I'm jayde, a recovering alcoholic. I've had a problem with alcohol for probably 10 yrs, but didn't get serious about quitting until Sept. of 2004, ( i quit for 7 months and started again) then last Nov. i quit again and made it 4 months and started back up. Now, I have been sober since April 27th 2006, and am very serious about quitting for good this time. I'm really trying to focus on my thoughts and feelings and triggers, and trying to identify how i got so "off track" before and try to avoid letting that happen again. I would be happy to hear from anyone who has any advice or can relate to where i'm at. Or just to say "hey'" and share what's going on with you : )
Glad to be here and hope to get to know some of you soon!
-jayde-
Good Morning Jayde, Great to have you on the board! You will find alot of great people here. I can relate to where you are and where you have been. I've been drinking basically all my adult life, things started to really get out of control this past year, so I quit, and then my dad just got diagnosed with lymphoma cancer and I fell of the wagon, but I am slowly making my way back. I don't want to drink anymore, and I know I have to stay strong for my family. It's so hard and I'm praying everyday to stay sober. The other night I had two glasses of wine, sometimes I can do that and other times I can't, that's the scary part, I never know when I'll go overboard. Congradulations on your sobriety!! I'll be here to support you!!
Big hugs
lovedove
Big hugs
lovedove
Hi Lovedove, thanks for replying, I'm very glad to meet you! Wow....sounds like we have a few things in common ; ) Maybe we can help each other stay on track! I've been looking for a message board that i feel comfortable (fit in)with....maybe this is the one?! I'm here to support you too : )
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I know the horror and sadness of that stinkin' "C" word all too well. I lost my Grandpa last year to bone cancer, and that's when I relapsed too, (after 7 months) it took me awhile, but i'm back in the game now! One thing i can promise you is that drinking will not help anything as far as your dad goes, (or anything else for that matter ; ) I have found that out first hand, i was only putting off my feelings and emotions and (when my g'pa did die) the grieving process. That process, and all of those feelings that i was trying not to let surface, didn't come until i was sober for awhile. I hope i'm not bringing you down, just want to save you from putting yourself through some unnecessary pain and suffering. Hang in there Lovedove, and i will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers today.
Hope to hear from you again soon!
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I know the horror and sadness of that stinkin' "C" word all too well. I lost my Grandpa last year to bone cancer, and that's when I relapsed too, (after 7 months) it took me awhile, but i'm back in the game now! One thing i can promise you is that drinking will not help anything as far as your dad goes, (or anything else for that matter ; ) I have found that out first hand, i was only putting off my feelings and emotions and (when my g'pa did die) the grieving process. That process, and all of those feelings that i was trying not to let surface, didn't come until i was sober for awhile. I hope i'm not bringing you down, just want to save you from putting yourself through some unnecessary pain and suffering. Hang in there Lovedove, and i will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers today.
Hope to hear from you again soon!
Hi Jayde, good to see you... I'm new here too, haven't exactly stopped drinking completely myself but I'm working on it and getting better... hope to see you around, this is a good place, I've "met" some very good people here so far. You have two weeks, two weeks is a good thing, and soon it will become three, four, and more! Have a good day... see you around here...
Hi there Jayde, Thank-you for your kind words, I know I have to stay strong for my dad, the news just hit me like a ton of bricks, he had lung cancer a few years ago, so the cancer thing is still a fresh wound. Alcohol just makes me feel so depressed, and have no motivation, I have to keep that in mind when I go to grab that drink, I'm glad you are here, and I look forward to helping each other out!! Thanks for your prayers, means so much!
Big Hugs
lovedove
Big Hugs
lovedove
Good morning! Hope all is well with everyone : )
Ciaobella, Thanks for the warm welcome and encouragement. Looking forward to getting to know you too. Even if you haven't totally quit drinking yet, you have taken the first steps by acknowledging that you could have a problem, and by coming here to talk about it.
Lovedove! Hope you're doing good this morning! ; ) I have been thinking about you. I'm glad you didn't take my post the wrong way, after i read it again, i was thinking i probably should've worded it differently. I didn't mean to sound negative by using my story of my g'pa as an example, i was just trying to say that what you are going thru with your dad will be much easier to deal with if you're not drinking. I know it's easier said than done, but once you get started, it seems like everything else has a way of falling into place. I'm here for you and i know you can do it!
Have a great day everyone!
Ciaobella, Thanks for the warm welcome and encouragement. Looking forward to getting to know you too. Even if you haven't totally quit drinking yet, you have taken the first steps by acknowledging that you could have a problem, and by coming here to talk about it.
Lovedove! Hope you're doing good this morning! ; ) I have been thinking about you. I'm glad you didn't take my post the wrong way, after i read it again, i was thinking i probably should've worded it differently. I didn't mean to sound negative by using my story of my g'pa as an example, i was just trying to say that what you are going thru with your dad will be much easier to deal with if you're not drinking. I know it's easier said than done, but once you get started, it seems like everything else has a way of falling into place. I'm here for you and i know you can do it!
Have a great day everyone!
Good morning Jayde!! Oh believe me, no offense taken, I really appreciate your advice. I had a great night last night, just relaxed no booze just gingerale!! During the week I don't normally drink, it's the weekends that I find troublesome, Back a few years ago, I would be drinking every other night and wake up just feeling like crap. I don't hang around this girl that I used to drink with anymore so that really helped, My b/f drinks and I've asked him not to bring any in the house for awhile, I'm getting back on track I just feel bummed out that I relapsed I was doing so well...
Have a great day!
lovedove
Have a great day!
lovedove
How are the three of you doing? I hope you are having a peaceful evening. Keep posting and checking in...you guys are doing great!
: ) Good morning, hope everyone's doing good today.
Lovedove,glad to hear you haven't been drinking, hope you're still hangin' in there...i have a feeling that u are ; ) The weekends can be real tough for me too, because my husband drinks and he doesn't have much respect whatsoever for my desire to be sober. I don't hang around any of my old friends anymore, most of them i disconnected with last time i got sober, and some of them kicked me to the curb, well....probably because i'm not as much fun anymore.(To them i mean because most of them still drink to extremes.) Plus i'm going thru a stage right now where it really annoys me to see someone turn into a drunken slob and get all obnoxious. My husband does that : ( Plus he usually invites his friends from work over on Friday night and they are all loud and obnoxious.So consider yourself lucky that your boyfriend has enough respect to not drink around you ; ) Oh....and lovedove, don't be bummed about your relapse, it would be a waste of time....just start again and watch those days add up! You own that sober time and nothing and noone can take that away from you! Good luck this weekend!
VWGirl, thanks for popping in ; ) hope you are well too...looking forward to getting to know you and reading your wonderfully inspiring posts : )
Have a safe and sober weekend everyone!
Lovedove,glad to hear you haven't been drinking, hope you're still hangin' in there...i have a feeling that u are ; ) The weekends can be real tough for me too, because my husband drinks and he doesn't have much respect whatsoever for my desire to be sober. I don't hang around any of my old friends anymore, most of them i disconnected with last time i got sober, and some of them kicked me to the curb, well....probably because i'm not as much fun anymore.(To them i mean because most of them still drink to extremes.) Plus i'm going thru a stage right now where it really annoys me to see someone turn into a drunken slob and get all obnoxious. My husband does that : ( Plus he usually invites his friends from work over on Friday night and they are all loud and obnoxious.So consider yourself lucky that your boyfriend has enough respect to not drink around you ; ) Oh....and lovedove, don't be bummed about your relapse, it would be a waste of time....just start again and watch those days add up! You own that sober time and nothing and noone can take that away from you! Good luck this weekend!
VWGirl, thanks for popping in ; ) hope you are well too...looking forward to getting to know you and reading your wonderfully inspiring posts : )
Have a safe and sober weekend everyone!
Hi there Jayde! Thanks for the encouragment, still doing good! Been too busy working to even think about drinking. You know what, my b/f's friend drinks to the ultimate extreme, and it soooo annoys me, I don't even want to be around him, it really makes you think, Did I look/act that way,it's enough to keep you sober seeing these fools!! :) Tonight I am going to have a nice bath, do my nails and just relax on the couch! Hope you have a great weekend, and VWgirl thanks so much for your words, you are such an inspiration! God Bless all of you!!
Big Big Hugs
lovedove
Big Big Hugs
lovedove
I could not stand other active alcoholics, even myself! I especially hated my husband when he was drinking, you see I wasn't as bad as him...LOL! They say when you are judging another for whatever reason, you're pointing one finger at them (judgement) and usuall two fingers are pointing right back at you. So the character defects we see in others, well usually we identify in ourselves as well...at least I know I'm guilty of that.
Good Saturday morning everyone!
Well last night went better than i thought it would. My husband didn't drink so i didn't have to deal with that anyways. One of these days i will get into the story about my rocky relationship with my husband (when i have more time) but for now i will just say that we just don't have much in common anymore :(
Lovedove, i hope you enjoyed your evening, i was going to watch a movie last night and i put the dvd in and layed down, and the next thing i know the credits are rolling! lol....guess i was a little more tired than i thought ; )
lol....VWGirl....boy, you hit the nail right on the head! I think that's why it bugs me to be around drunk people too, because i know that's how i was, and i feel like my face is being rubbed in it now that i'm sober and actually CARE what people think of me. (But in a sick sort of way, it makes me feel good because i'm not the one ,who's making an a** outa myself, and i won't feel like an idiot in the morning!) It's weird though how you notice all this stuff when you get sober. I know i never wanna go back there ;)
Have a great, SOBER, weekend everyone!
Well last night went better than i thought it would. My husband didn't drink so i didn't have to deal with that anyways. One of these days i will get into the story about my rocky relationship with my husband (when i have more time) but for now i will just say that we just don't have much in common anymore :(
Lovedove, i hope you enjoyed your evening, i was going to watch a movie last night and i put the dvd in and layed down, and the next thing i know the credits are rolling! lol....guess i was a little more tired than i thought ; )
lol....VWGirl....boy, you hit the nail right on the head! I think that's why it bugs me to be around drunk people too, because i know that's how i was, and i feel like my face is being rubbed in it now that i'm sober and actually CARE what people think of me. (But in a sick sort of way, it makes me feel good because i'm not the one ,who's making an a** outa myself, and i won't feel like an idiot in the morning!) It's weird though how you notice all this stuff when you get sober. I know i never wanna go back there ;)
Have a great, SOBER, weekend everyone!
Good Morning Jayde, Good Morning VWgirl!
Well I had a great sober night, Jayde: lol...I have done that sooo many times, movies seem to be a sleeping pill for me!! I went to sleep at 10:00 but was up quite abit, I'm doggie sitting right now, and was woken up by coyotes howling.. pretty eerie, and it was a full moon.....YIKES!!! but I woke up to a choir of birds, so beautiful. Being sober really makes you appreciate the natural beauty of the world! I'm working today, and feel so good!! :)
VWgirl, great post, and so very true.......been there done that, don't want to go back!!!
Big Hugs to you both!!
lovedove
p.s. Jayde, My b/f and I have a "history" as well, we'll have to share stories..
Well I had a great sober night, Jayde: lol...I have done that sooo many times, movies seem to be a sleeping pill for me!! I went to sleep at 10:00 but was up quite abit, I'm doggie sitting right now, and was woken up by coyotes howling.. pretty eerie, and it was a full moon.....YIKES!!! but I woke up to a choir of birds, so beautiful. Being sober really makes you appreciate the natural beauty of the world! I'm working today, and feel so good!! :)
VWgirl, great post, and so very true.......been there done that, don't want to go back!!!
Big Hugs to you both!!
lovedove
p.s. Jayde, My b/f and I have a "history" as well, we'll have to share stories..
Ladies, Ooooooooh, I'm so proud of you! Great job...some of us alcoholics considered Friday nights a "holy" night...I'd just get plowed on Friday nights, dontcha know I deserved it! So, good that you guys did it...you are now creating sober experiences to draw from when the urge to drink comes up....you've done it and you know you can get through it again!
History about partners ~ boy do I have some doozies of stories, but I see my part in it totally...for sure it wasn't all him!
Might I suggest to just take real good care of yourselves, nap if you need to, if you can't sleep read and relax...your body is physically healing, I needed to really nuture myself when I first started my sojourn into sobriety; my Sponsor helped me with that...I really didn't even know how to be good to myself, hey and I'm still learning and always will be...recovery is a way of life, we never graduate...we learn new ways to live...thank God.
Have a wonderful Saturday!
PS-You're waking up and thawing out...I remember when I first really noticed the sky, the birds, the grass ~ for 28 years I never was aware enough to notice my surroundings....nor did I care to; it was all about me my next fix and my next drink....
History about partners ~ boy do I have some doozies of stories, but I see my part in it totally...for sure it wasn't all him!
Might I suggest to just take real good care of yourselves, nap if you need to, if you can't sleep read and relax...your body is physically healing, I needed to really nuture myself when I first started my sojourn into sobriety; my Sponsor helped me with that...I really didn't even know how to be good to myself, hey and I'm still learning and always will be...recovery is a way of life, we never graduate...we learn new ways to live...thank God.
Have a wonderful Saturday!
PS-You're waking up and thawing out...I remember when I first really noticed the sky, the birds, the grass ~ for 28 years I never was aware enough to notice my surroundings....nor did I care to; it was all about me my next fix and my next drink....
OOOOOOWWWWWW!! You better watch out Lovedove, tonight is the real full moon! lol...i bet that was neat, in a freaky sorta way ;) We have coyotes around here too, but don't see many anymore.
I love to listen to the birds too, and my son and i watch them at the feeders. We have some beautiful birds around here,i live in the woods in north-central WI.
I've found since i've been sober that it helps me to relax and clear my mind when i sit and watch them. Butterflies too. I sooo know what you mean about admiring the natural beauty that is all around us, and always has been, but we were too busy drinking to notice, or to care. ( Me anyways ;)
It's great to see you in such good spirits today, you brought a big smile to my face this morning. One day at a time, we will do this together.Keep on keepin' on ; )
(((((LOVEDOVE))))) enjoy your day!
I love to listen to the birds too, and my son and i watch them at the feeders. We have some beautiful birds around here,i live in the woods in north-central WI.
I've found since i've been sober that it helps me to relax and clear my mind when i sit and watch them. Butterflies too. I sooo know what you mean about admiring the natural beauty that is all around us, and always has been, but we were too busy drinking to notice, or to care. ( Me anyways ;)
It's great to see you in such good spirits today, you brought a big smile to my face this morning. One day at a time, we will do this together.Keep on keepin' on ; )
(((((LOVEDOVE))))) enjoy your day!
Aw thanks VWGirl! We posted at the same time. Thanks for the great advice! You are a huge inspiration to me. Please keep posting!
Hey look what i said about the "beauty all around us" and what you just posted! What can i say....great minds think alike! ;)
Hey look what i said about the "beauty all around us" and what you just posted! What can i say....great minds think alike! ;)
Yep, I've lived by the ocean all my life...I am finally appreciating it! Let's all check in tonight, okay? We can all do this thing, we can do it together!
I'll be here tonight! ;)
((((((VWGIRL)))))) Thanks for being here!
((((((VWGIRL)))))) Thanks for being here!
Hi there gals!! Just got home from work! it is a beautiful sunny day here, and I am going back to the coyote den!! lol lol :) It was so wonderful coming home and seeing that you gals had posted, Jayde: when I moved out West my family and I drove through Wisconsin, and god it is SOOO beautiful, I have always wanted to go back, we didn't stay there long enough!! I can't remember right now where we stayed but I will find out and let you know, I seen so many beautiful states when we moved here, I'm glad we took the U.S route, the Canadian way is boooooring. I'm glad I made you smile, I feel the same way about you, and VWgirl so nice to have you gals here, I'll try to come on tonite, but they have dial up at the house I'm staying at (can you believe it!!) anyway sometimes I can't get on, if not I will be here tomorrow morning, feeling fresh and happy!! :) that is if the coyotes don't get me lololololololol :)
Big Big Hugs!! :)
lovedove
Big Big Hugs!! :)
lovedove
Hello :) I know i said i'd be here, but i have to check out for the night. I am really tired. Got ALOT of cleaning done around my house today, now my back is killing me.:(
Lovedove,glad you had a good day! I will take some of your sunshine if you don't mind. We haven't seen the sun in almost a week. I'm an outside person and this is killing me!
I know what you mean, i can't wait to get on here and see what you guys have to say too! Which leads me to something i want to tell you.
I am so thankful for this site, and most of all my new friends here, ((((LOVEDOVE)))) (((((VWGirl))))) (((((Ciaobella)))) (i hope you're ok)
You don't know how much it means to me to have someone to share what's going on in my life with, who has been there and understands. Thank you so much you guys. See you in the morning!
P.S. Lovedove...i've always wanted to see Canada (saw on your other post that's where you live) Where did you move from when you went through Wisconsin?
Night and BIG HUGS!
Lovedove,glad you had a good day! I will take some of your sunshine if you don't mind. We haven't seen the sun in almost a week. I'm an outside person and this is killing me!
I know what you mean, i can't wait to get on here and see what you guys have to say too! Which leads me to something i want to tell you.
I am so thankful for this site, and most of all my new friends here, ((((LOVEDOVE)))) (((((VWGirl))))) (((((Ciaobella)))) (i hope you're ok)
You don't know how much it means to me to have someone to share what's going on in my life with, who has been there and understands. Thank you so much you guys. See you in the morning!
P.S. Lovedove...i've always wanted to see Canada (saw on your other post that's where you live) Where did you move from when you went through Wisconsin?
Night and BIG HUGS!
