Hello room! While I appreciate the values of this site, I am feeling more and more that the folks here see themselves as "victims"! YOUR CHOICE! AND YO MADE IT! I AM a victim, YES I AM! ..through NO choice of my own! ..namely a 60 yr old widow on a pension , trying to support her 38! yr old graduate son with his heroin problem! I now wish I had left him in London! I LOVE him to bits but this addiction is killing me! I am now on anti depressants..but KNOW that is NOT the solution..I NEED HIM OUT! I have tried SO hard for these last 2 years..and NO results! I DO understand the problem...if I had to give up my fags tomorrow!...but my point is..this is MY choice..not being thrust on by a third party making money out of a family's grief!
YOU GUYS and GALS out there CAN make a difference! BLOW? their cover and have the strength to say " NO MORE"! When I nursed my husband through colorectal cancer till his death, I had NO idea that people would use this drug for anything other than excruciating pain relief! Your actions are totally selfish even though I know you can't help it! God Give Me Strength to Get To the Other Side of this!
bette,
you made yourself the victim!! it was your choice to let your son drag you down. yes we chose our addiction, and you chose to enable your son. so please don't come here to critisize us. i know i have tried to give you some support in your past postings, but it is your choice to let him take advantage of you.
good luck
raerae
you made yourself the victim!! it was your choice to let your son drag you down. yes we chose our addiction, and you chose to enable your son. so please don't come here to critisize us. i know i have tried to give you some support in your past postings, but it is your choice to let him take advantage of you.
good luck
raerae
bette - its not your sons fault he brought you down, its your own! You are just as weak as us addicts are when it comes to drugs, your just weaker in your own way. Your son is 38 years old and your still supporting him????? It'll never change as long as you keep picking him up. He needs to hit his bottom himself and find a way to pick himself right up. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. I can tell by your posting that you always need to be in control and this is the one thing you can't have your way. HE'S 38.....GET OVER IT. STOP BLAMING HIM, HE'S AN ADULT, HE HASN"T BEEN A CHILD FOR A VERY LONG TIME.......ITS YOUR FAULT YOUR STILL DOING THIS!!!!!!!
YOU ARE ADDICTED TO KEEPING YOUR SON ADDICTED BY PROVIDING HIM COMFORT IN YOUR HOME AND LIFE TO USE YOU TO CONTINUE HIS DRUG HABIT AT YOUR EXPENSE<>>>>>THIS IS NOW YOUR ADDICTION<>>>>KICK HIM OUT AND QUIT HIM LIKE YOU WISH HED QUIT HIS DRUG>THEN AND ONLY THEN WILL YOU BEGIN TO GET RID OF YOUR ADDICTION<>HIM!!!!! AND WHAT HES DOING TO YOU!!!!!!
So we think we're victims huh? Who came here looking for pity - that would be you.
I haven't met any victims here, just some nice kind people with wise words to say about addiction and the struggle.
If you allow you son to take advantage he will so who's the fool? At 38 he should be on his own two feet and if he isn't you might want to look at why - lemme guess - you've molly-coddled him his whole life and he's useless without you. I know women who do this to their children and it's sad but even sadder when he's practically middle aged and still hanging on to your apron strings.
Sort it out and don't throw your generalisations around here, we're here to offer an ear/support/friednship if you want it bu we won't listen when we get abuse.
L
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I haven't met any victims here, just some nice kind people with wise words to say about addiction and the struggle.
If you allow you son to take advantage he will so who's the fool? At 38 he should be on his own two feet and if he isn't you might want to look at why - lemme guess - you've molly-coddled him his whole life and he's useless without you. I know women who do this to their children and it's sad but even sadder when he's practically middle aged and still hanging on to your apron strings.
Sort it out and don't throw your generalisations around here, we're here to offer an ear/support/friednship if you want it bu we won't listen when we get abuse.
L
x
Bette
I feel you are very justified in saying you are a victim as you did not choose for your som to be an addict, but neither did he. He chose to take drugs then chemical changes in the brain occured and made him an addict You choosing to have him in your house is your choice too, but he's your son, of course you want him close yo you. Will the pain his addiction causes you lessen worry and grief if he was living on the streets? No simple answer as ther is never any, but I sympathise with you. Start prioritzing your own life above his, might help a wee bit
Peace from the other side
C
I feel you are very justified in saying you are a victim as you did not choose for your som to be an addict, but neither did he. He chose to take drugs then chemical changes in the brain occured and made him an addict You choosing to have him in your house is your choice too, but he's your son, of course you want him close yo you. Will the pain his addiction causes you lessen worry and grief if he was living on the streets? No simple answer as ther is never any, but I sympathise with you. Start prioritzing your own life above his, might help a wee bit
Peace from the other side
C