Hostage

Families / Partners of Addicts
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my husband said "I will not be held hostage because of his addiction" and that is exactly what it is. Rehabs, sobriety homes, halfway houses, medication, therapy, tough love, no love, yelling, crying, begging, talking, jail, hospitals, having a child. Opiates, meth, crystal, heroin, oxy. Lying, manipulative, thief, cocky, arrogant and sad. Going on 12 years now. Praying, still praying. Its in Gods hands.
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I've heard that phrase more than once, including by me. Yes, addicts and addiction will hold you hostage. After 15 years, my husband and I are no longer being held hostage either. Good luck to you.
Michelle
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My 21 y/o son is an addict and I have said so many times I feel like a hostage. Or a prisoner in my own home. Or like I'm in an abusive relationship. It's so sickening and frustrating. I tell him he has to leave and he flat out says NO! I'm not leaving. I know it's my own fault for allowing it but it also scares me to call the cops and cause a scene. It's never easy !!
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So you let your son back in Lisalisa? Didn't you just kick him out?

If so, why did you let him back in?
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No rich. He's still out. I think that was posted before I threw him out or maybe around the same time. I was speaking of my experience and how i felt hostage for so long.
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Lisalisa thank you for sharing. Unfortunately, from my experience and I am sure many others making a scene could save his life. It is sad but when your son or daughter is in jail you feel some sort of relief. It is hard! Never easy. If you don't mind me asking how long has your son been an addict?
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Since that post I have actually thrown him out. I've know about the heroin for about a year. But after learning more about it I'm starting to believe it's been much longer than that. Before the H is was all different things. From pot to Molly's to Percocet. I think anything. He has been to rehab twice in the last year but for the wrong reasons. Not because he truly wanted the help but because he had nowhere to live. He was living with his dad at the time and had thrown him out. First time was for 30 days second was for 120 days. Both times he used within days of getting out. I actually think he used while in the second rehab.