Hello again. My daughter is living at a friends house because I will not let her home until she shows me that she is doing all she can to stay in recovery. She left her sober living home, she isn't doing IOP, she isn't attending meetings & she is living with a friend that she used to use with. That is a recipe for disaster. Sometimes I think I am getting through to her, but them she pulls back. She is avoiding seeing me & her family. I have asked her to go with me to eat several times this week and she makes an excuse at the last minute. I know she is embarrassed & isn't ready to get help. I have already been in touch with a rehab & now I am just waiting for her to come to me & tell me she wants help. I am just afraid the more she uses the less chance of her coming and saying she wants help. Even though I am sickened by this and so many other emotions, I try to end every conversation with her I have with "I love You". Just in case that is the last thing I ever get to say to her. Does anybody have any ideas on what I can do to try to get her to get help?
It sounds like you are doing the right thing(s).
I knew I needed help at 20 and came to recovery at 45.
Only pain will bring her to recovery... she will have to hit bottom.
Stick to your guns and tell her you love her. That will, in the end, mean a lot.
Bob
I knew I needed help at 20 and came to recovery at 45.
Only pain will bring her to recovery... she will have to hit bottom.
Stick to your guns and tell her you love her. That will, in the end, mean a lot.
Bob
I try to end every conversation with her I have with "I love You". Just in case that is the last thing I ever get to say to her.
I do the same with my son. I also told him I forgave him for everything he's done because I don't want guilt to get in the way if he ever chooses recovery.
There's nothing more you can do. It's up to her now.
I do the same with my son. I also told him I forgave him for everything he's done because I don't want guilt to get in the way if he ever chooses recovery.
There's nothing more you can do. It's up to her now.
Thank you Bob & the mom. This isn't easy for us, but it must be hell on earth for them. I try to explain to my family that it's ok to hate the disease but please don't hate the addict. Sometimes they think they are helping, but they haven't a clue what it feels like. I tell them I understand how they feel & that there is no right or wrong way to feel about this. THat's why I come here because having people that know how you feel helps. We are all recovering from something and it's nice to not walk the road alone.
I too say after every conversation and visit I will always love you just in case and I believe my son needs to hear this even if he is being difficult.
On a spiritual level he knows how much I love him and always will. He knows what his addiction does to me and this is another burden that goes with the demons in him.
I live every day as well as I can, I strive to do positive things and I have found that helping others weather it be with food or Christmas gifts for the poor or paying for someones power bill in the winter that can not pay helps. Give to others what your addict can not accept. Pray for us all having an addict in your life is one hell of a journey.
On a spiritual level he knows how much I love him and always will. He knows what his addiction does to me and this is another burden that goes with the demons in him.
I live every day as well as I can, I strive to do positive things and I have found that helping others weather it be with food or Christmas gifts for the poor or paying for someones power bill in the winter that can not pay helps. Give to others what your addict can not accept. Pray for us all having an addict in your life is one hell of a journey.
