I am the wife of a man that has been smoking for over twenty years. I have seen this man function it seem very well. I am now out of denial of the devastation it has cause in our relationship. I want to help, however is helping hurting him? I mean if I try to help and be there to support him, am I hurting our helping. He has explosive mood swings, looses jobs and is very lazy. We have four children, one in college, who avoids him at all cost. We will have to sell our home because of my husband inability to keep a job. I don't know if I will let him move in with us after we sell the house. Tell me how do you help someone who is in denial and will not seek help?
thanks for posting. take a look at some of the post on the Families/Partners of Addicts board on this site. I think you'll find some answers to your questions there. Bottom line is there is nothing you can do for him under those circumstances. take care of yourself before he takes you down with him.
