i am 18 and my mom is addicted to all kinds of pain pills/muscle relaxers but she wont admit it, therefore she wont get help. i am about to move away to college and i dont want to leave my dad with her like that. how do i get her to get help? any suggestions, shes been like this for 5 years.
It is hard to accept that we are addicts, but try againd every moment until she understand, tell you father, your family that she need help, once she start to be seen that everyone knows that she has a problem,she will understand.
Sometimes we are so ignorants that we really forgot that we have a problem, but this is the first step once she accept that she is addic to pain killers, she will heal fast.
I love to heard from you that you want to help your mother,try evry day, do not yell on her, just make r know that she really need help: tell her that you all are worry, that she has to do that for you for your family, but mainly for herself,when you end saying that to her get her a big and tight hug,it will make her think, you will see, try,try and try to tell her that you love her that you want to help her with all you heart,once she accept that she has a problem, everything will be changing, ask god to give you a patient , because that what we all need been an addict,
God bless you, also ask here every day every one will help you to help your mother, you canm help her, I am pretty sure, and if my advice doesn't work continoue asking here in this forum you will find the answer.
Sometimes we are so ignorants that we really forgot that we have a problem, but this is the first step once she accept that she is addic to pain killers, she will heal fast.
I love to heard from you that you want to help your mother,try evry day, do not yell on her, just make r know that she really need help: tell her that you all are worry, that she has to do that for you for your family, but mainly for herself,when you end saying that to her get her a big and tight hug,it will make her think, you will see, try,try and try to tell her that you love her that you want to help her with all you heart,once she accept that she has a problem, everything will be changing, ask god to give you a patient , because that what we all need been an addict,
God bless you, also ask here every day every one will help you to help your mother, you canm help her, I am pretty sure, and if my advice doesn't work continoue asking here in this forum you will find the answer.
aly,
If you have read many of my posts on here it wont take long to figure out that I am a strong proponent of not enabling addicts. That being said in order to offer my 2cents I need to know what your mother is doing to better help you... but in the alterative to having that information I would simply say this... I would get your father alone and tell him your suspicions unless you think that he has any tendencies toward violence then forget that... if not then tell him and tell him your feelings... how this makes you feel... you have a responsiblility to heal yourself of this burden and a duty to lift it before you leave for college to start your life... this is your moms problem albeit a family issue as well...
Let your parents handle it as a unit if possible....
Long and Short... as a former active addict .. we dont usually get help until we are ready... sometimes we are more ready than we think and we just need a little push and you and your dad can be that little push but a push tooo hard can be counter productive and create more covert behavior on her part to hide her use.. ( believe it or not we can be unbelieveably sneaky when we know our gig is about to be up) or if done in a loving and supportive way can be just what she needs to help her find her way to recovery.... Second.. I would suggest that you both get educated before you confront your mom... This is a disease not a moral defect or a matter or will power... it should be treated as a disease .. matter of factly... and calmly not as a "your a bad girl how could you let this happen" kind of thing... deal with your feeling about this first before confronting your mom... it is only normal for you and your dad to have feeling like anger and confusion about this but putting those off on her right now will only have a negative effect...
Hope this helps... and lastly.. if she is resistant... then ok... but do not enable her in her use... dont help her lie to her family ... or her doctors... dont lone her your car or money...ect... let her do her own dirty work... if she is sick or acting funny dont make up exuses... this is enabling... and dont do it.. she will seek help much faster she is not 'helped' in her use...
just my thoughts.. hope this helps....
teresa...
If you have read many of my posts on here it wont take long to figure out that I am a strong proponent of not enabling addicts. That being said in order to offer my 2cents I need to know what your mother is doing to better help you... but in the alterative to having that information I would simply say this... I would get your father alone and tell him your suspicions unless you think that he has any tendencies toward violence then forget that... if not then tell him and tell him your feelings... how this makes you feel... you have a responsiblility to heal yourself of this burden and a duty to lift it before you leave for college to start your life... this is your moms problem albeit a family issue as well...
Let your parents handle it as a unit if possible....
Long and Short... as a former active addict .. we dont usually get help until we are ready... sometimes we are more ready than we think and we just need a little push and you and your dad can be that little push but a push tooo hard can be counter productive and create more covert behavior on her part to hide her use.. ( believe it or not we can be unbelieveably sneaky when we know our gig is about to be up) or if done in a loving and supportive way can be just what she needs to help her find her way to recovery.... Second.. I would suggest that you both get educated before you confront your mom... This is a disease not a moral defect or a matter or will power... it should be treated as a disease .. matter of factly... and calmly not as a "your a bad girl how could you let this happen" kind of thing... deal with your feeling about this first before confronting your mom... it is only normal for you and your dad to have feeling like anger and confusion about this but putting those off on her right now will only have a negative effect...
Hope this helps... and lastly.. if she is resistant... then ok... but do not enable her in her use... dont help her lie to her family ... or her doctors... dont lone her your car or money...ect... let her do her own dirty work... if she is sick or acting funny dont make up exuses... this is enabling... and dont do it.. she will seek help much faster she is not 'helped' in her use...
just my thoughts.. hope this helps....
teresa...
