Jayde, Zac, Idgie, Ginge, VW Girl, Tremor, Ciaobella, Love Dove, Izzy and to whomever else I missed!
Just wanted to say hello to everyone. I have been a little more quiet lately....just mostly reading. Just wanted to thank you all again for giving me such a wonderful, safe, nonjudgmental place to vent.
Hubby and I have been going through a little adjustment period too. I told him finally that I can't have any alcohol in the house! None!!! I have been dealing with alcohol around for the last 9 months but I have found myself really thinking about picking up lately. I think that maybe he forgot how hard it still is because I just haven't picked up again. I explained to him that it is still just as hard as it was the day that I quit and him having booze around was like sending a crack head to a crack house and saying don't smoke any. I never did crack but I did Meth...same analogy though. You get the point. He was really receptive and said, just as I thought, that he didn't realize how hard it was for me still. I don't know if that craving will ever go away. I do enjoy watching drunk people now. It's like a reality show. I was completely obnoxious when I was drunk so it is good to see those people to remember how I used to be. Well, enough rambling....just wanted to check in! Hope everyone is well. I really do appreciate you all!
Peace and Sobriety to my new Friends,
Valarie
Good Afternoon Val,
Glad to hear you're still not drinking. Didn't you say it had been 9 months?
That's terrific. Can't wait until I'm there too. But One Day At A Time.
Today is day 10 for me. Doing pretty good but not great. Still hanging in there.
Cravings are getting better but there are times occasionally ( had one yesterday) where they are as bad as day 1. So, I can see exactly where you're coming from on that. I had really thought that by day 10 and certainly by the 9 month mark that that would end. I guess it never will for me either. Glad to hear your hubby is receptive and understanding to your position on things. That helps alot I'm sure. Thanks for all of your support and encouragement in my past 10 days. It is so nice to know that there are so many in my shoes that understand and have been there.
It's 105 degree heat index here in Alabama today. The actual temp is 100 right now. It's even too hot to swim when I get home. :Yesterday when I got home the water temp was 89 degrees. Not too refreshing. Gotta go climb into that hot car and make it home before I cook my inards (haha, I said that for all of the Northerners out there... No we're not THAT red) . No wonder I am into Ice Tea these days! Can't wait to get home and have a swig or twelve. LOL.
Thanks for all you do Val. You are a true inspiration. Keep on Keeping on!
Your friend,
Tremor
Glad to hear you're still not drinking. Didn't you say it had been 9 months?
That's terrific. Can't wait until I'm there too. But One Day At A Time.
Today is day 10 for me. Doing pretty good but not great. Still hanging in there.
Cravings are getting better but there are times occasionally ( had one yesterday) where they are as bad as day 1. So, I can see exactly where you're coming from on that. I had really thought that by day 10 and certainly by the 9 month mark that that would end. I guess it never will for me either. Glad to hear your hubby is receptive and understanding to your position on things. That helps alot I'm sure. Thanks for all of your support and encouragement in my past 10 days. It is so nice to know that there are so many in my shoes that understand and have been there.
It's 105 degree heat index here in Alabama today. The actual temp is 100 right now. It's even too hot to swim when I get home. :Yesterday when I got home the water temp was 89 degrees. Not too refreshing. Gotta go climb into that hot car and make it home before I cook my inards (haha, I said that for all of the Northerners out there... No we're not THAT red) . No wonder I am into Ice Tea these days! Can't wait to get home and have a swig or twelve. LOL.
Thanks for all you do Val. You are a true inspiration. Keep on Keeping on!
Your friend,
Tremor
Hi Valarie
My name is Lionel just wanted to say hi and to congratulate you on your 9 months thats really an achievement.
The craving you are talking about doesnt happen until after we take that first drink its then you develop the physical craving but I believe we can have a very strong desire and thats only normal for a recovering alcoholic or heavy drinker.
You may want to drink but you dont need to because you havent for 9 months know. Do you have any other support Like AA or counselling?
Ive found for me not only is my disease progressive so is my recovery. So I have had to change my old ways and I was able to do that with the support of AA meetings and counselling. The person I was drank the person I was will drink again.
And like you when I see another drunk whether its at a party or on the streets I say.But for the grace of God there I go And believe me those desires or cravings as you call them do go.
Thankyou for your post I just love the honesty of people who post here.
And Tremor 10 days thats just great A day at a time anything is possile.
God bless Lionel
My name is Lionel just wanted to say hi and to congratulate you on your 9 months thats really an achievement.
The craving you are talking about doesnt happen until after we take that first drink its then you develop the physical craving but I believe we can have a very strong desire and thats only normal for a recovering alcoholic or heavy drinker.
You may want to drink but you dont need to because you havent for 9 months know. Do you have any other support Like AA or counselling?
Ive found for me not only is my disease progressive so is my recovery. So I have had to change my old ways and I was able to do that with the support of AA meetings and counselling. The person I was drank the person I was will drink again.
And like you when I see another drunk whether its at a party or on the streets I say.But for the grace of God there I go And believe me those desires or cravings as you call them do go.
Thankyou for your post I just love the honesty of people who post here.
And Tremor 10 days thats just great A day at a time anything is possile.
God bless Lionel
Hi Lionel,
Thank you for the nice post. No I don't have any real support group. I have found that this message board has become my greatest support. I don't go to AA. Been there done that and it wasn't for me. I think that perhaps I went to the wrong one and I just got frustrated and quit going. The ones that I went to were way to religious for me. I have been doing okay and I have changed all of my behaviors and friends etc. I am still that person but I just don't drink. I can finally have fun without the drink. Never thought that would happen! Thank you for your kind words. You are Swell!
Peace and Sobriety,
Your New Friend Valarie
Thank you for the nice post. No I don't have any real support group. I have found that this message board has become my greatest support. I don't go to AA. Been there done that and it wasn't for me. I think that perhaps I went to the wrong one and I just got frustrated and quit going. The ones that I went to were way to religious for me. I have been doing okay and I have changed all of my behaviors and friends etc. I am still that person but I just don't drink. I can finally have fun without the drink. Never thought that would happen! Thank you for your kind words. You are Swell!
Peace and Sobriety,
Your New Friend Valarie
Hi Val
glad your hubby is so supportive. sorry I haven't been posting much - i'm not feeling up to much at the moment, got really sick a couple of days after my crash. Slowly on the mend now.
ugghhh why would I voluntarily make myself as miserable as I've been these last 36 hours through illness by drinking? Something to think about.
take care Vally and don't pick up that first drink.
your friend
Idgie
glad your hubby is so supportive. sorry I haven't been posting much - i'm not feeling up to much at the moment, got really sick a couple of days after my crash. Slowly on the mend now.
ugghhh why would I voluntarily make myself as miserable as I've been these last 36 hours through illness by drinking? Something to think about.
take care Vally and don't pick up that first drink.
your friend
Idgie
Hi Valarie, good to hear from you, had been wondering where you'd gone. I'm so happy for you that you were able to talk to your husband and that he listened and understood. I'm glad for the people on this board too, and all the encouragement they (including you) offer. Hope you will keep posting! Tremor - I really admire you for sticking with it, and so happy you have made it to day 10 - please keep keeping us posted on how things go. Hopefully you will start feeling better soon. Lionel, great post there: "The person I was drank the person I was will drink again." It makes a lot of sense. And nice to meet you, by the way, hope to keep seeing you on the boards. Idgie, so happy to see you back, though sorry you've had a rough go & are feeling poorly... but hope you will be feeling tip-top soon. You are a strong, smart woman and I'm so glad to have "met" you on these boards. Feel better, stay strong, and stay in touch, OK?
Wishing a good sober night (or day to my friends in the southern hemisphere) to everyone...
Wishing a good sober night (or day to my friends in the southern hemisphere) to everyone...
Thank you all for responding. OMG Idgie......only one other person in this world calls me Vally....my Best Friend for 25 years now!!!! How cool is that???? I knew I liked you from the beginning! Sorry that you aren't feeling good. It sucks when we do it to ourselves. I can't count how many times I was sick with pancreatitus and prayed and swore I would never do it again only to feel better and pick up again. You will be okay. Just ride it out and start again. That's what being human is. Thanks for the nice words CB, Lionel and Tremor and Idgie. Sorry to ramble...trying to type fast and head out! Night night all...and to all a sober good-night!!!!
Your Friend,
Valarie
P.s. Did anyone catch the special on CNN -Anderson Cooper 360?? The Angelina Jolie special?? What an amazing woman!!! I am embarrased to say that I really have had my head in the sand about alot of what is going on in the world. Finally one of the Hollywood Elite putting their money where their mouth is!!!! LOL
Your Friend,
Valarie
P.s. Did anyone catch the special on CNN -Anderson Cooper 360?? The Angelina Jolie special?? What an amazing woman!!! I am embarrased to say that I really have had my head in the sand about alot of what is going on in the world. Finally one of the Hollywood Elite putting their money where their mouth is!!!! LOL
Oh I'm glad you weren't offended!! I almost edited it out. Cause sometimes people nicknamed me and I didn't like it - though ususally that was cause I didn't like the person LOL.
I just had a feeling in my bones that I would call you Vally though - isn't that weird?
Well hopefully I'll be all better tomorrow, I have to travel again tomorrow. My job has me out of the office a bit now, and although I didn't like the idea of it at first I'm kinda liking it now. I think its good for me to have a break in routine.
Give your H a big hug from all us girls Vally - he is a great guy to support you like that - of course he KNOWS you are worth it. I'm very happy for you!! He's probably happy too if you stopped picking fights with him. LOL
take care
Idgie
I just had a feeling in my bones that I would call you Vally though - isn't that weird?
Well hopefully I'll be all better tomorrow, I have to travel again tomorrow. My job has me out of the office a bit now, and although I didn't like the idea of it at first I'm kinda liking it now. I think its good for me to have a break in routine.
Give your H a big hug from all us girls Vally - he is a great guy to support you like that - of course he KNOWS you are worth it. I'm very happy for you!! He's probably happy too if you stopped picking fights with him. LOL
take care
Idgie
Idgie,
LOL. You are hilarious. It is soooo weird to me that you called me that. I loved it! It really made this board even better and feel like home! I keep forgetting that you are in a different hemisphere and you have a time change or I guess day change!! Duh.....! I hope you are feeling better. It just bites when you know you are sick from the drink and a drink would make you feel better too. Hang in there my friend.
I have been being alot nicer to my hubby. For a while now I have been irritated for no reason...well at least I thought no reason. Now that it's all out on the table I feel much better and now he has some sort of grasp on what I am going through. It's hard when other people don't know the struggle and have control over alcohol. I guess they wouldn't call it control huh? Once you have to control it.....Boom...ALCOHOLIC!!!! Balls!!!!!! LMAO! You have a good day Idgie and thanks for your posts. Even when you are going through a personal hell your words still inspire whether you know it or not. Thank you
Take Care
Your New Friend Vally LOLOL.
When my friend spells it she spells it Vallie......don't know why....it's phonetically incorrect but who cares and I like your spelling too.
Peace and Sobriety
Ciaobella.....you are just a swell friend too. Thank you for you words too!!!!!
LOL. You are hilarious. It is soooo weird to me that you called me that. I loved it! It really made this board even better and feel like home! I keep forgetting that you are in a different hemisphere and you have a time change or I guess day change!! Duh.....! I hope you are feeling better. It just bites when you know you are sick from the drink and a drink would make you feel better too. Hang in there my friend.
I have been being alot nicer to my hubby. For a while now I have been irritated for no reason...well at least I thought no reason. Now that it's all out on the table I feel much better and now he has some sort of grasp on what I am going through. It's hard when other people don't know the struggle and have control over alcohol. I guess they wouldn't call it control huh? Once you have to control it.....Boom...ALCOHOLIC!!!! Balls!!!!!! LMAO! You have a good day Idgie and thanks for your posts. Even when you are going through a personal hell your words still inspire whether you know it or not. Thank you
Take Care
Your New Friend Vally LOLOL.
When my friend spells it she spells it Vallie......don't know why....it's phonetically incorrect but who cares and I like your spelling too.
Peace and Sobriety
Ciaobella.....you are just a swell friend too. Thank you for you words too!!!!!
Hey Val great to hear things are great for you keep posting as gratitude is always good to read thanks for being there
Light and love Zac
Light and love Zac
Hi Valerie;) Thank you for being here for me too;) You are doing so great...it's people like you who make it all worth it! Glad your H is supportive of you, could you have him call mine;)? just kidding. Keep on posting girl, i always love to hear what you have to say;)
Take care now!
Take care now!
