DESPERATE need to help get my soulmate clean. We fought the demon once before,( because of court) and don't think he wanted to totally stop. We WERE/ ARE bestfriends, and WERE married for 10 yrs. I left him because his problem has financially/emotionally/mentally hurt us and his family. Also because the typical addicts behaviors. He is jobless again, and we have kept in touch here and there, and hes asking HOW can he quit, and he WANTS to stop, but all the programs COST MONEY, and I personally can't help him with that. I myself am struggling with finances, but my stupid heart ALWAYS wants to help someone that asks me for it. (its a weakness I AM WORKING ON). I REALLY want to FIND something HE can get, and let him know WHAT I FOUND OUT, and HE NEEDS TO SEEK AFTER IT! I don't want to take him by the hand, so to speak, but atleast I can FIND him some info for him. Hes wanting the help, but don't have the finances. Hes been MORE honest with me about somethings,( and I'm too sad/afraid to ask for more, because I DON'T want to know) then he had been in the past. Hes helped me with what I call GIRLY issues, like my car needs fixin, or something is leakin, and I KNOW hes a GREAT MAN, hes just CAUGHT UP IN THE CRAP! We always help eachother out, even till this day, our love is THERE. but the love for the CRAP is greater. Hes admitted this to me too. Sooooo, with that being said, so I don't keep rambling on....can SOMEONE PLEASE GIVE ME SOME INFO ON HOW HE CAN GET FREE HELP? I'm outta ideas, and with him not having access to internet and what have you, atleast when I DO see him, I can tell him. THANKS SOOOOOO MUCH FOR THIS WEBPAGE!! YOU GUYS ARE AWESOME!! For the Addicts that recovered, my heart cries for you a HUGE HAPPINESS CRY, to know that you FINALLY FOUND PEACE, DON'T EVER LOOK BACK!! KEEP FOCUSED ON THE FUTURE!! WE (sober, loving, caring, spouses/partners), will NEVER give up on you...UNLESS YOU DO!! God bless all!
When he wants help, he'll show up here or somewhere else to find it for himself...I think you already know that...the more you do for him, the less he will do for himself. You are way too far in...why are you finding it so difficult to get out for good?
Peace ~ MomNMore
Peace ~ MomNMore
Being that he is an addict, and hes not always using his "common sense" as we know they don't, (otherwise they wouldn't be in the situation), he is jobless, and we live in a climate right now its in the triple digits, and its hard to walk to places (he has to walk, which is his own doing because he did have transportation), so its not easy to go from one end of town to the other to get to the library for him to have a little time for the computer, and yet try to find work and walk there too. My intentions to do what God would want me to, be helpful. Because God didn't give up on any of us, I'm only trying to GIVE him INFO to let him know whats out there. I'm doing a bit of footwork yes, for him, but I can't make the horse drink. I only know I am doing all I can as an ex-spouse/(bestfriend), and whats in my heart. If he chooses to NOT LISTEN to what I have to offer with the advice I can get for him, and go about his evil ways, GOD will deal with him. We ALL are in someones life for a reason, whether its good or bad, it is a reason, and only God knows why. I have a daughter (who has children, and THAT makes it easier that shes a mother that can FIND programs that will help her because of her children). She also HAD a drug issue, and GOD sought her through! With my love, and not giving up on her, and family, she DID get thru it. I DON'T give up that easy!! I want useful advice, not to be criticized for me standing up for what I WANT to do to TRY to be helpful to those in NEED of help. If I can get some RESOURCES here, for FREE DRUG PROGRAMS, it would be very much appreciated! Thank you in advance!
Why do you take my questions as criticism? As one with experience 'helping' and 'fixing' problems for my drug adicted daughter (currently in recovery because I stopped 'helping') I can tell you that you are showing all the signs of intense co-dependency which keeps both you and him sick. Like I said, when he's sick and tired of being sick and tired he'll find the help he needs. AA and NA are free, and if it's 'too hot' to walk it can assumed it's too hot to walk to find drugs. Making excuses for him when he has told you he wants to keep using isn't going to change a thing. To find free help you'd be better off Googling your area and drug addiction resources.
Peace ~ MomNMore
Peace ~ MomNMore
