Hhhhhhhhhhheeeeeeeeeeeelllllllllpp!

Despite two postings..there has been NO ONE out there to help or advise me1 Is this a US site..cause there has been little response from Scotland1 I am at my wit's end folks! trying to help my son! I am now on anti depressants..but that aint gonna solve the problem..which is HIM!!! I feel like a prisoner trapped in my own home! Aged 60 now! I DO NOT NEED this s*** in my life! Sometimes I DON'T want to wake up because the problems will disappear for me and he'll be left with my hard working legacy to blow? on smack! His dad is an arse and can't help us..but why am I the fall guy? Someone please answer!
Someone please answer!
betty i am an addict named kelley from memphis tennessee a recovering heroin addict ask any questions you like and ill try to help
Apologies for my outburst! But I DID lose the plot MAJOR LEAGUE on Saturday night! In fact I felt sure i was on the edge of a nervous breakdown! ( NOT being a drama queen) He borrowed? 20 to go to Edinburgh today to find out about a job and accommodation, then came back and asked to borrow 20 to go to the pub to get the 30 he lent to folks to pay me back! These are "MIND GAMES" !! So what DO I DO FOLKS? Even though I'm from Scotland, surely someone can help this 60 year old widow cope with this problem?
DONT MAKE SIXTY SOUND OLD MY DEAR AND SINCE MY NAME IS KELLEY YOU MIGHT THINK WE HAVE SOME ANCESTRY IN COMMON HOWEVER LETS ADDRESS YOUR PROBLEM YOU DO NEED HELP BUT I DONT LIKE TO AIR SUCH LAUNDRY ON THIS SITE YOU CAN EMAIL ME AT kell188@yahoo.com II CAN ONLY OFFER YOU MY EXPERIENCE STRENGTH AND HOPE KELLEY
Hello Kell,
PLEASE JUST GIVE ME ANY HELP AND ADVICE!
email me sweetie and we can talk
bette,
does he want to get clean? or are you the one that wants him clean? the big key is if he wants it!! no matter how and what you do it won't do much unless he wants to be clean. you need to stop giving him money. have you looked into methodone or subutex? you said he is 38 right? well at this point i think its really up to him. he is a grown man and you need to let him go. live for yourself.
good luck
raerae
i whole heartedly agree
i know he is your son but he is also a grown man
he needs to grow up, be a man, and take responsibility for his actions
dont help him unless its helping him sign his name to check him into a rehab
otherwise you are wasting your life and not helping him
lettin him borrow money while he is using goes no where but up his nose or in his veins
any "help" you give an addict that is still using is actually just helping him stay in the drug
i am praying with you
~Adam A
Thanks SO much Kell188, Raerare and Adam! for your support tonight! I realise I AM the one looking for support and help! But at least, while we wait for "help!" you atre keeping me sane! Slept all day, out tonight with the 10 I leny him!! Supposed to get it back later! I'll believe THAT! What DO I DO? He's my first
born..do I just let him rot in his own personal hell?
I AM TRAPPED! Plea
se help me out of this nightmare!
Bette,
i know it is really hard but it might be time to turn your back. he isn't just going to get better. its a long hard road and he has to chose to do it on his own . trust me {well thats sorta funny asking you to trust me an addict} but any ways, you really need to let him know you are done, no more giving money, no more putting a roof over his head. he needs to support himself. you need to stand up and let things be known, its the only way they will change. not sitting there watching and waiting. things will only get worse before they get better. if it takes hitting rock bottom for him maybe he will want to get help. oce he makes an effort to get things straighten out then you could step in to help. still no money!!
good luck, post if you need to
raerae
hey

i have used this analogy before on this board but i think this applies
he is banging his head against a wall
you are putting a pillow on the wall
he wont stop banging his head against that wall until you take away that pillow and he sees and feels what kind of damage he is really doing to himself
he wont feel the pain he wont feel and see the hurt he is causing to himself and to everyone around him until he has to deal with himself
you have to let him go and be at peace with yourself and with God.
Give him to God.
you cannot do anything else
much love and respect
~Adam A