This website is so interesting! I'ts hard to stay away. I know the other night, I said I was leaving and not posting anymore, but I have to one last time. It's amazing too me that all you see posted is from the same people, saying the same thing. Then, when someone new post a question, I noticed know one answers them. How sad!! No, I haven't taken anything, not being vindictive or mean, it's just an observation. Same people, same talk. I know the people who post are trying to be helpful, but truly, what are they doing? They could be high, as some of the posts you can hardly understand, and then there are the ones that I feel truly want help. This is a good message board to write back and forth to your friends ( the ones you let in), but I've found you truly need to see someone face to face and monitor your addiction, not just look for (please stay, your doing great, keep up the good work, etc.) Yes, I've got problems, but I'm seeing a psychologist in two hours, which I seen for over a year and I'm working things out. Anger, frustration, lonliness, hating yourself all leads to where we are at. I know I'm going to get angry feedback, but I just wanted to say, don't forget the new people or the ones that ask a question and don't receive feedback. Good luck to everyone.
Kansasgirl, I usually try to talk to people whether they are on my doc or not, i haven't been feeling too well myself. but i will try to find someone who can help them, i'm sorry you feel this way.
kansas..
I am really not understanding what you are refering to... what question did someone have that they didnt get an answer to?... did I miss something.. ?... cause usually if I know anything about what is asked I will respond with little exception... but there are time that I am not on and this holds true for others.. you will see me on from mainly 9-430 m-f... consistantly... others vary... so please elaborate and I will respond in kind..
Teresa
I am really not understanding what you are refering to... what question did someone have that they didnt get an answer to?... did I miss something.. ?... cause usually if I know anything about what is asked I will respond with little exception... but there are time that I am not on and this holds true for others.. you will see me on from mainly 9-430 m-f... consistantly... others vary... so please elaborate and I will respond in kind..
Teresa
I dont think youll get negitive feedback.Im glad you posted how you felt.Your right this board can have its times where you stop & say HUH????Ive been here since November 04.Ive seen alot of good things & bad things,.for me the good things & benefits I get from here far outweigh the bad.So I keep on comming on here.If things get all hectic Ill take a break.
You did say one thing that hit home for me.When you said about new people not getting answered.You made me realize that I havent reached out to truley help anyone until today.See Ive had things going on in my life that I was & still am trying to deal with,so I kinda over looked new people because I needed the support for me.Sounds selfish huh?I feel sometimes us addicts NEED to be selfish in a positive way.Like knowing you need extra support.But you did make me realize that Ive been doing that to people.Now some of my outside issues are alittle more in check so today Ive been on here for the first time in along time to reach out to others(i started doing this before your post by the way)I dont know why.Maybe because I feel alot better myself.Anyways Im glad you posted your thoughts & feeling though I dont agree with you I feel its good to let those feelings out....MJ
Ps Sorry this got so long.Just another sign Im feeling better
You did say one thing that hit home for me.When you said about new people not getting answered.You made me realize that I havent reached out to truley help anyone until today.See Ive had things going on in my life that I was & still am trying to deal with,so I kinda over looked new people because I needed the support for me.Sounds selfish huh?I feel sometimes us addicts NEED to be selfish in a positive way.Like knowing you need extra support.But you did make me realize that Ive been doing that to people.Now some of my outside issues are alittle more in check so today Ive been on here for the first time in along time to reach out to others(i started doing this before your post by the way)I dont know why.Maybe because I feel alot better myself.Anyways Im glad you posted your thoughts & feeling though I dont agree with you I feel its good to let those feelings out....MJ
Ps Sorry this got so long.Just another sign Im feeling better
Kansas... You're right, this board can be a tad bit clicky sometimes. That's what happens when you've been here along time and you get to know people by talking to them every day.
For some, this board is a life line. Yes, f2f meetings and support is 100 times more productive, but for some, that isn't or hasn't happend yet. We encourage people to do that though.
You're feeling like you don't fit in... that's not true. You're no different from me or anyone else on this board.
Sometimes it's hard for me to answer everyone, but I really do try and so do others. I see some, just say hi to a newcomer and just let them know that someone will be along to help them... we all do the best we can.
Stick around. Be part of the solution and not the problem. Tell us how you're feeling everyday. Writing that stuff down is theraputic and who knows, someone just might find something in your writings that strikes a chord within them. It might help get them clean.
Take care
Cowgirl
For some, this board is a life line. Yes, f2f meetings and support is 100 times more productive, but for some, that isn't or hasn't happend yet. We encourage people to do that though.
You're feeling like you don't fit in... that's not true. You're no different from me or anyone else on this board.
Sometimes it's hard for me to answer everyone, but I really do try and so do others. I see some, just say hi to a newcomer and just let them know that someone will be along to help them... we all do the best we can.
Stick around. Be part of the solution and not the problem. Tell us how you're feeling everyday. Writing that stuff down is theraputic and who knows, someone just might find something in your writings that strikes a chord within them. It might help get them clean.
Take care
Cowgirl
kansas,
I re-read your post and I read the responses thus far... maybe I completely misunderstood but it seemed to me that you had a specific circumstance or a specific instance in mind regarding a question that didnt get answered or where you felt that someone was ignored... at least that was my impression... if I was wrong I am sorry...
On the other hand, the others that are right for the most part... right now some are posting help more than others it seems and if it seems like it is the same ole same ole ... I am sorry... but you are right meetings and counselors are stressed highly here ..in fact some of us have been given much flack in the past for that...lol... so I am glad you are doing your on f2f recovery work...
There is no requirement in the amount of clean time or even being totally clean when posting help or support so you can post support as well as I think you have... You although have to decide if this board in all its wonderful personalities and flaws and faults is the right place to adjunct your recovery.... There have been turmoil and there will be again I am sure... but some very good recovery work get done here daily and that often makes things worth while...
so with that I will close... there are good people on here ... just a reminder.
Teresa
I re-read your post and I read the responses thus far... maybe I completely misunderstood but it seemed to me that you had a specific circumstance or a specific instance in mind regarding a question that didnt get answered or where you felt that someone was ignored... at least that was my impression... if I was wrong I am sorry...
On the other hand, the others that are right for the most part... right now some are posting help more than others it seems and if it seems like it is the same ole same ole ... I am sorry... but you are right meetings and counselors are stressed highly here ..in fact some of us have been given much flack in the past for that...lol... so I am glad you are doing your on f2f recovery work...
There is no requirement in the amount of clean time or even being totally clean when posting help or support so you can post support as well as I think you have... You although have to decide if this board in all its wonderful personalities and flaws and faults is the right place to adjunct your recovery.... There have been turmoil and there will be again I am sure... but some very good recovery work get done here daily and that often makes things worth while...
so with that I will close... there are good people on here ... just a reminder.
Teresa
Thanks for the nice replies!!! I could go back and name a few people who seemed to be having troubles, but would get 1 reply, but you guys can see. It's not totally up to moderators (Teresa, I'm not sure you are one, I'm quessing), but the world is so hard to live in and people are lonely ( me included) that it's just nice to see someone answering, especially when there are so many on this board. When I made my first post to say "hi" I received 6 replies (thank you) but how many people are on this everyday. Just a thought....
Yea, like Teresa.....
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Although helping others is part of my program of recovery, I'm here for me. It keeps me clean.
Why are you here?
xxx
Cowgirl
Why are you here?
xxx
Cowgirl
kansas...
no I not a moderator... if that is what you meant or thought... I just have a boring job and most days I am on most of the day....lol... I do my letters and briefs.. and mail.. but all and all .. I am just on here....lol... so no I am not a 'big cheese'.... the others that float around but dont say much... it will pick up.. ( I hope..)
Teresa
no I not a moderator... if that is what you meant or thought... I just have a boring job and most days I am on most of the day....lol... I do my letters and briefs.. and mail.. but all and all .. I am just on here....lol... so no I am not a 'big cheese'.... the others that float around but dont say much... it will pick up.. ( I hope..)
Teresa
Cowgirl, just like you are. Information and support are the most important, I feel, to staying clean. Peace.
It may seem that we're not answering new people, but that's not true......
Sometimes I log on and I only have a few minutes to post, so it's natural that I look for one of my "friends" to keep up-to-date.....
Other times, tons of people will post and a particular thread will end up at the bottom..... If others are like me, it's natural to log on and start from the posts at the top, so a topic that's at the bottom may not even be seen.
If you are new and feel like a question was not answered, click on your thread, type in the word "bump", and this will send your post to the top of the bunch, increasing the odds that others will see it....
And the reason it seems like we all say the same thing is because we do..... but that's because even though you may have read some particular advice already, someone who has just joined may be starting from square one and they need the same help and advice as everyone else.
We are not professionals.... we are not doctors or therapists..... we are peers trying to offer each other support during this rough time.
We are not perfect.
Danni
Sometimes I log on and I only have a few minutes to post, so it's natural that I look for one of my "friends" to keep up-to-date.....
Other times, tons of people will post and a particular thread will end up at the bottom..... If others are like me, it's natural to log on and start from the posts at the top, so a topic that's at the bottom may not even be seen.
If you are new and feel like a question was not answered, click on your thread, type in the word "bump", and this will send your post to the top of the bunch, increasing the odds that others will see it....
And the reason it seems like we all say the same thing is because we do..... but that's because even though you may have read some particular advice already, someone who has just joined may be starting from square one and they need the same help and advice as everyone else.
We are not professionals.... we are not doctors or therapists..... we are peers trying to offer each other support during this rough time.
We are not perfect.
Danni
Kansasgirl, I'm pretty new here too, and can see what you mean. There are friendships here where some exclusions exist. No doubt. No one wants to step in where they're not welcome. What I've found is that by trying to answer the new and even worse, ones who cry for help several times, when no one responds is very good therapy. I reach out to them as no one (with a couple of exceptions) reaches out to me. This is the best therapy. Maybe that's what you should do. Be there for the new ones...make friends and support each other. Get your own thing going. There are many like you said looking to make friends and receive support. Why can't that be us???
Hi Kansas, and welcome. Sorry the board seemed that way to you.....stick around, it won't after awhile. It's hard for me personally to remember who's who until I've posted to them a time or two. There's so many people here. Don't let Teresa fool you, she is a big cheese. See what you've done now, Teresa? She's going to have this strange visual of you. >eg< (how come no one ever told me what that meant before btw? I thought Lisa was saying something ugly to me,lol. People pop in here at different times too. I'm am in and out a little during the day, depending on what I have going, but mostly on at night. Forget mornings, I'm just not alive that early. I think time wise I'm at least an hour behind alot of people here. If I'm up at five am it's because I haven't fallen asleep yet or there's a sick kid in the house, tornado possibility etc... Anyway, kick in and talk about yourself. Love, Kat
We need some sort of name for you intodeep.....didnt' want to say.."hi Deep" that sounded a little wierd. Into sounds odd too. What do you think? Love, Kat
Kat just nailed it...kick in and talk about yourself....thats how we will get to know you.
When I first came here I just started posting my thoughts and questions, it wasn't long before I had cyber friends.
No one will ever shun you, don't ever be afraid to join a thread and give your oppinion, everyones voice here is important.
Redd
Intodeep is Beck, Kat, and shes a sweetheart.
Redd
Redd I gotta say HUH? Is in deep beck or are you picking a name?
I gotta say that sentence about lonely people in this world.Well that got me.Some know my situation some dont.But talk about lonely try not talking at all.This board & the people on here are probaly the ONLY reason I havent gone totally loopy.
So to whatever your name ends up being......PLEASE post try not to feel lonely cause someone is always here.....mjThank Goodness someone always is
I gotta say that sentence about lonely people in this world.Well that got me.Some know my situation some dont.But talk about lonely try not talking at all.This board & the people on here are probaly the ONLY reason I havent gone totally loopy.
So to whatever your name ends up being......PLEASE post try not to feel lonely cause someone is always here.....mjThank Goodness someone always is
I believe thats her name.....Beck, maybe short for Becky?
Help me out Beck.
Redd
kat ..
does this mean I have to where that big cheese head hat thing I got when the greenbay packers were in the superbowl?... lol... just kidding...
kansas...
i know it may feel that way regarding fitting in but you will find that if you need help and ask for it .... no matter what we will all come crawling out of the woodwork to help.... friend or foe on the surface stuff.... we all know that we are on common ground with this disease and that is just that simple....
Teresa
does this mean I have to where that big cheese head hat thing I got when the greenbay packers were in the superbowl?... lol... just kidding...
kansas...
i know it may feel that way regarding fitting in but you will find that if you need help and ask for it .... no matter what we will all come crawling out of the woodwork to help.... friend or foe on the surface stuff.... we all know that we are on common ground with this disease and that is just that simple....
Teresa
