It's O.k. To Feel Anger

Pain Pills
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Addicts and Intense Anger

"Many addicts seem to think the world is unfair to them.They feel victimized by everyone,and they are angry at everyone,including God.Why me? Why are You doing this to me?

The sensitivity of the addict to any perceived injustice is much like the sensitivity of a person with a migrane headache who may feel excrutiating pain at bright lights or loud noises.Addicts often feel offended,belittled, and humiliated by everyone.

Vouluntarily controlloing one's reaction to anger is not wrong.Certainly it is not necessary to throw things,to hit the wall,or to shout obscenities.It is perfectly safe to decide not to manifest anger.But to not feel anger is something else.Not feeling anger indicates an unconcious denial and repression of anger,and this can cause problems.
High blood pressure,ulcers,depression..........etc."

Understanding Self Deception by Twerski,M.D.


This was always an issue in my family growing up.Because we were not a family that readily talked about feelings or too much else, anger was one of those things that exploded exponentially as a result of stuffing everything.
A simple"Good Morning,How did you sleep last night" was met with "What did you mean by that?" and quickly manifested itself into something that made a WWF event look like a contract bridge game.
We all walked around "pissed"because of unresolved anger.If we had been a healthy family unit,we could have talked these things out regularly.

I grew up sensitive.My feelings were on my shoulders and I waited for someone to come along and have the temerity to knock one off.I was a fight waiting to happen.The result was a life filled with resenting authority and anybody else who dared disagree with me.As soon as I discovered mind numbing chemicals,I had some relief.That's a lot of sh*t to be carrying around on a daily basis so me and drugs were a marriage made in Heaven.

In sobriety I have found I am not cured.I've worked the twelve steps,gone to therapy,studied some alternative Spiritual guides and made great progress but by no means am I free of all anger.Today,I am very grateful I'm not following the driver home who cut me off in traffic to give them a tounge lashing or questioning the bank tellers birthright but I have made progress.
I do believe in my heart that resentments are a luxury I cannot afford so I do try to get rid of them as fast as possible.
People that "get my goat" I try to avoid but I am not always successful.
One thing I can say for sure today.
Being right at any cost is not that important today.

I have to finish a bid today for someone I'm having a huge problem with.I just have to focus on my integrity and quit obsessing about everything I think is wrong this person.

How do you guys deal with Anger today?
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Not feeling anger indicates an unconcious denial and repression of anger,and this can cause problems: high blood pressure, ulcers, depression...


That would be me. I don't pick fights, I stew.

Today I will express my anger by asking Allan WTF he thinks he's doing when he... [censored]


Good post, Tim.

What's your client doing to piss you off?

Gina

Edited to say: I just re-read your post and I think I've lost the plot. Clearly this is an issue I don't have a handle on.
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What's your client doing to piss you off?


besides being a spoiled,pretentious,self-aggrandizing Prima Dona that has to send me 2-3 e-mails a day in case I've missed something on the bid?
oh,nothing.
What she doesn't realize is that I have a "difficult" tax that I work in my bids for such actions.

breathe.......follow your inner Buddha.LOL
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LMAO, Tim -- you've stamped "Difficult" across her case file, like what happened to Elaine?

But I email you 2-3 times a day to make sure you haven't missed something on the board...
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We just have to realize there are some real idiots in this world and everybody can't be perfect like us. lol There are times we just have to bite our tounge. Believe me I live with my brother who is a total dumbass and gets on my nerves so bad I think i could kill him sometimes. I bite my toungue so much i'm surprised I still have one. I learned when I deal with these people, I just smile and say, Bless his/her little heart, and believe it or not it really helps.
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addicted to oxy


well bless your heart....























Your right it DOES work.lolol

That was a joke...lol

Great post....really..

Hugs
Ali
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Revenge illicits the same response in the brain as does love and passion.