It's a bit of a long story, but here's the jist of it:
This woman has always had a bit of an anger management problem. Let's call her Jeanette. As an example, several years ago when she didn't get a promotion she wanted, she began screaming and cursing the Executive Director, then, from what I heard, when she realized what she did she broke down in tears, so this gives you some background although since you're only hearing my side, you may have doubts which I will understand.
Anyway, last week a new employee strarted and she told me Jeanette had been yelling at her for using the wrong sized garbaged bag on her first day but had stopped when I entered the office.
I told the new employee that Jeanette wasn't evil but was basically not a very nice person, just try to get along with her etc.
The telephone rang about 1/2 hour later and the new employee answered the phone and she told me Jeanette had called and had her punch her out on the timeclock. This is serious business here and Jeanette has done this before. I told my boss and the Human Resouces person. Jeanette is now in trouble ( I think has a write-up) and another employee told me she was talking bad about me and the new girl.
When I came in today, Jenette, the new girl and Jenette's 2 friends were talking so I asked if Jenatte had anything to say to me and she started calling me an "as-h-le, Mo--ter-Fu-ker" and "that is why your wife left you" and swore at me for about thirty minutes on and off. I never yelled at her or used bad language and in fact during one point just admitted what I did and suggested the adult thing would be to just take the whole thing as a learning experience.
Now both my co-workers are acting like I did something wrong, and neither will talk to me or make eye-contact, which is very uncomfortable.
Am I the bad guy in this situation? Should I not report a co-worker who is basically comitting fraud when she's done it before?
How come I am the bad guy in this situation?
Puzzelled in Fairbanks
Ernie, You are not the bad guy. Sounds like you work with some folks with low morals, and they are just taking advantage of your vulnerability right now. You did the right thing, and Jenette's friends know it, as does she. She will probably never admit you were right and forgive you, but her friend's no doubt have her number and actually respect you for standing up to her. Give the friends time and they will come around. They are probably scared of her and afraid not to be on her side right now.
Jenette doesn't sound like a person whose friendship you will hurt from not having.
Don't let them get to you. Take the high road and laugh it off.
Hope you are doing well otherwise. :-)
Thanks Carol. That means a lot me, what you said.
It's kind of how I think too, and part of my recovery, the way I see it, is to be completely honest, but I sometimes wonder if i can carry it a little too far.
On of her friends I work with, just got mad at me when I told the new girl that I was sorry she got involved in something like this the first day she was on the job.
Teresita said to me, "Jenette is my friend, you need to seperate your personal life from your professional." Whatever that means.
Oh, by the way, jenette just got a little promotion, so she actually outranks me a little now.
It's kind of how I think too, and part of my recovery, the way I see it, is to be completely honest, but I sometimes wonder if i can carry it a little too far.
On of her friends I work with, just got mad at me when I told the new girl that I was sorry she got involved in something like this the first day she was on the job.
Teresita said to me, "Jenette is my friend, you need to seperate your personal life from your professional." Whatever that means.
Oh, by the way, jenette just got a little promotion, so she actually outranks me a little now.
You must work at the same place I did.
Kerry
Kerry
She needs lithium.LOL.Sorry, I just got back from the beach and had a great day surfing.
Ernie, I think you did the right thing.As long as you were not being vindictive in your motives.
Ernie, I think you did the right thing.As long as you were not being vindictive in your motives.
Ernie,
Sounds like your co- worker is alittle intimidating. Your other co-workers probably want to stay cool with her so they arent her next target. I would have as little contact with her as possible. Unless she starts with you, then I would go to your boss and have a talk in a very calm way........good Luck......Shel
Sounds like your co- worker is alittle intimidating. Your other co-workers probably want to stay cool with her so they arent her next target. I would have as little contact with her as possible. Unless she starts with you, then I would go to your boss and have a talk in a very calm way........good Luck......Shel
Shel, intimidating is right. She is a Phillapeno woman and her cousin works here as well.
My co-worker Vanessa said when she came in the door about 6 months ago she saw Jenette and her cousin "kind of struggling" (as she told me) and then she saw the cousin with a little bit of blood coming from her nose!
I could tell you story after story, but that would be fruitless.
Anyway, thanks for your advice.
I like to vent here sometimes when I'm stressed, like tonight!
My co-worker Vanessa said when she came in the door about 6 months ago she saw Jenette and her cousin "kind of struggling" (as she told me) and then she saw the cousin with a little bit of blood coming from her nose!
I could tell you story after story, but that would be fruitless.
Anyway, thanks for your advice.
I like to vent here sometimes when I'm stressed, like tonight!
Ernie
Don't feel too bad, I Just walked off my job or rather clocked out at 10: 30 when I wasn't supposed to leave till 11:00pm.........Some little 27 yr old, just set the old Irish off on a topic she should have never touched with a 10 ft. pole
By tomorrow, I'll either be fired, written up, Or this will blow up in her poumpous face..........In any case, if I Stay, I Doubt she will ever open up her mouth to me again, You Win Some, You Lose Some............I'm hoping I Win!!
Dottie
Don't feel too bad, I Just walked off my job or rather clocked out at 10: 30 when I wasn't supposed to leave till 11:00pm.........Some little 27 yr old, just set the old Irish off on a topic she should have never touched with a 10 ft. pole
By tomorrow, I'll either be fired, written up, Or this will blow up in her poumpous face..........In any case, if I Stay, I Doubt she will ever open up her mouth to me again, You Win Some, You Lose Some............I'm hoping I Win!!
Dottie
