hi all, my fella is 24 hours into heroin withdrawal and obviously in a bad way. He is begging me to let him have 1 of the bags that he gave to me when he made the decision to go cold turkey. He says 'just to take the edge off'. cant bear to see him suffering but feel like it makes last 24 hours pointless. Any advice? He started using again a year ago after being clean for best part of 15 years iv use. So far this time he's only been smoking it.
Cold rattle most certainly hurts and is very much a nightmare detox....he knows this...he also knows that a bag isn't gonna help in the long run and will just prolong it...pain killers...asprin ...anything you got on hand will help a little...hot baths...bucket and blanket...not a lot you can do when your in the hard part...drink water ...
but your ..sleepless...hurting...sweating...shaking...and generally out of it...good news is...it's a few days and he'll feel a bit better...not great...but not like now...watching it is almost as bad as living it I'm told..don't let it scare you...let him detox... he knows how...detach but good your there in case things get hairy...if he begins thrashing and needs a tie down..hallucinations. ..etc...maybe get help..or get him to a hospital. ..it's not fatal...but it can get pretty bad depending on length and depth of habit...for most part though.....just make sure he' drinks some water...has a bucket...maybe something for pain..and a bit of encouragement. ...good luck...wish him safe detox...
but your ..sleepless...hurting...sweating...shaking...and generally out of it...good news is...it's a few days and he'll feel a bit better...not great...but not like now...watching it is almost as bad as living it I'm told..don't let it scare you...let him detox... he knows how...detach but good your there in case things get hairy...if he begins thrashing and needs a tie down..hallucinations. ..etc...maybe get help..or get him to a hospital. ..it's not fatal...but it can get pretty bad depending on length and depth of habit...for most part though.....just make sure he' drinks some water...has a bucket...maybe something for pain..and a bit of encouragement. ...good luck...wish him safe detox...
thank you that's what i needed to hear. He says very little about it generally, at he says nothing at all, except 'yes' when he means 'no' and vice versa and suddenly shouting out things I can't understand. He is saying he can't do it like this, wants me to get him a bag, but like you say, it's only prolonging it if he serious about getting clean. I've told him he's got to 'pull it out the bag' one more time, and never have to feel like this again. Your words are encouraging and supportive, as I have not spoken to anyone about his addiction at all, unless I post on this forum.
tell him bag of heroin is been flushed down the toilet so he cant count on it. If he really wants to use he an always go out and sore but for now and I hope in future he wants to get clean so for me would be better if i know I dont have any drugs in house .. it will keep playing on his mind and considering he is in much pain he will keep asking for it until you give in . Its very hard to watch loved one in pain.
Good luck to both of you and let us know if we an help in anyway
Bonnie
Good luck to both of you and let us know if we an help in anyway
Bonnie
Good advice..if I've got dope...and I know I've got dope...im gonna think about it...and then use it when I start hurting bad...get rid of it....better to know I've got nothing...
Agreed....thats the ONLY thing he will focus on.
To the OP: I know first hand how badly you hurt when you're detoxing cold turkey, as I'm in the midst of a seven year battle with opiates: first perc 30s and now heroin (I've never touched a needle in my life but have been snorting it since the beginning) ... I can honestly say that, like it or not, a big part of it is mental (but don't get me wrong, there are DEFINITELY a ton of physical symptoms) ... So if he knows you have a bag, he's actually gonna end up feeling way worse ... If you tell him you got rid of it, just be prepared that he's probably gonna lose his mind for a bit but he'll eventually calm down once it sets in and he realizes that there's nothing to help him and he just has to deal with it ... All the times I've been sick like that, I know that money will eventually come my way at some point that day (because of my situation//circumstances) so I end up thinking about it all day long and will even go so far as to refusing the suboxone I have just because I wanna get high and know I'll be able to at some point in time (if you're not familiar with suboxone, it's a drug that was literally invented to ease the symptoms and cravings of opiate withdrawal) ... So instead of feeling better (not high because it's very difficult to get high from suboxone), I'll put myself through that unreal pain ALL DAY until I get my next fix ... My point is that if I (or he, in this case) knows it's there, then that's all he's gonna think about, in turn making things 1000x worse ... If you tell him you got rid of it, like I said, he's probably gonna SERIOUSLY lash out for a little while but once he calms down, he'll end up feeling better sooner because he won't be constantly thinking about the fact that there's a substance in the house that could make him feel much better in the blink of an eye ... I seriously hope this helps ... Withdrawal is the absolute *WORST* thing I've ever had to go through in my entire life so I definitely know how f***ed up + f***ing horrendous it is ... When you're in that situation, every single solitary second feels like an hour ... Saying prayers and sending a ton of positive thoughts + vibes your way for a quick//speedy and relatively painless recovery, although I know how hopeless that can seem ... Two of the most important things for me when I'm going through that is 1. to try to keep your mind off of it AT ALL COST -- I find that doing things like watching YouTube videos, listening to music, reading, watching movies//television, etc. helps ten-fold pass the time, and 2. always remember that whether you're using or not, time will still go on -- the sun will still rise and set, so you might as well go through it clean because every second that passes you by is a second closer to you feeling like your old self again + a second closer to a happy, painless life ... I really really REALLY hope I was able to help, even a little bit ... Please let us know if there's anything else at all we can help you with!! Much love xx
No...won't say it....no no no....Jen...can I please bang my head against the wall ? Please ? ....sigh...
Squeezy how is your fella doing? Did he menage to go trough without using?
Lost ya Con....?
Lol...no big Jen...had me 3 weeks of serious sick...was a bit on edge...going couch crazy...ugh....getting better now...:)
LOL sometimes stating obvious can result in self inflicted head trauma :) ... but no worries plenty of painkillers will sort any lingering headache , auch ... I wanted to do something similar after reading post from girl who wanted us to read her books...
B...you made me laugh right out loud this morning...!!! Still laughing. ...
No s***!!
