I"m pretty lost! My 27 year old daughter just failed her court ordered drug test and is now in rehab. This is her 4th trip to rehab. She finished her last one in march...did good till about May then the "old ways" started showing again. The problem is she has 2 boy ages 5 and 2. I worry about what she is doing in front of them and if they are safe when she is using. How do I talk to her when she gets out of rehab AGAIN without making her angry? She could take the boys and I would not know if they were okay. Please any advice is appreciated.
Does she attend NA meetings regularly?
If not, she won't stay clean.....
Don't worry about making her angry, she's angry anyway and has to begin to deal with it.
I strongly suggest you read the last 100 posts here and you'll hear your story over & over.
Get to Nar-Anon and Al-Anon and get your life back.
NA will help her get her life back if she wants it. You can't help her now.
You help you and she helps herself .
All the best to you both.
Bob R
If not, she won't stay clean.....
Don't worry about making her angry, she's angry anyway and has to begin to deal with it.
I strongly suggest you read the last 100 posts here and you'll hear your story over & over.
Get to Nar-Anon and Al-Anon and get your life back.
NA will help her get her life back if she wants it. You can't help her now.
You help you and she helps herself .
All the best to you both.
Bob R
Totally agree with the last post. Get to meetings for yourself. The boys are her sons and you can't control what happens in their lives either--you only can control what happens in yours...and if you get mentally strong and healthy, when those boys need you, you will be in a much better place to help them. Right now you are scared of her and being held hostage by your feelings about her sons...not a good place to help from.
