Heroin

Families / Partners of Addicts
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Hi,
I live in Britain,I am at my wits end,my son who is thirtysix is a Heroin addict,
He started taking drugs when he was thirteen,I have been battling ever since,he has stolen cars,carried weapons been done for speeding.It has really got bad in the last few years.He has stolen from me,has had cars reposed.Me and his dad have always helped him,me being a fool always ended up giving him money.We have had our windows smashed in our house through drug dealers wanting their money.In the last few months I have borrowed of a friend to pay drug dealers off,then a few weeks later I had to get more money to pay drug dealers.\he has tried several times to come off the drugs but always ends up going back on them.He cannot even get clean for his son.In December he was admitted into hospital with his body riddled with bacteria from using dirty needles,had an abcess on his lung and thrombosis in his leg,he was in hospital for two months he nearly died.Lucky he survived, he did so well in hospital came out and a couple of weeks later he is back on it.I have handed out money left right and center,my son is not a bad person but this is out of hand.We have run out of money it breaks my heart I just cry all the time while trying to keep down a job.Last Saturday he started withdrawing asking for money we finally said no he went to a friends house and has been there eversince.I took food up for him gave him a bit of money as his sick benefit was not paid so he has not got a penny.Gave him money yesterday.Today at first light he rings and rings begging for money.We said no but I am very tempted because I know he is suffering I cannot bear it,but I know if I give him money he will buy heroin,but he also needs money to live on.His dad and I are besides ourselves,we do not want him home as we cannot deal with it anymore,I am heartbroken,it has caused no end of trouble between my husband and myself.I just want some help
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Just been to see my son again today,he is in agony with his leg,I think it is his thrombosis,he said he has had the doctor out and that she is sending him back to the original hospital he was treated in tomorrow,when I finished work I went to see him,goes in his room it is absolutely disgusting,he swore on his sons life he was not using but looking at the state of him I know this not to be true and the guy he is staying with says he is still using but not as much.Stupid me gave him some money because he has to pay his way at this guys house,but guess what it will go on drugs, I am so angry that he has conned me again,I have been crying for months,my husband and I are heartbroken.I am going to doctors tomorrow because I feel I just cannot cope.How do I deal with my son,please give me some advice
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Nar-Anon is a 12 Step program for family & friends of addicts.

It is quite popular in North America and works very well along with Al-Anon.

I strongly suggest you contact the UK groups, I'm sure they will help you.

http://www.nar-anon.co.uk/

All the best from Canada.

Bob R
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well it's me again, had frantic phone calls of my son again this morning saying the drug dealers found out where he was staying smashed to door in and got hold of him round the neck,said he owed 100.He said that he gave them50 that I gave him yesterday and that they were coming back in next hour for the other 50,My husband went beserk said it was all a con.I said I would pay the 50 but only directly to drug dealer.Went down, surprise surprise the door was not kicked in but there was a really nasty man waiting in living room, I asked how much he owed he said 50 so I gave it him, read my son the riot act but I think he is beyond caring.As I was leaving his mate came back said this guy was not a drug dealer and I also found out my son is on crack as well as heroin.I don't think he will last much longer he just lyes there all day.Do you think he has had me over I think so.Off to the doctors this afternoon as I cannot cope anymore