Please help me understand how to forgive an addict that I know he lies whenever he speaks we have been married 6 years, he has stolen from my family, his family, we've lost our home our cars everything but i still beleived him to be a good person. I don't like him anymore and now that his parents have had it with him and i was leaving he decides to get help. I love my children and they love there dad and i'm afraid if i leave he might do something crazy. please tell me how to get over the pain, betrayal, and mistrust i have for him. I've been supportive so many times and gave him everything i had what do i do now when i feel so empty and at the same time guilty to hurt my kids. is there hope?
depends on how far yopu can take itr...by sounds of it get rid, u dont need it
Colleen
You really need to read "Co-dependent No More". You are an enabler. This book shows you how to stop giving in. You can't blame your husband for everything. He is to blame for being an addict. It is a disease. He needs help, real help. This book will explain to you how you are enabling and most important, how to stop. You will feel a lot better. Just remember, "you didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can not cure it, but you can cope with it." God Bless You
You really need to read "Co-dependent No More". You are an enabler. This book shows you how to stop giving in. You can't blame your husband for everything. He is to blame for being an addict. It is a disease. He needs help, real help. This book will explain to you how you are enabling and most important, how to stop. You will feel a lot better. Just remember, "you didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can not cure it, but you can cope with it." God Bless You
Colleen,
I'm not sure why you would want to forgive someone that treats you like that. The part about him deciding to get help once you decide to leave is typical addict manipulation. His back is against the wall, he will say exactly what he thinks you want to hear. Would you consider a person that you didn't know to be a good person if they stole from your family and made you lose your home and your cars. Of course not!! Why would you think he is any different? What kind of a father does an addict make? One that shows his children that he doesn't give a rats a$$ if they have a roof over their heads, food in their stomachs or transportation to get to the doctor. And getting them out of that environment will hurt them.....?
I'm not sure why you would want to forgive someone that treats you like that. The part about him deciding to get help once you decide to leave is typical addict manipulation. His back is against the wall, he will say exactly what he thinks you want to hear. Would you consider a person that you didn't know to be a good person if they stole from your family and made you lose your home and your cars. Of course not!! Why would you think he is any different? What kind of a father does an addict make? One that shows his children that he doesn't give a rats a$$ if they have a roof over their heads, food in their stomachs or transportation to get to the doctor. And getting them out of that environment will hurt them.....?