Hello everyone!So today I get into a fight with my brother my father within 20 minutes well if it was 20 days ago I would have popped about 2 or 3 oxys and numbed my brain to the problem and now I am left here just staring at my ceiling feeling so low!!!This is the hardest obstacle I have ever had to endure in life.I have no urge to use cuz I know where that would get me.But I am wondering how do I deal with this stuff that has been ignored for so long!!!!PLEASE POST I NEED SOME SUPPORT!!!! Your friend KG!!!
It is hard.
It will always be a challenge to deal with problems WHEN they happen
but that is the best advice anyone can give you I think.
When a fight starts, deal with it immediatly. Even if it means yelling until all hours of the night. Arguements are normal and healthy. Avoiding conflict isnt.
Avoiding conflict only means that you are left with things unsaid, your point un heard, and a solution unreached.
beyond that, I dont know.. ?
post here.
vent, scream , fuss.. cuss.. .. do what ever you need to do.
Do you write at all?
Maybe writting a letter about what happened , if the fight wasnt ended, might help?
It will always be a challenge to deal with problems WHEN they happen
but that is the best advice anyone can give you I think.
When a fight starts, deal with it immediatly. Even if it means yelling until all hours of the night. Arguements are normal and healthy. Avoiding conflict isnt.
Avoiding conflict only means that you are left with things unsaid, your point un heard, and a solution unreached.
beyond that, I dont know.. ?
post here.
vent, scream , fuss.. cuss.. .. do what ever you need to do.
Do you write at all?
Maybe writting a letter about what happened , if the fight wasnt ended, might help?
Hey man!! I am a fellow Oxy abuser,also in recovery.As for your request,about info on how to deal...first just ask yourself what would be the right thing to do. I don't know if you have any access to counseling,or if you have a trusted friend to turn to,or if you are a reader or not,but they are some of the things that helped me.I love to read.The problems of everyday life are always gonna be there,high or not.So if it is answers you need,then I'd say seek,or you will not find. Do searches on the web about change,cognitive therapy,spirituality,whatever.It's a great tool to have at your disposal,as you can well tell from just the love and support goin in and out of this site! Keep you thoughts on "cleanliness",and keep doin what you're doin! How many days clean are you? I just got to 14 today. Take care bro!
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Joe
Hang in there, KG. It takes time to learn to deal with life again minus drugs. We used them as a coping mechnism for so long that at first, we're a bit lost trying to deal with any kind of crisis.
I remember feeling like nightmares were just following me around in those early days.
I promise you, it gets better. You will always have issues. (like my mom...sheesh, lol) What's going to change is you and how you react to things.
Keep talking about it, it helps.
Love, Kat
I remember feeling like nightmares were just following me around in those early days.
I promise you, it gets better. You will always have issues. (like my mom...sheesh, lol) What's going to change is you and how you react to things.
Keep talking about it, it helps.
Love, Kat
Well I am clean for 20 days now I thought it was 16 but I counted and foun out it was 20 which made me really happy!!!I live in NY.And I am 26 I abused oxy for 3 years but abused drugs for 13!!!If anyone feels like talking or mail me just say so that would be a great help!!!
Let er rip tator chip.......it'll make you feel much better...
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I will talk to you and I will mail you. Just let me know what you want to do. I've been right there in your shoes and it is a tough ride. You'll make it honey, never give up. I'm here for you.
Hey guys. Oxy was my doc and I've been clean since June so I'd love to help you with what I've learned up till this point. You will do it.
Thank you all for your responses.My mood is all over the place up down.And of course the insomnia is the worst part.Its day 21 for me shouldn't the chills be fading away soon???THE CHILLS ARE KILLING ME!!!WHEN WILL THEY GO AWAY??
Hey Sir, you still here?
I'm here
Me too.
hello,Kg
WOW,,, sounds like you have had a bad day .Hope tonight with all this help its became a better one.I didnt get to bed this morning until 5am.lol.I got up at 12.30pm and the kids had gone to a movie with friends .By,time i was reallly moveing they had made it back home.i thought last night id have a day of peace and quit.my grandparents came up and OH ,i wouldnt have answered the door by time they leave im a nerves wreack.they try to out talk eachother and ones telling one story and the other another.Im just one person trying to here them both.i could of have not answered but,husband said go to the door its the kids back.I said no they wouldnt be back so soon.So,i went and to my suprise it was them.I always get stuck with the company and my husband stays in the bedroom hideing.I will get him back though soon.lol..........My grandmother is a nut case she really is .i hope when i get old im not like her.She one of them everythings wrong with her and doctors cant find anything wrong.She had knee surgy and will never hear the end of that one.it wasnt hurting never heard anything about it.BOY when they said it was bad belive me IT WAS KILLING HER>She had no ideal on what that surgy would be like until they didnt it.I know she was in pain.But,it wasnt hurting and she payed for that one dearly.Now,all i hear my knee is still killing me.LOL....She really has good health for her age .But to hear her she dieing.My granddad has just found out he has lung cancer and he has had cancer years back the kind that men get dont remember the name of it...he almost didnt make it.Now,the lung cancer and he looked really bad.Low weight ,doseing off.But,they drive me NUTS.I felt like i needed a never pill before they left.I didnt take one or i would of been back in the bed.I been cooking and clean today and its been a ok end of the day....i know when someone upsets you its so hard to deal.I really have gotten a angry problem since going on sub......I had to learn to control it .I just do what i have to do to stay as calm..as i can and if its no big deal i let it go.Even if i want to throw something hit something or sombody.i dont feel knum and feel all i should of have been feeling.Geuss i have to make up for all them years of being knum.......I deal with things i took very well while useing.Now,its like a rerun of all the things that i should of delt with years back.its hard when you have so much crashing down on you all at once.Just handle it all best as you can without haveing a big fight with them.I think yeah face it .Dont let things go by and have to worry about the later down the road.I learn to say what i feel alot better.if i dont then its there balled up inside me eatting at me.I get even madder then .I think you should work it out the best as you can.Does your family know about your addiction? Are they suported?Usally ,all my fights with husband was about my addiction problem.it seems as no one understand you and sometime i felt i wasnt love or care about.i had alot of problem with feeling not wanted. or i wasnt as pretty and attractive as i use to be.it wasnt the case really only a few extra pounds.lol.I can handle that but,the mental side i couldnt and sometime like last night i couldnt .i have my good days and my bad ones.Im ok. as of right now,Hope you are too.crystal
WOW,,, sounds like you have had a bad day .Hope tonight with all this help its became a better one.I didnt get to bed this morning until 5am.lol.I got up at 12.30pm and the kids had gone to a movie with friends .By,time i was reallly moveing they had made it back home.i thought last night id have a day of peace and quit.my grandparents came up and OH ,i wouldnt have answered the door by time they leave im a nerves wreack.they try to out talk eachother and ones telling one story and the other another.Im just one person trying to here them both.i could of have not answered but,husband said go to the door its the kids back.I said no they wouldnt be back so soon.So,i went and to my suprise it was them.I always get stuck with the company and my husband stays in the bedroom hideing.I will get him back though soon.lol..........My grandmother is a nut case she really is .i hope when i get old im not like her.She one of them everythings wrong with her and doctors cant find anything wrong.She had knee surgy and will never hear the end of that one.it wasnt hurting never heard anything about it.BOY when they said it was bad belive me IT WAS KILLING HER>She had no ideal on what that surgy would be like until they didnt it.I know she was in pain.But,it wasnt hurting and she payed for that one dearly.Now,all i hear my knee is still killing me.LOL....She really has good health for her age .But to hear her she dieing.My granddad has just found out he has lung cancer and he has had cancer years back the kind that men get dont remember the name of it...he almost didnt make it.Now,the lung cancer and he looked really bad.Low weight ,doseing off.But,they drive me NUTS.I felt like i needed a never pill before they left.I didnt take one or i would of been back in the bed.I been cooking and clean today and its been a ok end of the day....i know when someone upsets you its so hard to deal.I really have gotten a angry problem since going on sub......I had to learn to control it .I just do what i have to do to stay as calm..as i can and if its no big deal i let it go.Even if i want to throw something hit something or sombody.i dont feel knum and feel all i should of have been feeling.Geuss i have to make up for all them years of being knum.......I deal with things i took very well while useing.Now,its like a rerun of all the things that i should of delt with years back.its hard when you have so much crashing down on you all at once.Just handle it all best as you can without haveing a big fight with them.I think yeah face it .Dont let things go by and have to worry about the later down the road.I learn to say what i feel alot better.if i dont then its there balled up inside me eatting at me.I get even madder then .I think you should work it out the best as you can.Does your family know about your addiction? Are they suported?Usally ,all my fights with husband was about my addiction problem.it seems as no one understand you and sometime i felt i wasnt love or care about.i had alot of problem with feeling not wanted. or i wasnt as pretty and attractive as i use to be.it wasnt the case really only a few extra pounds.lol.I can handle that but,the mental side i couldnt and sometime like last night i couldnt .i have my good days and my bad ones.Im ok. as of right now,Hope you are too.crystal
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Chills at 21 days..is it PAWS? I am day 26 and no chills, but my DOC was oxycodone, not as cocenteated as oxycontin.Boy, it is a miserable drug to come off,my heart goes out to you...it's going to take a lot of mental re-hab to change your thinking patterns and behaviours...that's the hard part. We are so used to having a crutch...I believe you will be ok..I can tell you are resilient...just going thru a tough time. I also live in NY(Dutchess County)Hope you feel better soon. Sharonn
Hey Mr. where did you go last night? I was trying to talk to you and you vanished. Come out and lets talk, we'll get you thru this mess.
How to deal with problems without drugs?
Eat healthy, exersize, mediation, vitamins, deep breathing, long walks, praying to God and given him your worries, warm showers/bath, deep breathing, make a list of all the good things in your life, jounaling, reading the Bible, helping other people to take your mind of yourself.
Just a few suggestions
lovebird
Eat healthy, exersize, mediation, vitamins, deep breathing, long walks, praying to God and given him your worries, warm showers/bath, deep breathing, make a list of all the good things in your life, jounaling, reading the Bible, helping other people to take your mind of yourself.
Just a few suggestions
lovebird
