Woke up to 10 unread messages on my phone from AS. They were all about how we don't understand him, how we don't help him with his disease, how other parents help their kids, how us being "mean" to him just makes his problems worse, how we all think we're better than him and that just makes him more depressed, how we need to understand that he has to have opiates every day just like someone needs their coffee, how we are awful because we don't accept him the way he is. I could go on and on but you all can fill in the blanks because you have all heard the same things. I'm sharing this because my first instinct was to second guess my actions and then I told myself, " No, this is the addiction trying to manipulate me, trying to get to me anyway it can". I have read enough and heard enough to know that my AS will say and do whatever he has to do to "survive". I know that I did not cause his addiction, I can't control it and I cannot cure it. He probably even believes the stuff he writes but he has made no effort to make his life different. I just wanted to share this so that anyone who needs a boost of motivation this morning can get it. We are not responsible for our addicts lives.
God bless,
Michelle
Hi Michelle, Thank you earlier for your advice. You are so kind! We just don't get much peace for long. Do we? Maybe this is your sons last "hurrah" as he knows everything he's been doing up until now doesn't work anymore. God Bless. Mary.
Last Hurrah meaning ...he is trying everything now to get your attention. Incase anyone takes the wrong meaning out of it this is how I meant it. M.
Michelle
I think we could write a book on emotional blackmail. I'm hungry I'm cold. It's not my fault I'm in this situation. After this last bit of thievery the girl put her phone in your accomplice backpack.
Today a friend of my son's wanted me to try again because she recovered .. I was thinking seriously can't believe you even suggested that. Stood my ground and said no he created this monster addiction he can live with the consequences. Including no family support .
Susan
I think we could write a book on emotional blackmail. I'm hungry I'm cold. It's not my fault I'm in this situation. After this last bit of thievery the girl put her phone in your accomplice backpack.
Today a friend of my son's wanted me to try again because she recovered .. I was thinking seriously can't believe you even suggested that. Stood my ground and said no he created this monster addiction he can live with the consequences. Including no family support .
Susan
