my 18 year old son is on methodone 40mg to help with his addiction to crack & heroin.He as been on this for 8 weeks. He was doing really well until 2 weeks ago when e did a few lines with a mate he was disgusted with himself & his girl dumped him, he said hed told his councellor but i dont think he did! He is still using on odd days he tells me but i think its becomin daily again . He still hangs around with the same people who are addicts themselves i have tried talking to him xplaining that really he needs to move away from these people as friends cos the temptation is there but he knows best as 18year olds do. We have daily battles cos he wants money, cigs etc. He as shop lifted before to make money i think he will do anything to get money. i am so worried that he will either end up dead or od from what hes doing he said he'll be fine. his excuse is always the same im rattling,my body hurts, i can't help it & so on, i understand he has a huge problem & the whole family are there to support him as is councillor but he only tells her very little, i have spent many nights sitting with him cos he was scarred but we'd got past that but now its back, i dont have anyone to talk to about this & don't no any support groups for familys in my area Bradford west yorkshire. So any advice on wot to do to help my son would be good & if you no of support groups for familys thanx worried mum
hi there well I am 26 years old and I was addicted to crack and smack at that age too! first of all your son needs to go up on the methadone as 40 mls is too low you will know when your on the correct dose as he will NOT get any withdrawls and the cravings seem to dissapear or are drastically reduced. Another thing I found is that I would crave more at night and would seem to pysically withdrw so i split my meth now do most in the morning and keep a little 20mls for night to get me to sleep and tide me over to the morning. Your son knows deep down what has to be done but bottom line is if he doesn't want it well it's not going to happen. If i was you talk to his prescriber and get the methadone put up that's your best bet. Just out of curiosity why didn't your son start the subatex as he would have been a perfect candit and there is a blocker built in thoose so if you do use you don't feel it. your son could give them ago as he is on the right ammount of meth to do a switch!
good luck keep posting!
moc
good luck keep posting!
moc
Moc ya gave some good advice,its very good of you to reach out and help TJ seeing you are battleing yerself,also when you first logged on here you were the one looking for answers....now yer giving good solid advice yerself,strange world eh!!!....but this is what this forum is all about be it advice or just someone to talk to venting about things.....Fairplay to ya Moc......take care.......Davey
Hi TJ, and Welcome; my advice would be to post this in the family forum part; they are people with children, teenagers , husbands, spouses who are struggling with addictions. They can give you the best advice. Its terrible to love and watch someone you love in active addiction. There are many many things you can do. PLease go and post this in that section, I know you will learn so much from those wonderful people there.
Constantine
Constantine
Hey TJ, agree with what has already been said. You would get the most help on the family forum as there are parents going through exactly what you are going through, but here you can get advice form actual addicts and recovering addicts.
What you're doing already is helping your son, knowing my family were there for me helped me so much. As well as he does , you also need someone to talk to ect, as this will obvioulsy be hard on you and your family. Keep posting on here as it does really help. Take care, Kev
What you're doing already is helping your son, knowing my family were there for me helped me so much. As well as he does , you also need someone to talk to ect, as this will obvioulsy be hard on you and your family. Keep posting on here as it does really help. Take care, Kev
Hi TJ tuff times call for tuff measures he's still young and probably full of bravado but you got to nip this in the budd ,we all thought we were in control and could handle it ,but hey we're all still struggling along having learn't the hard way . He needs to get his meds sorted out ask him to take you to his next meeting with his drug worker and ask why he got stopped at 40mls as it obviously doesn't hold him discuss the options of uppnig his dose or moving onto subutex . If he's staying with you and on benefits try to take control of his finances but for gods sake don't finance his habit , to get clean you must want to get clean and there should be no secrets everything should be up front you can't be too hard on him if he messes up but you have to see he's trying to help himself , i so hope he takes the help your obviously willing to give him because if he doesn't theres no uphill with heroin it's all downhill , take care and all the best TJ ,PEACE OUT!!!!paul
Thanx everyone who replyed to my post things are still the same & he is still only on 40ml methadone which is not enough he has told drug councillor but still not put it up or given him subitex i am trying to get him to let me go with him next week so i can say whats goin on so fingers x he may get what he needs? He is struggling big time as he only goes to clinic 2 weekly for 10mins he as no other back up & isn't working so gets bored, he needs more to do somewhere to go but also someone saying you have to attend on certain days he would go then & also he will have other people to support him people who no what hes going through. All his mates are users so he needs help to meet new friends but no one has info on these things. Hopefully we will break this cycle one day. I am forever ringing places, looking on line etc i will carry on till we get what help he needs & wants.
I also recommend the good folks on the family board. Although some do not agree with methadone use as a step to use in opiate addiction, I personally think for some long time users , who have exhausted all other methods to get off dope - this medicine can be very helpful.
Read up on it - do your research-
It certainly is better to find a comfortable dose - so you get rid of that craving,
Going thru the horrors of an active heroin addiction can cause big problems-
trying to get $$$- trying to avoid jail- - the whole subculture , which he seems involved in, needs to be removed from his life while he is young
allthebest
jack
Read up on it - do your research-
It certainly is better to find a comfortable dose - so you get rid of that craving,
Going thru the horrors of an active heroin addiction can cause big problems-
trying to get $$$- trying to avoid jail- - the whole subculture , which he seems involved in, needs to be removed from his life while he is young
allthebest
jack
