I have 18 year old son who is addicted to drugs. He has been in treatment twice the first time when he was 14 the last time was this past November it was a 30 day program that he walked out of with 10 days left he did stay sober long enough to pass a drug screen to get back in his sober school but was kicked out of there after refusing to take a drug test a school
just a week ago he didn't come home but text in the middle of the night he screwed up wanted to get sober he would go to meetings try to get back in treatment. But at some point in the past few days he broke into the safe took a box of keys that we had in there for every thing we own he says he doesn't know anything about the keys or the safe but we found his passport in his room that we always keep in the safe
I went up to the store came back and he is gone. when his mom came home from work she packed up all his stuff and put it on the front step . We still haven't heard anything from him and his stuff is still out there.
The addiction has been going on and off for the past 5 years and I am tired and want to runaway from it all
Rob
all addicts lie,cheat,steal, we will do whatever it takes to get the money for alcohol and drugs when we are in that world-he will manipulate every situation-play one against the other if he perceives any weakness- until he decides he really wants to get clean, do not trust him-actions speak louder than words-do not believe he is trying to get clean until you see some evidence- do not enable him by giving him money-no matter what he tells you it is for-sounds harsh, sorry-thats the reality of addiction-make it clear that you will help him only if/when he proves he is making a genuine effort- or you may decide that the price of trying to continue to help him is to high-if you are looking for support, help and to talk to other people in similar circumstances you should check out Narcotics Anonymous-they have a group called NAR Anon especially for families of addicts- this is a very tough world you have been dragged into-unfortunately there are no easy options, the best you can hope for is that your son enters recovery- then he will need help and support -very few of us stay clean/sober without help and support- for your son this will be a long road- the decision to get clean must be his-he will need to be fully commited to a recovery program if he is going to make it-you can run, but you cannot hide, not from yourself, best of luck-
Dear Rob,
I understand what you are saying. I would want to run away, too.
There is a better way. Look for a family support program such as Al Anon or NAR Anon. They are in the telephone book, online, and should be meetings near you. This program of recovery, for you, will change your life for the better.
I strongly encourage you to do this. I can speak from experience. You will be surprised at how welcomed and understood you are. Get a sponsor, read the literature, work the steps, etc...
Good luck,
Flyboy
I understand what you are saying. I would want to run away, too.
There is a better way. Look for a family support program such as Al Anon or NAR Anon. They are in the telephone book, online, and should be meetings near you. This program of recovery, for you, will change your life for the better.
I strongly encourage you to do this. I can speak from experience. You will be surprised at how welcomed and understood you are. Get a sponsor, read the literature, work the steps, etc...
Good luck,
Flyboy
