Hi guys, just thought I'd check in. I'm feeling pretty miserable today. It's nothing to do with my little angel - she's the best thing that ever happened to me. It's just her twat of a father that's been getting me down. I'm just sick of him being nasty to me, and putting me down, and making me feel worthless. And if I try to tell him that's how he makes me feel, he just tries to make me feel like I'm the one with the problem. Says he's gonna call my Dr and say that I need more medication, cause I'm going nuts. Tells me that I must be post-natally depressed, coz I tell him I hate the way he makes me feel. Says s*** like if I can't cope with the baby then why did I have her. I tell him that I can cope with the baby just fine, it's HIM who I can't cope with.
He says he wants to "discuss" why I'm sitting there crying, so I tell him there's absolutely no point coz if I say anything critical about him, then he just turns it around and tells me I'm losing the plot, and it's never a discussion, it's just him calling me a "stupid fat twat" coz I dare to inform him that his constant moaning about me and insulting me, and putting me down is hurting me. It's never him being hurtful, it's always my fault for feeling the pain, and that must be because I'm mentally unbalanced, and ridiculously over-sensitive. It couldn't possibly be his fault, coz he's completely perfect of course, and no matter what happens in his life, it's NEVER his fault.
So after the completely pointless "discussion" he says that he'll stay in his part of the house, and I'll stay in mine, adding "Is that what you want, coz if I walk away now, that's it with us, it's over!". I say "Praise the Lord, you've just had your EUREKA moment!" He gets confused coz he ain't too well educated and doesn't know what eureka means. So I say "Yeah, great, I just want you to leave me alone, so go away and do what makes you happy, as long as it's as far away from me as possible...". Well that kind of burst his bubble, so off he trots, with much slamming of doors. Some time later he realises that he came off worst in that little exchange, so he comes in again, and tries to throw me a bone, without losing face (like I give a s***!). Says "is that little performance over then?" I say "Come again? I don't know what you mean by performance." So off he goes again. Comes back in again 10 mins later telling me to go and see to the dog. I stonewall him and say that I'm busy feeding the baby, I'll get round to the dog when she goes to sleep. He goes away again, comes back a little while later and offers to take the baby off me. I hand him the baby and go and walk my dog. When I get home, the baby is grisling, he more or less throws her at me, tells me to go and change her nappy coz she's soaked (she wasn't) and he stomps off again, with a swift "f*** off you stupid fat b****". You think he'd think of something a bit more original. This "fat b****" thing, he thinks he's perfectly entitled to say it, because I no longer have a 24 inch waist, due to giving birth 3 weeks ago. He actually told me that. He said that I was a lazy fat b**** coz my body wasn't in exactly the same shape it was before I was pregnant, and he thinks that 3 weeks is more than long enough to have got back into shape. He said I should be working out and going swimming etc. I pointed out that I hadn't stopped bleeding yet. God knows why I bother, coz he ain't worth the wasted breath. I hate that man. He's such a lost cause.
I dunno, been here so many times before. When will I learn that my fairytale ending is just in my head? He will hurt me over and over again until I cut him out of my heart, and my life. He brings me nothing but misery. His selfishness knows no bounds. He doesn't know how to love, and it's not my job to teach him. It would be a thankless task anyway. I find myself wishing that I could catch him in the act with his tart, and I'd so enjoy telling her the truth about him, and washing my hands of him forever. I doubt she'd want to be with him once she knew that he knocks me about, even when I was pregnant. And if she did, then more fool her. I'd enjoy telling everybody the truth about him...
Sorry for this prolonged rant. I just had to get it off my chest...
love
Diff xxxx
Ahhhhh, Diff I'm so sorry sweetie.
Well maybe ya can say this "FAT? I'm the mother of your child so no matter if I'm fat, ugly, bald or whatever I'm the mother of your daughter so have some respect and be a man and shut the f*c* up".
O.K. so yeah ummmm, how would that work? I am so sorry.
All else I can say is "HE HAS TO SLEEP SOMETIME"
OR
Pick on his very weakness.........say I can lose wieght but what ya gonna do about your face? That works all the time. I've done that and said "Rogaine don't work did ya hear? So yeah that bald spot ya need a toupee ya fat arse, bald penniless MOFO".
Feel better Diff.......that stinks.
Well maybe ya can say this "FAT? I'm the mother of your child so no matter if I'm fat, ugly, bald or whatever I'm the mother of your daughter so have some respect and be a man and shut the f*c* up".
O.K. so yeah ummmm, how would that work? I am so sorry.
All else I can say is "HE HAS TO SLEEP SOMETIME"
OR
Pick on his very weakness.........say I can lose wieght but what ya gonna do about your face? That works all the time. I've done that and said "Rogaine don't work did ya hear? So yeah that bald spot ya need a toupee ya fat arse, bald penniless MOFO".
Feel better Diff.......that stinks.
Diff,
Sorry for your pain. He has no respect. Don't even sound like he knows the meaning of that word either. My Mom, (God rest her beautiful soul) used to always tell me that...when people PUT YOU DOWN, it usually means that they are NOT HAPPY with THEMSELVES. It makes them feel better to pick on the other person because they are the ones who look AND feel like s***. It's not you.
I'll bet that deep inside he admires you for all of your accomplishments. He just doesn't know how to express himself so the only thing he KNOWS how to do is put you down. You have beat drugs and now you are raising a CHILD!!! You went through childbirth, and a very difficult one, now you are home, doing housework, caring for your baby and his scummy a**. He could NEVER do it! He is too stupid to realize that you CAN'T excersise yet. You must give your body a chance to bouce back from childbirth. It's too dangerous to start working out right now.......the baby is only three weeks old!
You just keep on doing what you are doing. Sounds to me like you got your act together honey! He can't join you, so he wants to beat you down. Don't let him. YOUR A MOTHER FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE!! You can handle anything now!
~hugs~
Danie
Sorry for your pain. He has no respect. Don't even sound like he knows the meaning of that word either. My Mom, (God rest her beautiful soul) used to always tell me that...when people PUT YOU DOWN, it usually means that they are NOT HAPPY with THEMSELVES. It makes them feel better to pick on the other person because they are the ones who look AND feel like s***. It's not you.
I'll bet that deep inside he admires you for all of your accomplishments. He just doesn't know how to express himself so the only thing he KNOWS how to do is put you down. You have beat drugs and now you are raising a CHILD!!! You went through childbirth, and a very difficult one, now you are home, doing housework, caring for your baby and his scummy a**. He could NEVER do it! He is too stupid to realize that you CAN'T excersise yet. You must give your body a chance to bouce back from childbirth. It's too dangerous to start working out right now.......the baby is only three weeks old!
You just keep on doing what you are doing. Sounds to me like you got your act together honey! He can't join you, so he wants to beat you down. Don't let him. YOUR A MOTHER FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE!! You can handle anything now!
~hugs~
Danie
Diff, I copied and pasted this from the WEB MD. It's a site where you can ask doctors questions related to any health issue. xo
At first getting to know and caring for your baby will seem to leave you little time for contemplating (let alone doing any) exercise. Any exercise you did during pregnancy will help you to regain fitness more easily but just start gently, take the advice of your midwife, health visitor or doctor, and listen to your body!
As a general rule, you should avoid all physical stress for two weeks after the birth - carry nothing heavier than the baby - and dont embark on any strenuous post-natal exercise regime for six weeks. In the case of a Caesarean section birth, you should wait 8-10 weeks. However, you can start walking as soon as you feel able, and the sooner pelvic floor exercises are started, the better!
Now your goals are likely to be:
A return to pre-pregnancy weight
Improvement in abdominal tone
An improved body image and more energy
Start gradually, walking and pushing your baby in the buggy, or carrying her in a supportive sling, and after six weeks increase the duration of your walks. Keep your back straight, pull your tummy in and step up the pace over time. Keep up those pelvic floor exercises!
Six weeks after the birth, you could start some strength training but build intensity gradually remembering that your joint laxity is still affected by relaxin. Core strength exercises are great for strengthening your abdominals. To locate your core muscles, pull your navel in towards your spine this is your internal corset which is essential for good posture, reduced back pain, and, of course a flat stomach!
Remember, You cant spot reduce! I.e. you cannot shift excess fat from say, your tummy or upper arms, by concentrating all your training efforts on hundreds of sit-ups or tricep dips. You will simply develop disproportionate muscles under the layer of fat, making the area even bigger. If you have problem areas, then these are the areas where your body genetically stores excess body fat. The only way to reduce the fat here is to reduce your overall body fat to lean muscle ratio, and you will achieve this with a programme of cardio and strength work, combined with a healthy diet.
If your abdominal muscle split during pregnancy (this is very common, and painless), you will need to start with some adapted exercises to encourage the muscles to return to their pre-pregnancy position and tone. Your personal trainer will show you how to test for this condition, known as diastasis recti, and will show you how to monitor your own progress as you get back into shape!
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Hi, Diff. I don't know you really, but it just breaks my heart that you're being treated so poorly right after you had your baby. He sounds like a royal a******. Right now you're in a really vulverable position; so I'm sure you feel stuck. Just know that you're not. I left my daughter's dad when she was a month old...saved us both a world of hurt. If your baby grows up hearing this crap, she will "expect" the same for herself later...and that will hurt more than anything. Tell this wanker to imagine his daughter being spoken to as he speaks to you...because statistics prove that that's exactly what happens when men disrespect the mothers of their child, even if they're good to the little one. He's setting her up to be hurt and it will be HIS FAULT. I'm so angry that you are not getting to enjoy your time right now and feeling so down. You know which end is up, Diff. Don't let him affect your moods. Remember, people that act like him only do so because they feel so s***ty about themselves. I can't wait till you tell him his side of the house is on the other side of the frickin door...and YOU WILL. Meanwhile, vent all you want here. He's just too immature to and emotionally lacking to help you in your post pregnancy..it has nothing to do with you. Snuggle with your baby, call your friends, walk your dog....EXCLUDE him from your thoughts. So sorry you're hurting. luv corrinne
Diff, look ya got excellent advice from two cool women here.
Me? I go for the throat. Look at my advice to ya.......call him bald or tell him he needs a nose job.
Ya have to laugh at that, Diff if just for a second.....Danie and dear Corrinne they are so great with help.......me I'm all like well I'd be telling him.
Diff, my gentleman friend......nothing more......by nature he's loud.....and we were at a social thing with all his family the other day......and he's all like "Hey, didn't I tell ya to bring that film?".........see if it's just us I totally ignore that because well he seriously don't know he's doing it........people there OH NO....I said real ladylike "Pardon me? Were you adressing me with that yap?".....his brother said "Oh yeah big mouth himself"......and the bros wife said "Oh he did that as well until I toned that down twenty years ago".
Oh just trying to make ya feel so not all alone........come on now.....I was like well I'm going back over to that 78 year old man chatting me up because well he's faster and better looking than you.......Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.
Hugs Diff........and Corr's is right.........you should be enjoying this time in your life........and Rowannne will absolutely believe that's alright....the way things are.
Me? I go for the throat. Look at my advice to ya.......call him bald or tell him he needs a nose job.
Ya have to laugh at that, Diff if just for a second.....Danie and dear Corrinne they are so great with help.......me I'm all like well I'd be telling him.
Diff, my gentleman friend......nothing more......by nature he's loud.....and we were at a social thing with all his family the other day......and he's all like "Hey, didn't I tell ya to bring that film?".........see if it's just us I totally ignore that because well he seriously don't know he's doing it........people there OH NO....I said real ladylike "Pardon me? Were you adressing me with that yap?".....his brother said "Oh yeah big mouth himself"......and the bros wife said "Oh he did that as well until I toned that down twenty years ago".
Oh just trying to make ya feel so not all alone........come on now.....I was like well I'm going back over to that 78 year old man chatting me up because well he's faster and better looking than you.......Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.
Hugs Diff........and Corr's is right.........you should be enjoying this time in your life........and Rowannne will absolutely believe that's alright....the way things are.
Dear Diff,
I'm so sorry to hear how he's continuing to treat you. At least you have your dear little baby to love you and bring your spirits up even though she's a lot of work right now. How are things coming with the housing? I am looking forward to hearing you say you and Rowanne are moving on with your lives without this horrible male (I don't even respect him enough to call him a man!). In fact, I think Corrinne's name for him (a******) suited him perfectly!
You are in my prayers.
Love,
Susan
I'm so sorry to hear how he's continuing to treat you. At least you have your dear little baby to love you and bring your spirits up even though she's a lot of work right now. How are things coming with the housing? I am looking forward to hearing you say you and Rowanne are moving on with your lives without this horrible male (I don't even respect him enough to call him a man!). In fact, I think Corrinne's name for him (a******) suited him perfectly!
You are in my prayers.
Love,
Susan
Am so sorry your going through this and I totally understand your pain as I went through it myself just after I had my little girl. Not quite as bad as yourself though. He did bother with the baby at first but as time went on the novelty wore off. I also got the fat thing threw at me all the time and that I was thick, mentally unstable cos I was crying all the time and when I tried to talk to him he would turn everything round and it was all my fault. This was all b4 he started using heroin and brought on a whole new bundle of problems. Believe it or not he is now a nicer person than b4 and am scared for when he does eventually start taking the subitex.
I know its so difficult to decide whether or not to leave this man because it goes through your head "what about the baby"?? but I have realised that I can perfectly cope without him and do almost everything without him anymore and I certainly dont need him to make me feel better cos if anything he just makes me feel worthless.
Anyway...am waffling on about myself..more to the point. F**k him cos its obviously him who is the insacure one and it makes him better to make you sad cos then he aint the only one sad in his pathetic little life. They do this to make themselves feel better and they are so stupid they dont even realise. Deep down your the strong one and your the one deeling with everything...sounds to me as if he just runs away when things get tough. Just always remember you just had a baby. You need to take it easy as long as you can. Its not recommended that you get back into strong excersize until after 3-6 months and it can take well over a year to get back to your original figure. I say get back to yourself as much as you can, put on a brave face in front of him and start excluding him from your life. Do everything without him and tell him nothing. Speaking from experience...I lost all my weight (note my daughter is 13 month nd its took me this long), started going on sun beds, eating healthy, taking vitimin tablets and had a life of my own and now he is soooo jeleuous and realises what he has got to loose. Most of all sweety you dont need him cos you got the most important and special thing that life can ever achieve and thats your baby. Be strng for the baby and you will find a strength within yourself that you never knew you had. Dont let that b*tard get into your head anymore hun.
Be strong. Will be thinking of you. Love BunnyRocker xx
I know its so difficult to decide whether or not to leave this man because it goes through your head "what about the baby"?? but I have realised that I can perfectly cope without him and do almost everything without him anymore and I certainly dont need him to make me feel better cos if anything he just makes me feel worthless.
Anyway...am waffling on about myself..more to the point. F**k him cos its obviously him who is the insacure one and it makes him better to make you sad cos then he aint the only one sad in his pathetic little life. They do this to make themselves feel better and they are so stupid they dont even realise. Deep down your the strong one and your the one deeling with everything...sounds to me as if he just runs away when things get tough. Just always remember you just had a baby. You need to take it easy as long as you can. Its not recommended that you get back into strong excersize until after 3-6 months and it can take well over a year to get back to your original figure. I say get back to yourself as much as you can, put on a brave face in front of him and start excluding him from your life. Do everything without him and tell him nothing. Speaking from experience...I lost all my weight (note my daughter is 13 month nd its took me this long), started going on sun beds, eating healthy, taking vitimin tablets and had a life of my own and now he is soooo jeleuous and realises what he has got to loose. Most of all sweety you dont need him cos you got the most important and special thing that life can ever achieve and thats your baby. Be strng for the baby and you will find a strength within yourself that you never knew you had. Dont let that b*tard get into your head anymore hun.
Be strong. Will be thinking of you. Love BunnyRocker xx
Hiya - thanks for all your support. I know everything you say is true, but it's hard to keep a straight head on when somebody keeps picking on your insecurities. He did actually apologise to me this morning, for his "twattish" behaviour (his actual words - well he got one thing right!). Said he didn't know why he was so nasty to me. But we been here so many times. I just try and get on with things, and look after my little girl, and try and let it just go straight over my head. But it has an effect on me. When I met him, I had a bit of an eating disorder, and was painfully thin. He used to moan at me for being too skinny! He did actually help me to start eating more, and was pleased when I gained some weight, even though I felt insecure about putting on weight. He told me I looked much more attractive, and healthier, and nicer to cuddle up to when I wasn't all skin and bones. But as anyone who's suffered from an eating disorder knows, being called fat is like a mortal injury, and is more than enough to start the whole thing off again. And I know that I'm making excuses not to eat again, and going back to starvation rations, and have lost a lot of the "baby fat" already, even though I know that it's too soon after the birth to be going on strict diets, especially as I'm breastfeeding my baby. I know I shouldn't let him get to me, but he makes me feel so ugly, and I can't bear to feel that way.
If anyone treated my daughter like he treats me, I'd kill 'em. Story of my life. I'm the first person to go out of their way to help somebody else, and the very last person to help myself... I just get resigned to the way things are.
love
Diff xxx
If anyone treated my daughter like he treats me, I'd kill 'em. Story of my life. I'm the first person to go out of their way to help somebody else, and the very last person to help myself... I just get resigned to the way things are.
love
Diff xxx
diff
although i dont reply iread most of your posts on here,you have been through so muvh and got through it to have yor gorgeous little girl,dont let let him pull you down,why do some men have to be such arses,i left the useless thing that is supposed to be my eldest daughters dad when shewas 3 months old,she was born early,only weighed 3 pounds,and was in hospital for a month ,i should have known then when he only visited her twice what a w*nker he was,but i tried to make it work,i had had a happy childhood my parents are still together now,theres five of us kids and i wanted the same for my kids,but he hit me and was verry nasty with his mouth,his words definetaly hurt more han any beating he gave me,he was to busy out on speed with his so called mates,but expected me to be there for him,so we left with just our clotyhes back to mymums it wasnt great ,but it was the best decision i made ,he met a girl moved to another town,and now we havnt seen or heard from him in 10 yrs ,i hope it stays that way!take care of yourself remember you dont deserve or need to be treated this way,
seren
although i dont reply iread most of your posts on here,you have been through so muvh and got through it to have yor gorgeous little girl,dont let let him pull you down,why do some men have to be such arses,i left the useless thing that is supposed to be my eldest daughters dad when shewas 3 months old,she was born early,only weighed 3 pounds,and was in hospital for a month ,i should have known then when he only visited her twice what a w*nker he was,but i tried to make it work,i had had a happy childhood my parents are still together now,theres five of us kids and i wanted the same for my kids,but he hit me and was verry nasty with his mouth,his words definetaly hurt more han any beating he gave me,he was to busy out on speed with his so called mates,but expected me to be there for him,so we left with just our clotyhes back to mymums it wasnt great ,but it was the best decision i made ,he met a girl moved to another town,and now we havnt seen or heard from him in 10 yrs ,i hope it stays that way!take care of yourself remember you dont deserve or need to be treated this way,
seren
Diff,
I find it so strange how familiar it all sounds. I also suffered from an eating dissorder..belimia. I was eating then sticking my fingers down my throat to bring it all back up. I understand how hard the word "fat" is and how guilty eating makes me feel. I still do it now and again but I kind of have control cos its not all the time anymore. You know how important it is to eat while you are breast feeding for your baby and yourself otherwise you will collapse. I dont normally give my email address out but I would love to msn you and have a proper one to one chat with you seen as we are pretty much going through a similar thing. My email is LyndsayG425@hotmail.co.uk. Please feel free but I understand if you dont. I know you know what you got to do and I also know how hard it is to do the right thing. Please be string...food is not a bad thing. Even if you try to eat little and often then you dont feel so gready and fat. Drink plenty and also try glucose tablets. If you still cant manage food then try a food suppliment called fortisip. Its a milk drink and you can get it in all flavours..strawberry, chocolate, banane, vanilla. It gives you all the goodness of food without the guilt. I get them on prescription from my doc so please ask your doc if your struggling to eat and try to get some goodness back into you and some energy. You need all the energy you can get looking after a baby...dont I know that..lol. Anyway would be nice to hear from you but will keep checking on here. Have my fingers crossed for you and hope you get better soon.
Take care hun. Love BunnyRocker xx
I find it so strange how familiar it all sounds. I also suffered from an eating dissorder..belimia. I was eating then sticking my fingers down my throat to bring it all back up. I understand how hard the word "fat" is and how guilty eating makes me feel. I still do it now and again but I kind of have control cos its not all the time anymore. You know how important it is to eat while you are breast feeding for your baby and yourself otherwise you will collapse. I dont normally give my email address out but I would love to msn you and have a proper one to one chat with you seen as we are pretty much going through a similar thing. My email is LyndsayG425@hotmail.co.uk. Please feel free but I understand if you dont. I know you know what you got to do and I also know how hard it is to do the right thing. Please be string...food is not a bad thing. Even if you try to eat little and often then you dont feel so gready and fat. Drink plenty and also try glucose tablets. If you still cant manage food then try a food suppliment called fortisip. Its a milk drink and you can get it in all flavours..strawberry, chocolate, banane, vanilla. It gives you all the goodness of food without the guilt. I get them on prescription from my doc so please ask your doc if your struggling to eat and try to get some goodness back into you and some energy. You need all the energy you can get looking after a baby...dont I know that..lol. Anyway would be nice to hear from you but will keep checking on here. Have my fingers crossed for you and hope you get better soon.
Take care hun. Love BunnyRocker xx
Diif,
I've said this before you're addicted to this guy the way some of us are addicted to addicts - thinking we can fix them, change them, make it better, get a fairytale ending. You know how this will play out, you know that for your little girl's sake that being around him isn't good. And he apologises and you let it go make an excuse until the next time. I know you will only let go when you come to the absolute end and you can't try no more. You're strong you've beated the gear, this guy is a bully you can make it without him - been there done that - wished I'd got out sooner before my little girl built up a relationship with him.
love
karen
x
I've said this before you're addicted to this guy the way some of us are addicted to addicts - thinking we can fix them, change them, make it better, get a fairytale ending. You know how this will play out, you know that for your little girl's sake that being around him isn't good. And he apologises and you let it go make an excuse until the next time. I know you will only let go when you come to the absolute end and you can't try no more. You're strong you've beated the gear, this guy is a bully you can make it without him - been there done that - wished I'd got out sooner before my little girl built up a relationship with him.
love
karen
x
Dearest Diff,
Boy, is Jazwan right. Not only about you, but I related what she said to my own situation. As bad as you and I want things to change, we are only hurting ourselves by WAITING for things to change. During the waiting period we are damaging ourselves and in your case your new baby. What if (heaven forbid) when Rowanne is a little toddler getting into everything (as most children do) what if he took a swing at her and really hurt her? If he has hit you, what makes you think he won't hit his child? I would personally fly to the UK and kick his f***ing a** for you if that happened!
Listen girl, you sound to me like a real level headed chick. YOU BEAT HEROIN! As far as I am concerned you can do anything! You should change your nickname on here to WONDERWOMAN!
LOVE,
D
Boy, is Jazwan right. Not only about you, but I related what she said to my own situation. As bad as you and I want things to change, we are only hurting ourselves by WAITING for things to change. During the waiting period we are damaging ourselves and in your case your new baby. What if (heaven forbid) when Rowanne is a little toddler getting into everything (as most children do) what if he took a swing at her and really hurt her? If he has hit you, what makes you think he won't hit his child? I would personally fly to the UK and kick his f***ing a** for you if that happened!
Listen girl, you sound to me like a real level headed chick. YOU BEAT HEROIN! As far as I am concerned you can do anything! You should change your nickname on here to WONDERWOMAN!
LOVE,
D
Hi guys, thanks again - I think I'd go mad if I didn't have you all to sound off at! I'm just so tired of being hurt all the time. I'm so sick of feeling like this, and I'm sick of my pathetic obsession (for want of a better word) with someone who makes me feel so bad about myself. All I ever wanted was to feel loved, and something inside me wants to do the impossible and turn this relationship into the one I think I should be having, the one I want to be in. Maybe I'm scared of the direction I may take if left to my own devices. I don't know. I feel that the very last thing I'd do is go back to heroin, but I have lived with self-sabotage my whole life, and if it's not heroin, and it's not a man who treats me like the dirt I must believe I am, then I'll probably find some other way to uck myself up my own arse!
But it's hard to be down for long when I've got such a gorgeous little girl to cheer me up. I was lying on the bed tonight, crying because he'd been bitching about me again, and I looked down at her and she gave me a great big grin. Priceless!
love
diff xxx
But it's hard to be down for long when I've got such a gorgeous little girl to cheer me up. I was lying on the bed tonight, crying because he'd been bitching about me again, and I looked down at her and she gave me a great big grin. Priceless!
love
diff xxx
it's the little things like that Diff, they make life worth living. you have the greatest love of all......that little baby.
D
D
Diff
I know you must have your reasons, but I just cant see them.
I hope you work something out where you can move yourself and the baby to a better situation.
It seems like this is going to get any better. Best of luck and be careful, I was married to an alcoholic for 5 years & it was dangerous and terrible environment for me and my son.
all the best & much love
jack
I know you must have your reasons, but I just cant see them.
I hope you work something out where you can move yourself and the baby to a better situation.
It seems like this is going to get any better. Best of luck and be careful, I was married to an alcoholic for 5 years & it was dangerous and terrible environment for me and my son.
all the best & much love
jack
Hello Diff,
I usually post on the PP site but I wanted to stop in here and tell you that I have read your story. You sound like such a loving women. Now you have a child a beautiful little girl. Congratulations! What a blessing children are.
I would run not walk as fast as you can. I know that this is hard but it will be so worth it. You don't want your daughter to learn that "love hurts" because it doesn't.
He has so many problems and he needs to deal with them. He sounds like a class A jerk. You don't need it and neither does your baby girl. Find a way and get out. Your life will improve so much.
What type of a man would demean a women...the mother of his baby....weeks after giving birth? A very sick and disturbed man...and if you think it will get better it won't. You are going through so many changes right now both physically and mentally your hormones are going bonkers right now! But it does and will pass. Right now you have to stay healthy for you and your daughter. In a few months you will have your shape back. You want to have a happy baby right. Well you won't in that poisonous environment.
Sending out some prayers...and hugs for you...you need them...kee kee
I usually post on the PP site but I wanted to stop in here and tell you that I have read your story. You sound like such a loving women. Now you have a child a beautiful little girl. Congratulations! What a blessing children are.
I would run not walk as fast as you can. I know that this is hard but it will be so worth it. You don't want your daughter to learn that "love hurts" because it doesn't.
He has so many problems and he needs to deal with them. He sounds like a class A jerk. You don't need it and neither does your baby girl. Find a way and get out. Your life will improve so much.
What type of a man would demean a women...the mother of his baby....weeks after giving birth? A very sick and disturbed man...and if you think it will get better it won't. You are going through so many changes right now both physically and mentally your hormones are going bonkers right now! But it does and will pass. Right now you have to stay healthy for you and your daughter. In a few months you will have your shape back. You want to have a happy baby right. Well you won't in that poisonous environment.
Sending out some prayers...and hugs for you...you need them...kee kee
