I'm seeking advice on how to tell my parents about my drug addiction. I know it will cause them pain no matter how I word it, but there has to be a way to disclose the information that minimizes the initial confrontation. I plan to have my rehab center found and all details settled when I tell them, I'm currently in the process of finding one. I figure this will help confirm my commitment to getting well and take the burden of research and asking embarrassing questions off their shoulders.
What else can I prepare to ease the impact? Should I apoligize first, ask for help, simply tell them, ask them to limit their involvement or get involved? Should I research family counseling options, ways for them to deal with it, or leave it up to them?
Anyone who has gone through this, please advise. I welcome and appreciate all your input as this is the hardest thing I've ever done. Thanks and strength...
Jenae,
Try not to worry about the actual telling too much,it may put you off doing it.
I think you should just tell them, "I've being doing 'such&such' for how ever long and I've now realised it is a problem,so I have seeked help...and this is what I'm doing about it."
I told my dad about my habit a few years ago,and he told my mum (they are seperated). I'm glad I did eventually tell him as he helped in my recovery.
I think it's up to them to decide how much they want to be a part of your recovery.
Good Luck, let us know how it went.
Kym x
Try not to worry about the actual telling too much,it may put you off doing it.
I think you should just tell them, "I've being doing 'such&such' for how ever long and I've now realised it is a problem,so I have seeked help...and this is what I'm doing about it."
I told my dad about my habit a few years ago,and he told my mum (they are seperated). I'm glad I did eventually tell him as he helped in my recovery.
I think it's up to them to decide how much they want to be a part of your recovery.
Good Luck, let us know how it went.
Kym x
I would say the best approach is always honesty.
You are taking some great steps toward your recovery. You have already taken responsibility for your actions. That is great!!
Please be sure that whatever facility you choose - they are certified by JACHO. I believe this is a federal agency. The agency keeps track of all inquiries/complaints on all facilities. This is very important.
Best of luck.
I am sure your parents will be very supportive. They probably already have some idea of what you have been going through.
Peace be with you on your road to recovery.
You are taking some great steps toward your recovery. You have already taken responsibility for your actions. That is great!!
Please be sure that whatever facility you choose - they are certified by JACHO. I believe this is a federal agency. The agency keeps track of all inquiries/complaints on all facilities. This is very important.
Best of luck.
I am sure your parents will be very supportive. They probably already have some idea of what you have been going through.
Peace be with you on your road to recovery.
Jenae, Hi I am addicted to oxycodone. When I decided that I was out of control and that I was powerless over these pill and wanted to quit. I went to my family and simply told them, I really think they suspected it but they did not know for sure what was wrong with me.. I agree with the others you should just be hones, it will be hard to tell them, I know, but it will help you alot, you will not have to do this alone, you will have the support of your family and that helps so much. Before I told them I agonized over it like you, how to tell them, what to say, how will they react, and then I realized that one of the reasons that I was so hesitant is because if I told them then, I was admitting not only to them but to myself that I was a addict, even though I knew that I had never said it to anyone and always made excuses as to why I needed the pills, no more excuses, I took them because I liked the way they made me feel, and to dull whatever problems or stress that I did not want to deal with. It was such a relief after I told them, and I am sure it will be the same for you... So just be honest and when you start you will know what to say.
Hi, Jenae,i'm Jsanae!(weird...)
Anyway-I know what you're going through,I recently told my family about my addiction. It's a difficult topic to discuss-but better they hear if From YOU than to have someone else say it FOR you! I did it one person at a time-starting with Mom. Took her out to eat,used humor and made sure her mouth was full of food(-public place, can't yell-& it STILL took 45 min to even be able to say "I've been..."!)and went on to tell her about slamming for the last few years. Expect some crying,some yelling and a good LONG lecture.Also, i reminded her that she and the rest of my family were NOT to blame-that they'd done everything they could to discourage it,but in the end it was my OWN choice to use drugs. (Don't try to blame anyone but yourself for your actions!)
Humor can ease the tension-just don't do it to the point they think you don't take this seriously.
I admire the fact that you've already looked into rehab so they don't have to! You have a lot of courage to go through all this!
I told my family almost 6 months ago and am STILL using.
Hope all goes better for you,though. Good luck and warm wishes!!
Take care!
Anyway-I know what you're going through,I recently told my family about my addiction. It's a difficult topic to discuss-but better they hear if From YOU than to have someone else say it FOR you! I did it one person at a time-starting with Mom. Took her out to eat,used humor and made sure her mouth was full of food(-public place, can't yell-& it STILL took 45 min to even be able to say "I've been..."!)and went on to tell her about slamming for the last few years. Expect some crying,some yelling and a good LONG lecture.Also, i reminded her that she and the rest of my family were NOT to blame-that they'd done everything they could to discourage it,but in the end it was my OWN choice to use drugs. (Don't try to blame anyone but yourself for your actions!)
Humor can ease the tension-just don't do it to the point they think you don't take this seriously.
I admire the fact that you've already looked into rehab so they don't have to! You have a lot of courage to go through all this!
I told my family almost 6 months ago and am STILL using.
Hope all goes better for you,though. Good luck and warm wishes!!
Take care!
