How Can I Help Him Now???

MY FRIEND AND I WERE IN REHAB TOGETHER WE NEW EACH OTHER BEFORE BUT WE GOT REALLY CLOSE DURING THIS TIME . SINCE WE'VE BEEN OUT HE HAS RELAPSED WENT BACK INTO TREATMENT AND RELAPSED AGAIN . NOW I DON'T WANT HIM TO FEEL ALL ALONE LIKE I DID BUT I WANT HIM TO UNDERSTAND THAT THIS IS NOT GETTING HIM ANYWHERE . HIS WIFE AND FAMILY HAVE KICKED HIM OUT AND I THINK THIS NEW FREEDOM HAS MADE IT WORSE . HE SAID HE WOULD TRY A DIFFERENT PROGRAM BUT HE DIN'T THINK RIGHT NOW IS THE TIME . WHAT CAN I DO ???
Well here is my update in case anyone is interested. My boyfriend is coming home this Sunday from an in-patient rehab that he has been in for 3 weeks. He seems to be doing ok. The real test will be when comes home. Before he went in I had not really seen him for over a month. I still try to keep my distance, but it is getting harder now that he is becoming his old self again. I am scared to jump back into what we had before for the pure fact of not knowing what will happen. On the other hand I feel like if I turn my back on him now, that would be the worst possible thing I could ever do. I have met some other people in the meantime and have gone on some casual dates. He does not know this because he would flip his lid...he has told me that if I even look anyone else, he will kill himself and me and the other person. I love him dearly but feel that after everything that he has put me through, i am not "in" love with him anymore. I have no trust in him and am not sure if I ever will again. But still the feeling of wanting him in my life still stays in my heart and my stomach everytime I think about it. One of my friends had told me that he is going to try to replace the drug with me when he comes out....and...that kind of scares me. I can't be suffocated with this again as I was before. I want to live my life the way a normal person does...I have been on road there and am almost there, and am fearfull that when he comes home...will pull me right back into the same trap that i was in before. So....after everything...he has help and is doing better, and I am still one big emotional mess because he has made me this way. How fair is that? And....is it just me and him or do all of you get this? Everything is about them and how they feel and what they need to do to straighten themselves out and they are going through so much...but not even a slight question about how we are doing? Not once through this entire thing has he asked me if I was ok?????
Anyone who threatens your life does NOT love you! This is manipulation. If you love yourself, surround yourself with people that want to treat you nicely and with respect. Many people in your situation have wound up on the front page... And then people say "I wonder why she stayed with him?"
"Well, she loved him..."
"Well, he killed her anyway!"
Don't be a fool. Don't be manipulated. Don't be a victim.
How is YOUR self-esteem? Do you think you deserve this kind of treatment? Or do you realize that you should be treated nicely?
Good luck, take care & God Bless
JC