I am writing here as I feel as if I'm losing my mind. Last year I was seeing a guy for four or five months. I feel there was a real connection there, we liked each other a lot etc., but he was chaotic and early on I wondered if he was using opiates. I asked him outright and he said no and seemed offended. I did also wonder if he was seeing someone else but the weird behaviour didn't seem to fit that pattern. The relationship eventually fell apart but he is back in touch and wants to see me. I really don't want to get involved again if he is using because I would be too terrified something might happen to him, but maybe I am being paranoid. The symptoms and signals that made me think he was using were:
- Small pupils, didn't react much to changes in light
- Excessive sleeping (he'd come over and fall asleep on the sofa and be impossible to wake up for 16 hours or more)
- When asleep he would be out of it, drooling everywhere
- Often would fall asleep on sofa or fully clothed (or both) and be unable to be woken up to take off clothes etc.
- Teeth in very poor condition
- Occasionally would come over and look utterly blank, staring at TV with a weird non-emotional expression
- Didn't want me to meet most of his friends (I only met two of them), or meet mine. Very shady about me knowing who he associated with
- Sniffing
- Eating tons of sugar, fizzy drinks, coffee
- No needle marks on arms or legs but NEVER let me see his feet (wore socks)
- Interest in sex got less and less. When we did have sex he'd not last long
- Would agree to meet and then not turn up until hours and hours after agreed time, if at all
- Would disappear for hours in the middle of the evening with a bizarre excuse and then reappear later sweating or kind of wired
- Generally chaotic life - missing appointments to pick up his kids, visit other people etc.
- I once found strong opiate painkillers on him (codeine or something)< which when I asked he said were for his leg (he'd often claim to have certain injuries but I never saw them)
Kate...
if you think he's using...he probably is...could be any type of opiate...or not...if he's maybe nodding off in middle of sentences that would probably be heroin...
if you think he's using...he probably is...could be any type of opiate...or not...if he's maybe nodding off in middle of sentences that would probably be heroin...
