I hope somone can give me the answers I am looking for,as i am hearing a lot of conflicting things about this drug.I was married for 15 yrs,and have three children.I split from my husband a yr ago for various reasons,but still have a lot of contact for the bennefit of my children.Last week I recieved a call from my father in law,to say my ex-hubby had collaspsed,and an ambulance had been called.I initially thought he had had a heartattack or something like that.On arrival at the house,I was told he had taken an almost fatal,but accidental heroin overdose........I was so shocked.....and since then have had so many questions going round my head.I have no real idea as to how powerful the grip it could have on him,as he goes to work every day etc,and I had no idea whatsoever that he was using.....I have many questions....can you help/advise me??
Oh, I really hope that Mistyeyes and Jazwan show up here to chat...both women have been married or in long term relationships with functioning, productive heroin users. That's the side of addiction that many never see or consider, that there is an entire population of folks who use while holding down jobs and having families and living among the rest of us with their addiction. There comes a point when the addict *must* fix to feel normal, to not be sick. I wish I had more to share, but I am the mother of a recovering heroin addict and I think you really need to talk to someone who can speak to being in a relationship with and/or having children with a heroin addict.
I know how shocking it feels at first, and how it shakes up the picture you had in your head of who he is...but try to keep your perspective as uncluttered as possible by preconceived ideas of who and what heroin addicts are. It might do you some good to read some of the posts here on the board to find out who they are...I suspect it will surprise you.
Welcome and Peace to you ~ MomNMore
I know how shocking it feels at first, and how it shakes up the picture you had in your head of who he is...but try to keep your perspective as uncluttered as possible by preconceived ideas of who and what heroin addicts are. It might do you some good to read some of the posts here on the board to find out who they are...I suspect it will surprise you.
Welcome and Peace to you ~ MomNMore
I'm not sure what your questions are, but I can give you some of my experience with Heroin.
First of all, it can have a very strong hold on you. It's a very strong physical addiction as well as a psychological addiction.
When I was shooting heroin I worked as well. In fact, I was like superman. I had unlimited energy. Most folks I came in contact had no idea I was using drugs.
You cannot make anyone quit using drugs. They have to want to quit themselves.
Drug addicts will lie to you. We all did. Drugs are the most important thing, then everything else is secondary to that.
Addiction is a disease. A deadly disease. Without treatment, it leads to jails, institutions and death.
Any other questions, just ask.
First of all, it can have a very strong hold on you. It's a very strong physical addiction as well as a psychological addiction.
When I was shooting heroin I worked as well. In fact, I was like superman. I had unlimited energy. Most folks I came in contact had no idea I was using drugs.
You cannot make anyone quit using drugs. They have to want to quit themselves.
Drug addicts will lie to you. We all did. Drugs are the most important thing, then everything else is secondary to that.
Addiction is a disease. A deadly disease. Without treatment, it leads to jails, institutions and death.
Any other questions, just ask.
Hey there my names kitty , im a recovering heroin addicf i had been an active addict for ,well it must not be far off 15 yrs in that time i attended college, uni and straight in to the job i still have. In my job im head of my section. I have a lovely daughter really a special little girl, and a wonderful fella whom i love dearly. istopped taking drugs for about 7-8 months during my pregnancy and a short time after my girl was born, she is now 9yrs old and wouldnt know what smack was if you put it in front of her she calls me a square because i never smoked and dont drink alcohol like some of her friends mums. I used before work during work in my own office i even used at a clients home. finally about this time last year i stopped taking heroin ,i'd told my mum that christmas that i was a junkie. She couldnt understand how she didnt know, we are a large close family. As an addict you become an expert at hiding things and manipulating people and situations and lying ,even to the ones we love. Heroin becomes all consuming always on my mind, id go to sllep thinking about it, wake up thinling about it. If id just scored or had a hit, even if i had plenty in my bag i would be thinking about getting more. When smack gets its hooks in it doesnt easily let go.As a highly functioning addict i was mum, partner, part of the work force,mortgage payer just like many others. you have to want to stop , really want to stop for yourself or his self in your hubbys case.It can be done maybe this will be the fright he needs. Its a long hard road even if you really want it. I know your his ex now but would he be able to count on you for support even when you love someone with all your heart its hard. You should check out the families board hear it from thier side. I wish you, your family and your ex husband all the luck in the world kitty xxx
Can some pls help me I have never done drugs and have never known anyone on heroin but I have just found out my bf has been using when I met him he told me he done it in past but has now been clean for a year but it was all lies and he wants help to get clean and I want to do everything I can to support him but because I have never experienced anything like this I dont know what to do to help please can someone give me some advice cause I'm stuck and I love him and dont want to see him go through this
Thank you
Chelle
Thank you
Chelle
Sorry Chelle, but the help you give him is limited and if you stick around you WILL see him go through this and most likely fail many, many times. Yes, we all love our addicted family members and partners, but the addiction as well the recovery belong to them, not to us. What are you doing to take care of and nurture yourself?
Peace ~ MomNMore
Peace ~ MomNMore
Most of what you want to know will probably have to be answered by him, and that is if he chooses to talk. With experience I find not asking got me the most answers because it is an on their time thing, as they learn thing, as they accept who they are thing, actually believing oh sh*t I got a problem.My husband didnt have a problem till way after the problem was very obvious to everyone around him.
Also you left, and as I sit here I wonder how much his addiction might have had to do with thatbut then you had no idea of the addiction, but surely it effected your relationship on many levels.
My husband was highly functional as many addicts are. And I think that kinda of makes it harder to see the reality. He never missed work, he had many non using friends, the guys he fished with, the ones he raced with, did school functions and family stuff.when at his worst he put his check in the bank each week.but this whole other life he had was a bit twisted, and frankly was killing him as much as the heroin was. He had all these side jobs to foot his habit, plus the doctors he used to get pills from, trying to stay on step ahead of the sickness.
And now looking at it all way after the fact so much makes sense
Little oddities, like early in our marriage, a so called allergic reaction, was an odHis friend covered, his friend died not long after of an od, and that was the last time I think he ever had a running buddyStrange man, left the room every time someone got a needle, obsessed if he had to get one.well duh now I get it, not fear, lust.
If I said to you that you cant possible make it make sense, cause the more you see and learn the more questions arise could you understand that
It is so complicating
So what can we share to help you. Which is maybe best answered by you. How can we help you, and what would you like to understandand I am real curious as to the conflicting things you are hearing about this drug and what questions you might have there as well.
Also how are you and your children with this. How is he
Also you left, and as I sit here I wonder how much his addiction might have had to do with thatbut then you had no idea of the addiction, but surely it effected your relationship on many levels.
My husband was highly functional as many addicts are. And I think that kinda of makes it harder to see the reality. He never missed work, he had many non using friends, the guys he fished with, the ones he raced with, did school functions and family stuff.when at his worst he put his check in the bank each week.but this whole other life he had was a bit twisted, and frankly was killing him as much as the heroin was. He had all these side jobs to foot his habit, plus the doctors he used to get pills from, trying to stay on step ahead of the sickness.
And now looking at it all way after the fact so much makes sense
Little oddities, like early in our marriage, a so called allergic reaction, was an odHis friend covered, his friend died not long after of an od, and that was the last time I think he ever had a running buddyStrange man, left the room every time someone got a needle, obsessed if he had to get one.well duh now I get it, not fear, lust.
If I said to you that you cant possible make it make sense, cause the more you see and learn the more questions arise could you understand that
It is so complicating
So what can we share to help you. Which is maybe best answered by you. How can we help you, and what would you like to understandand I am real curious as to the conflicting things you are hearing about this drug and what questions you might have there as well.
Also how are you and your children with this. How is he
Thank you for replying guys my head all over the place at the moment the thing is I was sexually assaulted 2 mnths ago and tbh he is the only thing that kept me going I love him to bits and although he has lied to me so much he even sold some of my stuff but he helped me through a bad time when I was at my lowest and now I wanna help him I can't see him go through this on his own it's breaking my heart seeing someone I love so much to go through this but I don't know what to do I didn't even know what meth was until last week that's how little I know about it all he smokes it but I didn't even know you could do that I always thought it's just injected I'm at a loose end at mo and don't know what to do
Chelle
Chelle
