help to you tonight. I should be here tomorrow if you or her need anything. Take care and God Bless. Goodnight.Suboxone doctor in your area
Thanks for all your help Stormy. Hang tough, you'll make it.
