Well I did it, finally did it...
I emailed Intervention to see if we can get help for my friend before its to late....I am scared now, and feel guilty that I am betraying her trust, but I can't sit back and watch her kill herself..I want her back to what she was before the addiction set in....here is why I did it, and this is a day....
She pops 25-30 Vics. 750
4-5 somas if not more
morphine pills...not sure how many
smokes pot all day
has computer addcition with younger boys since her husband is addicted to computer games, so she feels loved by these boys...web cam, toys ect ect. sick sick sick.I have told her to stay clear of my boys, they even know and think it is sick..
her house is gross, she lets the dogs and cats crap everywhere due to be to lazy or so strung she doesn't even pay attention, there is garbage all over her house, I mean piles of crap everywhere..I use to help her clean it, I kept telling her it would makje her feel better, but after a few times and then seeing it a pigsty within 2 days I stopped. I don't even go over there anymore, due to the stinch..I puked last time I went in, so turned and walked out.
she buys off the street, lies to her drs, steals pills from her mom, and has spent her husband trust fund on drugs, and shopping.she says it makes her feel better..instead iof doing laundry she buys new, and the old clothes are piled everywhere with crap on them...
She was not like this before the addiction....I so want her back, so we can hang together, I have tried to get her going, and have even tried hard to get her to stop popping all her pills, I had her on a taper plan, but then bammm she went back full force...I want her to think clear like I do now, I know she would be so much happier, but she has to want to do it, as we all have had to get to that point.
I just wanted to try one more time before I have to remove her from my life, I love her and it hurts to see what she is doing to herself....and as long as she is going this path I have to steer clear.....
Please pray that this will work out and she can get the help.. Thanks for listening, I'd like a little input to see if you guys would have done the same..
Krazi/Traci
Traci,
That is one very powerful story that you laid out and I applaud your love and concern for your friend as I too have a friend or two in deeply destructive addictions.
My observation of the series on A&E "Intervention" is that it makes for great reality televison but as a recovering addict the series of events that came together for me to begin a life of sobriety were started when my personal bottom came and the dope and booze no longer worked to soothe away lifes endless series of dilemma's and I was truly sick and tired of being just that sick and tired.
My best friends wife was just "intervened into a 28 day treatment for hydros and benzos and within 2 weeks she had more scripts for lortabs and xanax than before but they were several thousands of dollars poorer for that effort.
In conclusion addiction hurts more people than most of us will ever know or realize but just maybe your efforts towards your friend may just plant a seed that may just sprout.
Bob
That is one very powerful story that you laid out and I applaud your love and concern for your friend as I too have a friend or two in deeply destructive addictions.
My observation of the series on A&E "Intervention" is that it makes for great reality televison but as a recovering addict the series of events that came together for me to begin a life of sobriety were started when my personal bottom came and the dope and booze no longer worked to soothe away lifes endless series of dilemma's and I was truly sick and tired of being just that sick and tired.
My best friends wife was just "intervened into a 28 day treatment for hydros and benzos and within 2 weeks she had more scripts for lortabs and xanax than before but they were several thousands of dollars poorer for that effort.
In conclusion addiction hurts more people than most of us will ever know or realize but just maybe your efforts towards your friend may just plant a seed that may just sprout.
Bob
Bob,
Thank-you for responding, this has been a hard thing I have done, and am now awaiting to hear from her mom, let alone the intervention folks. I guess I am not ready to give up on her yet, becuz' I know she is a good person, but I also don't want to be an enabler anymore to her, I can understand her being afraid of w/d after seeing what I went thru, but dang if I didn't take the steps of wanting to be well, I would still be in that fog also. I love her and hurt for her, I know I still need to take care of myself and not let this get me down, all I can do is try, she has to want to..
Krazi/Traci
Thank-you for responding, this has been a hard thing I have done, and am now awaiting to hear from her mom, let alone the intervention folks. I guess I am not ready to give up on her yet, becuz' I know she is a good person, but I also don't want to be an enabler anymore to her, I can understand her being afraid of w/d after seeing what I went thru, but dang if I didn't take the steps of wanting to be well, I would still be in that fog also. I love her and hurt for her, I know I still need to take care of myself and not let this get me down, all I can do is try, she has to want to..
Krazi/Traci
Traci, I applaud you, took guts and a lot of love for your friend to do this.
Sometimes I think perhaps there are some people that don't know if they are ready or not, they are so messed up from the drugs, they haven't a clue what is going on around them, much less inside them. They aren't really thinking logically, so how can they think they are ready? Rhetorically speaking. Just something I have thought about. They need for others to tell them what they don't see.
We all hear, when people are ready, while I do agree with this, I also agree that not all are created equal in this respect, some people don't know when they are ready and will never know unless some one intervenes. Who knows,
I just wanted to tell you friends like you are diamonds, she is very fortunate to have you in her life. While she may not like you very much when this happens, she will love you for it in the end. She may surprise you and Thank You.
Any idea how she will take to an intervention?
Sometimes I think perhaps there are some people that don't know if they are ready or not, they are so messed up from the drugs, they haven't a clue what is going on around them, much less inside them. They aren't really thinking logically, so how can they think they are ready? Rhetorically speaking. Just something I have thought about. They need for others to tell them what they don't see.
We all hear, when people are ready, while I do agree with this, I also agree that not all are created equal in this respect, some people don't know when they are ready and will never know unless some one intervenes. Who knows,
I just wanted to tell you friends like you are diamonds, she is very fortunate to have you in her life. While she may not like you very much when this happens, she will love you for it in the end. She may surprise you and Thank You.
Any idea how she will take to an intervention?
