How We Can Make Ourselves Feel Better

helo just been thru a recent episode w/ husband of 17 yrs. same old same old, lie, remorse, etc, but i 'm doing the whole self examinaation and taking care of myself, have beeb eating healthy for two weeks and working out 2 times a aday ( at home w/ knee surgery) it' s hard to feel good about youself cause i wonder why do i put up w/ it i sure do deserve more,i'm as sick as him need a companion a person to talk to (who should be my husband,) 0 0but it does get lonley. wish there was a person who appreciated me for just me, if he thought i was gorgous that what be ok too.. has ha.i feel like a fake at the ball park when all the mothers all talking and i don't just get it. is thier life any thing like mine and god forbid if any one had a clue, sorry for regressing, but heck at least the sun is coming up tommorrow and it's a new day your choice how your going to face it and react to it, positive vibes to everyone....
Laura, I'm glad you're taking care of yourself and working out and eating better! I too have started eating better and working out everyday! Instead of sitting on the couch feeling miserable, I get up, put on my soap and work out. You're right also in that we choose how we feel/react to our addict. No one can make us feel a certain way, we just allow them to make us feel that way.
Hey Laura,

When you said that about being "fake at the ballpark," I could really feel what you were saying. You wonder what all these people living their perfect little lives would think if they knew anything about what we were going thru, then you start to get sort of mad, then you feel sorry for yourself, wishing you were them - or they were you! At least that's how I would get. But then, I thought these "life experiences", as I choose to call them, actually make us shine all the more - sort of like a diamond in the rough - the more it is hammered and chiseled, the more brilliantly it shines - eventually. I hope things work out for you and your family and that before long, you won't have to act fake anymore!

Take care.
i totally agree!! its funny a lot of my friends just don't get it.. they are like F her she left you for another guy and thats that!! Thats not it though the addiction has taken over her and she is just so messed up.. Im convinced if she didnt get sucked away into this lifestyle, she'd still be here with me today. Well just keep on movin along, i know one day this nightmare that I woke up to will end!!
hi mother w. and thanks alot for your input, when someone asks oh, how are you? just one time i would lke to say it's going like s... and you? i have started walking at the ballpark instead of gossiping w/ all the mothers, it's just not important to me, like you said thier perfect lives, but then we really never know do we ? still working out 2 x a day , going to treat myself to all i deserve, , can't
help it, always have hope..... he's like two different people , actually he is ... but the times between relapses are getting longer and longer, so how come i feel even more devstated by them? i can't help but to be optimistic, but i'm having a great day today, my choice, take care,