I recently started dating a great guy. He is everything that I ever hoped for! A month into our relationship, his best friend phones me and tells me that my boyfriend booked himself into rehab for depression, alcoholism and drug abuse.
I have no idea what to do! I want to stand by him and help him through this, but since I'm also a depression sufferer myself, I don't know if it is the best option for me?
I know it says a lot that he knew he needed help and went looking for it, but what happens in the long run? What happens when he relapses? He is only 25 and have all these problems already!
I don't know what to do!!
Dear Buttercup ,Your boyfriend should be commended for realizing he needed help and admitting himself to a rehab.I can understand being concerned as the relationship is relatively fresh.You have 2 choices you can support him emotionally and take one day at a time,or you can decide not to pursue the relationship any further....as I said he was the one who made the decision to seek help.....You also said you suffer from depression,have you sought out help for yourself?Take one day at a time.....encourage him tell him your glad he sought help ...time will tell how your relationship will unfold.
Thank you for the reply. It really helps to get someone else's perspective....someone outside of the situation and that doesn't know one of us.
I have sought help for my depression and I am at quite a good stage in my life at the moment, that's why I'm so confused. Should I leave now and rather look after myself and put myself first like everyone want me to, or should I stay and support him, because he really is a wonderful person and has never been anything but amazing to me. He also doesn't really have the support of his family, so if I leave I am scared that he would just relapse as soon as he walks out of rehab.
I have sought help for my depression and I am at quite a good stage in my life at the moment, that's why I'm so confused. Should I leave now and rather look after myself and put myself first like everyone want me to, or should I stay and support him, because he really is a wonderful person and has never been anything but amazing to me. He also doesn't really have the support of his family, so if I leave I am scared that he would just relapse as soon as he walks out of rehab.
Does he know about your depression?
Maybe he'd consider leaving too if he knew about you ?
It's a double sided coin.. What would you want him to do? Maybe start there...
mTm
Maybe he'd consider leaving too if he knew about you ?
It's a double sided coin.. What would you want him to do? Maybe start there...
mTm
Dear Buttercup, A good relationship involves good communication, as I said commend him for seeking help.It is up to you whether you want to communicate to him as far as your battle with depression.You might tell him you are also working on yourself at the moment.I think honesty is important it is a good foundation to build upon...as I stressed a day at a time but be honest with each other so you can explore whether you are willing to pursue the relationship or whether you can be supportive friends...Right now honesty is the key....one day at a time and what the future holds will unfold as you go...good luck to both of you!
Thank you for all your advice. I really appreciate it :)
Buttercup, Your not alone...we're here for you!If you need someone to talk to vent whatever you need to express....
