Well my daughter's graduation party went well. She enjoyed herself and my son was clean for over 1 week. This weekend he decided to go to the shore with a group of his "drug free" friends. He came home Monday depressed and upset because he drank too much made a a** out of himself and lost his brand new phone. He said he blacked out both nights he was there from drinking. I told him he is on his own no new phone from me. He can pay for the replacement. He was very upset at his actions and kept saying I have to stop doing this. I have to grow up. Was he telling me what I want to hear or meaning it ... I don't know. I knew something was up Monday night he seemed different his eyes very small. Well as it turns out he admitted last night he used on Monday night because of feeling so bad, and now he feels even worst because used again. He swears only used once Monday and has not since. We will test him again tonight to verify that. Is there hope that his can be a a one use thing? Do you begin to use all over again? Is relapsing and only using once something that happens or am I being bullsh***ted again. We have told him no drugs in our home no needles no packages no nothing if he wants to kill himself go off our property we don't want to find him like we have before. Told him if we find anything in his room he will be thrown out. Its on him. We agree to let him smoke pot outside if feels the need. Weed is the least of the problems, H is a killer. My mind says work on one thing at a time get rid of H and them maybe the weed next is that reasonable or crazy i don't know anymore. He will start attending smart recovery meetings in our area next week. Does anyone have any experience with them? They are not a 12 step program, but alternative to them.
Show him the last paragraph of Narcotics Anonymous HOW IT WORKS.
Actually have him read the whole page - out loud - in front of you.
http://www.na.org/admin/include/spa...0it%20Works.pdf
Abstinence is the answer .. the last thing an addict/alcoholic wants to hear.
As far as SMART is concerned I would have to drive many many miles to attend one.
I have about 10 AA/NA meetings withing walking distance of my house.
All the best.
Bob R
Actually have him read the whole page - out loud - in front of you.
http://www.na.org/admin/include/spa...0it%20Works.pdf
Abstinence is the answer .. the last thing an addict/alcoholic wants to hear.
As far as SMART is concerned I would have to drive many many miles to attend one.
I have about 10 AA/NA meetings withing walking distance of my house.
All the best.
Bob R
sigh....we create circumstances we can use in order to use...I can't speak for any other addict about what they may or may not do when they relapse...some have shorter and more intense periods...some go right back to being clean....some never come back...some take awhile to get back on their feet...this one is really up to him...can't say if he is just talking or he means it...only time will tell....I'm sorry
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jmom,
(((hugs))) Big (((hugs))) You're not going crazy. You made plenty of sense setting your boundaries. I told my girls I could live with them doing weed too (outside my home), but no H. We agree on that. No paraphernalia either.
I'm glad at least the grad party went well. My older daughter has blackouts. They terrify me. We took our other (addicted) daughter's phone & car away when she moved out this last time about 3 1/2 weeks ago.
It gets to a point where you just don't know what you're doing. lol I question myself. She's a brilliant liar & manipulator. I think those are traits common to addicts.
I'm guessing you meant is pupils were small (?). I could never remember what they looked like high, small or large pupils.
By all means set your boundaries & stick to them. It's the best thing we did here. The ball's in their court. It's time they make the right decisions. Only they can choose how their life will be lived.
Stay strong.
love & God bless you,
Dee
(((hugs))) Big (((hugs))) You're not going crazy. You made plenty of sense setting your boundaries. I told my girls I could live with them doing weed too (outside my home), but no H. We agree on that. No paraphernalia either.
I'm glad at least the grad party went well. My older daughter has blackouts. They terrify me. We took our other (addicted) daughter's phone & car away when she moved out this last time about 3 1/2 weeks ago.
It gets to a point where you just don't know what you're doing. lol I question myself. She's a brilliant liar & manipulator. I think those are traits common to addicts.
I'm guessing you meant is pupils were small (?). I could never remember what they looked like high, small or large pupils.
By all means set your boundaries & stick to them. It's the best thing we did here. The ball's in their court. It's time they make the right decisions. Only they can choose how their life will be lived.
Stay strong.
love & God bless you,
Dee
I don't your whole situation or how old your son is but I agree with Papa Bear on no drugs at all or they backpedal into addiction behaviors. I listen to Papa Bear because he is a success story. These addicts of ours all try to find a work around and there isn't one...not one that involves sobriety.
Good luck,
Michelle
Good luck,
Michelle
