I Want To Say Thank You!!!!

Pain Pills
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To everyone who reponded to my post i wrote last night.......

I just wanted to say thank you for all the reponces. You all are truly the angels that god has created for me. Not only can i just sit back and read and take it all in , but i can write my true feelings out to all of you and not be ashamed of myself.


About my friend. Last night it got worse.!!!!!! I called her to tell her that i was going to call the police for her kids if she wouldnt.(being a mom, it breaks my heart to see a hurting child.) After reading all the post that you all wrote to me, i decided that i wasnt being a true friend if i didnt do something. Lieing or not, something needed to change.
She told me to wait and see first, she didnt want the kids taken from her. Sahe apparently is very frieghtened of that(i cant blame her though) And she said she would call me if she needed to. So, i said o.k. once again. Then she called me thismorning and told me that she called my # so that it was the first # on the redial button on her phone. I guess her husban was pritty mad (he called her from work and said he was comming home to "talk") She again, was scared of what he might do and all the kids are home today from school. Anyway , if my # was on the redial button, then when things got bad(if) she told her son, "if daddy hits me, pick up the phone a hit redial" "Tell Christina to call the police and then hang up the phone." She actually told her child to do that. I didnt know what to say. Then she gave me her address and apartment # so i could tell the police where to go.!!!!!
It realy scared the crap out of me. Soooo, i calle4d the police as soon as i hung up from her to ask them questions about the situation.I ended up giving them the address and told them to please go over and just "check things out" I did it without telling them who i was(thanks to whoever it was who wrote that i could do that)!!! They went there and i got a call 3 hours later from her son. She is in the hospital.!! (crying) Aparently, the police got there and she was on the family room floor. She had been stabbed 8 times , starting from her breast to her thighs. (mor crying) I just thank god right now that i listened to all of you who wrote back to me. I never knew what to do until i read the last post that i wrote. She is in surgery right now and im not sure what they have to do to her. Im going to go up there to pick her oldest son up and his little brother and keep them at my house tonight.!! As for the a**hole, , , , , he was arrested and put in jail. Im not sure the details yet. Her son is only 14 and didnt understand alot when he called me for help.!!!

I know this is long , but i thought that you all might want to know what ANGELS you all are for being the people that you are. You were put in my life for a reason. And im sure when she can, my friend will Thank You as well.

With Love and Respect,
Your friend, Christina.
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Im gonna be on the computer for a few. I want to hear what some of the feed back is. Im thinking of letting her oldest son get on here tonight to "vent " out some frustration and seek some advice from all of you. He knows his moms problom with vic's and he has taken them from her before as well.(stolen)
Im waiting to hear from all of you who helped and even the ones who didnt.
i love all of you right now. You all saved my friends life.

Christina
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sweetie you did the thing god will help her go yhe the rest of the way you did awonderful thing she will be fine dear thank you you did a great thing love poopie
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Thank You Y(poopie) I feel as if i did the right thing too!!!!
I am very sad about what happened to her and if feel even worse because i thought that she was just making some of it up. She would always change her mind about everything she said. But i guess that was how she got through it in her own head. Everyone has their own ways huh??? Thanks again for your kind words.

Christina(friend)
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Hello friend you are a GREAT person for doing what you did.When my X cut my throat I had nobody who wanted to get involved except my MD.Everyone I knew was afraid of this jerk.As for her14yr old I hope he understands just how brave he is.It is sad for him to have to go through this,I don't even know him and my heart is breaking for him.Please tell him from me (a total stranger)that I think he is a brave brave person.Also try to tell him that even though it may not feel like it right now he must hold on and belive that he and his family(- the dad)will someday have a better life......mollyjean
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Im sorry friend I forgot to add that it sounds like she is a battered woman.And belive me when I say even if she lied to you about things that was part of the signs of being abused.I remember covering for my X and making excuses.I even told my mom I got hit by a softball in my eye when he broke my eye orbit.So don't be mad at yourself for what you felt as far as her lying.You really did the right thing and my prayers will be with you and your friends family.....mollyjean
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Mollyjean, thank you for reponding. From what i have read, you of all people should understand what she and her kids are going through right now.!! Im going to not only tell him what you said, but im going to let him read it tonight.!! You might be of some help to him later. If you dont mind writing to him that is???? Im still trying to figure out what to say to him myself. All i know what to do is Love and hug them all right now. I guess there are no words for what has happened. I truly beleave you people were sent into my life for a reason and it might not be because of drugs. Maybe god new this was bound to happen and the only way i would help was to hear it from all of you to call the police right away.

Thank You from the bottom of my heart.

Your friend for life, Chrisitna
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Hi
A lot of people change their minds and stories because they actually think everything is better.
What usually happens is the abuse takes place and the person may call someone (a lot don't -I didn't until near the end) and they are basically crying for help. But then the abuser apologizes and tells them how much they love them, and they won't ever do it again and my personal favourite, it hurts them more that they did that to them, etc., etc. and treats them great for a while (this is called the "honeymoon period") so then the abusee says everything is alright and no need to worry about them, etc., etc. and sometimes changes the story or makes it out to be less than it was. This is sometimes because the abuser has convinced them of this as well. Then stresses and whatever start getting to the abuser again and another abusive episode happens and the cycle starts all over again.
So I can see why it looked like she was lying and changing her stories and it only confuses people who want to help, but that's a lot of the norm for this type of situation. Her cry for attention was really a cry for help.
You did a fantastic job of helping her and calling the police. You probably saved her life and her children's lives.
Well done!!!!
Take care,
Mickey.
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Christina belive it or not you are doing great things for him and I'm sure he will always remember your loving ways.If he wants to talk I will do what I can no child should have to live in fear of what the next day will bring.And I belive it is every childs birthright to have a safe home.....take care and just do what your doing it may not seem like much but I'll bet my bottom dollar he will always remember you and what you are trying to do....molly
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Dear Mickey you are right it is a horrible circle batter woman go through and the cemetaries are filled with the proof that we don't all make it out alive.But the ones who do make it out realize there is a beautiful world out there with good kind people.
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Mickey, Thank you for the words. I still feel bad for not beleaving her though. I can honestly say that i realy thought after a while she was just lieing about it all. I thought that maybe she was just trieing to get attention for some reason that i couldnt figure out. That is the worst part. If i had helped sooner then maybe she wouldnt be going through this right now in the hospital. I hate that man for what he has done to that family.!!! I hope that they put him away and someone can abuse him for alittle while. ! !!!!! I wouldnt mind being the one in that cell with him right now. I would show him just how much i hate him. I guess he's lucky to be behind bars. There might be alot of people that want him to feel the way she does right now. I know, I know, i shouldnt be thinking that way, but honestly, thats the first reaction after hearing what happened. Wouldnt you feel the same way.???
Im not that type of person though, i would never put my hands on another person. Not unless they truly had if comming, (and some have before, i have to be honest) But in the end , im not god and i have no right to touch another humanbeing.

Thanks again, (you are an angel) Christina
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Dear Christina You are a very loving person so it must be hard for you to feel that hate for him right now. I really belive what comes around goes around and he will pay for his ways someday.My prayers will be with your friend and her children.If there is any way I can be of any help I'm always jumpimg on and off the board so please let me know.Take Care......mollyjean
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Mollyjean, i will try the best i can to give him that safe home until his mother can provide that for him again. The problom is , its not just him. He has a 5 year old brother too!!! I have 2 boys of my own(4 and 9) Its gonna get kind of crazy around here. But in the end, i know in my heart it is the best thing for right now. I dont want them to end up in a strangers home or someplace they dont feel comfortable.! They have no grandparents and Aunt and Uncles arnt around and havent been for years. They were called and nothing came out of it(how sad) Im not their mother, but i guess i can do what i need to do to get through this with them. Im hurting too!! and its hard to look them in the eyes. I cant even talk to them on the phone with out breaking down. This is a very hard thing to have happen right now. I know its bad, but i could use that pill to get me through today. I could use the energy. Im gonna go to hell arnt i???
Im not goin to take it, i just feel like i could break down any min. This is to much right now for me.

You friend Christina
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Just pray, thats the only thing anyone can do now. Pray for her to make it out of this o.k. without any phisical damage. The mental, im sure will be enough. I cant mentaly handle this on my own. Please everyone help me. Even if its just a kind word here or there, i could use the support right now.

You are all my ANGELS, Christina(a.k.a) Friend
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Christina Belive me when I say I know how tempting it must be to use.But right now you NEED all your strenghth and faith for all the children involved.As much as your hurting right now it will be more difficult to numb it out and then have it come back later.You have a lot of people her to help you anyway we can.And if its kind words you need than I can think of a million that can apply to a wounderful strong loving woman like you.Be proud what you did was hard but you must know in your heart it was the best thing that you could of done.Try to stay strong sweety.We will all be your shoulders to lean on until whenever.take care......mollyjean
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Christina,

I can comprehend 100%, behind bars is where he belongs in my book, but only because of my abusive husband. i am totally scared to death of what he will do to me and my boyfriend when he gets out. He has not changed, you would think jail would change them, but not my x, he is one crazy man. I think you are great for doing what you are doing. I wish I would have left more people help me. And everyone is right, you do make excuses to cover up things, I sure did for a very long time. But no more. Thank god there are great people like you out there. Keep being that great friend.

bdwife
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MJ, (i just nicknamed you) (hope you dont mind) Im not realy all that strong right now. I know i did the right thing. But god all mighty, nobody can be that srong all the time. The saying is... "GOD DOSNT GIVE YOU MORE THAN WHAT YOU CAN HANDLE." well, he just did it to me. Test of streangth or not, i have failed. Im tappering off the pills, and its going wonderful. And now this...
What the he** am i suppost to do. I NEVER ASKED FOR THIS TO HAPPEN TO ME!!! but in the end, i was the one she called for some reason. And i have to finish threw with this, why me???? Why would anyone want to pick me, out of everyone in the world. Im problobly the worst one yet. But noooo, this had to fall into my lap. Ya know what, im getting angry and i dont even know why!! All the questions -- Why do i keep asking them? (hey, wait, thats another question) i have to stop 2nd guessing everything and get my a** in gear.!!

Please, anyone who might care, Please keep posting to me, i need all of you right now.! More than i have needed anyone before.(crying)
Sorry if the words are spelled wrong , the tears just wont stop comming out. i hate tears right now.!!!!(more crying)

Your friend, Christina
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Thank you bd .. and everyone please keep writing, i have to go to the hospital now. Ill be back on in a few. Love and respect.

Christina
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Christina,
You are stronger than this ... it may not feel like it.. but I can clearly see it... You did a very couragous thing last night. Something that alot of people wouldnt have been able to do...That is clear by the fact that she lived in an apt and no one called... anyway... I can only imagine how hard and painful this is and will get for you but I know you can find away to cope without using.... trust God and dont use not matter what.... whatever your sources were make darn sure they are cut... I cant stress enough how important it is to get a contact person face to face a phone number... but I dont know if that is possible for you...
I wish you all the luck in the world....
God bless you for what you are doing
Teresa
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Chris- Your post brought tears to my eyes. You saved this persons life. THANK YOU. That scumbag should of been behind bars long ago. You are an angel sent from heaven. I just thank God there are people in this world like you. I pray for your friend.