I'm a Mother who has a 41 year old heroin addict. At this time he turned himself in for warrants that he had on 4 theft charges. Last week he was in a wonderful re-hab program but jumped out of that to go use. He steals from us, all my jewelry has been gone and laptops to x-boxes.. Three years ago he got mersa from shooting with a dirty needle and was hospitalized for 10 days.
That did not stop him from using. Sunday is his release date to get out of jail and he said pick me up at 6am. Where do I go with him? I need to drop the leash and it hurts. I wish he would just stay in jail. I sleep cause I know he is safe and so am I.
I am not a mother...but a wife and i am very very close with my husband's mother..He is a heroin addict. I know exactly what you mean when you say you can sleep when he is locked away because you're not worried..i understand that feeling all too well...so does his mother..I suggest maybe looking into an implant...They can be somewhat pricey but there are community programs that offer help paying for it. This has helped SO many addicts get their life back. My husband has gotten sick from using intravenously, he has been to prison and has borderline overdosed and none of that stopped him. Finally we went to a clinic that gave him suboxone and tapered him off of it. Then we got the implant to help with cravings and it actually will get them physically sick if they get high...I'm sorry that you're going through this..but it can change..I wish him and your family the best. Addiction ruins everyone's life..
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Hi,
I am a 51 year old daughter who is addicted to opiates. My mother is also an addict, but she is 81 now and it's kind of pointless to ask her to withdraw at this point. But I wanted to talk to you.
I used to hate my siblings for deserting me. They just left me hanging, so I thought. But the truth is that they could no longer watch me kill myself. It was just too painful for them to keep on loving me, knowing I could die at any moment. So, I lost my family. But I must tell you, that my family let me go, I started getting better. No longer was I arguing with them about my addiction. When they went away, I only had myself to argue with.... and I lost. But it changed my thinking and I am recovering. I do have relapses, I do make mistakes. But everyday I'm getting better. I could not have gotten ANY better if my family had not let me go. They are all living happy and content lives now. They are just now starting to let me back into their lives due to our mother's illness. I'm walking a fine line. If I screw up at all, they'll be gone again. And I love them. But, I love them enough (and your addict loves you too) to let them walk away from me. This is my problem and I don't want them to suffer because of me. I think this is a thought that all addicts come to when we get honest with ourselves. We realize that the people who love us just can not watch us commit suicide. And we don't want them to.
I don't know if anything I've written helps you. I'm in another world tonight myself. Not from being high, but from being straight. I just want you to know that addicts can and do love. They just do it differently than others, in my opinion.
I will pray for you and yours. Just stay in touch with this forum. In one day, I've found more love here than I have in many years of hanging with my "friends". Peace.
I am a 51 year old daughter who is addicted to opiates. My mother is also an addict, but she is 81 now and it's kind of pointless to ask her to withdraw at this point. But I wanted to talk to you.
I used to hate my siblings for deserting me. They just left me hanging, so I thought. But the truth is that they could no longer watch me kill myself. It was just too painful for them to keep on loving me, knowing I could die at any moment. So, I lost my family. But I must tell you, that my family let me go, I started getting better. No longer was I arguing with them about my addiction. When they went away, I only had myself to argue with.... and I lost. But it changed my thinking and I am recovering. I do have relapses, I do make mistakes. But everyday I'm getting better. I could not have gotten ANY better if my family had not let me go. They are all living happy and content lives now. They are just now starting to let me back into their lives due to our mother's illness. I'm walking a fine line. If I screw up at all, they'll be gone again. And I love them. But, I love them enough (and your addict loves you too) to let them walk away from me. This is my problem and I don't want them to suffer because of me. I think this is a thought that all addicts come to when we get honest with ourselves. We realize that the people who love us just can not watch us commit suicide. And we don't want them to.
I don't know if anything I've written helps you. I'm in another world tonight myself. Not from being high, but from being straight. I just want you to know that addicts can and do love. They just do it differently than others, in my opinion.
I will pray for you and yours. Just stay in touch with this forum. In one day, I've found more love here than I have in many years of hanging with my "friends". Peace.
