Hello everyone. About a year ago I posted in this forum when I found out my husband was addicted to heroin. A long story short I kicked him out he came back supposedly clean now a year later he is doing it again I don't know when it started or for how long. Kicked him out again he came back saying he was good but is still using. I need clarity on what this does what it is? I'm scared to leave my kids and go to work because I jnow he uses when watching them. I don't think he injects or snorts jusy smokes. He says he can leave it on his own by honestly I don't think he can nor does he want to. I know this sounds horrible but it or he makes me sick. I don't know if I should be more loving or tough love type of a person. How long does this high last? What are signs he's high? Or withdrawal? I read and read online but he is so good at not showing anything that I can only tell by things he lea behind n his constricted pupils. How much does it cost to go away to a recovery center. How long is a recovery center treatment?
Girly..
Some will use drugs as an excuse to do bad...some wont...you know ur man...what kind of person is he ? Heroin in itself or pretty much any opiate won't make someone violent...just the opposite. ..unless junk sick...I wouldn't leave any kid with a junkie though...just for the reason that when we're using...nothing around us will matter..especially right after we fix...even if we're just using to stay well...we tend not to notice or care about what's going on...nod can take us far away ....if were lucky to still nod sweetly...more u use less you ride...ride can last 2 or 4 or more hours depending upon the habit and the dose...then we need to fix again..rinse and repeat...junk sick can be a dangerous and desperate place for us....pls. go to the family board...each junkie is different. ..each run and ride is intimate to the person...heroin is a place...not necessarily a high....
Some will use drugs as an excuse to do bad...some wont...you know ur man...what kind of person is he ? Heroin in itself or pretty much any opiate won't make someone violent...just the opposite. ..unless junk sick...I wouldn't leave any kid with a junkie though...just for the reason that when we're using...nothing around us will matter..especially right after we fix...even if we're just using to stay well...we tend not to notice or care about what's going on...nod can take us far away ....if were lucky to still nod sweetly...more u use less you ride...ride can last 2 or 4 or more hours depending upon the habit and the dose...then we need to fix again..rinse and repeat...junk sick can be a dangerous and desperate place for us....pls. go to the family board...each junkie is different. ..each run and ride is intimate to the person...heroin is a place...not necessarily a high....
Thank you for you're reply although I read and read your reply and posts here pages from books online everything I still fail to understand what this does. And why he does it.
Trying to understand us will only make u as insane as we are. You can't understand. ..your not an addict...stop trying. ...you cant cure it...can't control it...and you didn't cause it. .
That is so true. I have literally lost my mind over this I have depression and suicidal thoughts over this. All of this coming from if he doesn't stop his addiction I can't trust him and have to leave him and my kids wil grow up without a proper family. It makes me so sad everyday and mad very mad! I guess I shouldn't blame him since I'm just as sick as he is and need help as much as him. But what is one supposed to do? Just leave them to hit rock bottom until they loose everything and finally decide to quit? I can't put my life on hold waiting for him to get clean everytime he relapses. What is one to do?
That's EXACTLY what you have to do...rock bottom is the only place we have that will enable us to want to stop using. Trust me...you don't want this...you don't want to live with one of us...take care of yourself and ur child...save yourself because no one can or will save him until he wants to save himself...and even then...getting clean and staying clean are whole different spaces. Get yourself sane and healthy...and get your child away from the crazy...he has to do this himself....u can only help by letting him find his own way back...go live your life..don't wait...don't hope...it's out of your hands...go to naranon or alanon...they will help you figure it out ....
