My boyfriend was recently sent to a rehab facility because he relapsed. He was using heroin to relieve pain and it caused an overdose. He was under the influence while driving and this caused a car accident. The accident occurred due to the fact that he died while he was driving. Everyone, especially himself, are very fortunate that he is alive. If the EMTs weren't seconds away from this, I could be sitting at his funeral right now. This horrifying situation obviously devastated me and left me broken. The worst thing is that he left for rehab without telling me what really happened. I had to find out he was under the influence on my own. This I think was the worst part about this. He lied to me. The love of his life. But is it really me that's the love of his life? Or is it the drug? That's one question that will never leave my mind. He has been in rehab for a week now. He has called me several times to apologize, but that is still no excuse. He explained to me that if I didn't want to be with him then he understood. He said he wants what's best for me and wants me to be the happiest I could be, even if it's not with him. He's been doing well in rehab so far, but still has a long way to go. 30 days in rehab is not good enough for me. I will never have the trust back. I will never feel the same way ever again. The only thing is, he'll eventually recover from this demon drug. I really do believe he has the strength to. But honestly, I feel like I will never recover from this incident. I really did believe that I was going to spend the rest of my life with this person. He was my one true love and everything I could possibly want in a man. Except for the addiction. I'm in love with him, but not the addict.
Dear Staystrong,
The love affair for an addict is the drug. The drug will always be first until he gets recovery under his belt. This usually takes a year or more. Treatment, followed by outpatient, followed by meetings, followed by getting a sponsor and working the steps. This person has a lot of work to do.
I suggest you connect with a family program such as Al Anon. You are not alone in your predicament, and a good dependent recovery program will help you live better and help in your decision making.
I hope this helps.
M
The love affair for an addict is the drug. The drug will always be first until he gets recovery under his belt. This usually takes a year or more. Treatment, followed by outpatient, followed by meetings, followed by getting a sponsor and working the steps. This person has a lot of work to do.
I suggest you connect with a family program such as Al Anon. You are not alone in your predicament, and a good dependent recovery program will help you live better and help in your decision making.
I hope this helps.
M