that one cannot share the holidays with their biological families.Please dont misinterppret what im saying.Ive made peace with this years ago.I know a lot of people in Recovery who are completely alienated from their families.It happens.I always go to my best friends who Ive known for 25 years who is like a brother.
My 2 brothers are right wing born again Christians who think Im Damien.They dont want me around their kids and being around them would be a trip to hell.I have a shaved head,tatoos and although I dont share their beliefs I would never try to share mine with them.They know about the drugs and they say things like "We love you because God tells us to and you are our brother"but we simply cant stand how you look and who you are.Makes a lot sense.I love you but cant stand the sight of you.
My sister is a Dallas socialite with a Republican husband who absolutely would never have me in his home.Shes a bit more tolerant and invited me one year but I was told what to wear,what language to use,which meant no profanity....I think could probably do that,oh who the f*ck am I kidding, and again are highly religious.We have talked a few times over the yeras because she feels guilty.They are absolutely appaled that Im a recovering drug addict.Its like that thing doesnt happen to Republicans.LOL.She has even asked me if i have AIDS because of my drug use.Their whole life is about how much money they have,where they live and what people think of them.
You know what.Im really grateful I have been able to form friendships with people that have taken the place of my family.Its called unconditional love.I use to get really bitter this time of year.I dont anymore.All of you that do have close ties with your families,be grateful.It is a gift.
Everyone have a great Thanksgiving.
I am without my son and of course it hurts but thank you for reminding me of what I need to be grateful for.
There is nothing better than friendship that has been developed over years. I have a friend from 4th grade, unconditional love.
You can choose them, you can't choose family.
Have a great time Tim, I know you will.
You can choose them, you can't choose family.
Have a great time Tim, I know you will.
i have always said and believe in that families come in all forms of shapes and sizes and i take great comfort in that and thank god. cause my blood relatives are out there as well. the people i call family may not be blood but i am proud to know them and what i have come to know and learn from them far out weighs what i have ever learned from my blood relatives. but i have come to learn to accept and love my blood family as well for who they are. i couldnt change the inevitable but i could change how i viewed to look at the whole pictured. today it all looks good to me. thanks for the reminder once again. life is what I make of it.
terrianne
terrianne
Thanks Wendy.I always do.You are one of those new friends in my life that Im talking about.I bonded with you from the beginning and it will never change.I love you girl.Well,Im off for the feast.Man,Im glad I didnt have to cook speaking of being grateful.
Everyone pig out,the gyms open tomorrow.LOL
Everyone pig out,the gyms open tomorrow.LOL
Chow down Tim!
Love you too!
Will be thinking about you!
(ps-you sound like the sane one in your family, lol)
Love you too!
Will be thinking about you!
(ps-you sound like the sane one in your family, lol)
wendy,
happy thanksgiving friend yourself, i agree us recovering addicts are the more sane ones in the crowd arent we? i agree. if only them quacks had a clue huh? hehehe may your pants be snug this evening as well :) (but no purging allowed!!)
terrianne
happy thanksgiving friend yourself, i agree us recovering addicts are the more sane ones in the crowd arent we? i agree. if only them quacks had a clue huh? hehehe may your pants be snug this evening as well :) (but no purging allowed!!)
terrianne
Terrianne, I agree we are the only sane one's. I have rationalized using laundry soap in my dishwasher for the past week. It was a green bottle. Small and it was by the diswasher soap. I thought cascade had gone liquid. I understand now why I am sane.
Have a great thanksgiving...!
Have a great thanksgiving...!
wendy,
hahahaha, i never used laundry soap in my dishwasher but shhhhhhh fyi, i HAVE used dishsoap in my laundry..... but my daughter has sensative skin ecsema not pretty ouch. spend the extra $5 bucks if you dont have it email me lol me and my lazy self. lazy is normal right? yeah thats what i told my daughter hehehe. she still loves me : ) did you see my kids bought me an ornament today that said if mothers were flowers i'd pick you. with an angel on it. even after all that itchy torture? hows that for unconditional love?
terrianne
hahahaha, i never used laundry soap in my dishwasher but shhhhhhh fyi, i HAVE used dishsoap in my laundry..... but my daughter has sensative skin ecsema not pretty ouch. spend the extra $5 bucks if you dont have it email me lol me and my lazy self. lazy is normal right? yeah thats what i told my daughter hehehe. she still loves me : ) did you see my kids bought me an ornament today that said if mothers were flowers i'd pick you. with an angel on it. even after all that itchy torture? hows that for unconditional love?
terrianne
How cool is that!! No I didn't see that. Are you cooking? We already did thanksgiving but my mom is making one of those pre-packed dinners. We are taking it easy. There was enough dishes when my sister was up here visiting after my mom got out of the hospital. (actually, I always make a two hour potty stop and behold, when I get out the dishes are done.) My mom has a little TV in there the bathroom and a chair...LMAO, my sister wouldn't know what to do if I actually did the dishes. It is a family game played every year. Tradition, lol.
Where the HE!! is Wendy!!!!!!!!
Where the HE!! is Wendy!!!!!!!!
wendy,
yeah i am cooking, only half way there!! we are all drooling about now!! my son is playing video games and my daughter is whining watching mtv talking to her friends on the phone begging me to go shopping as if!!! lol but all is well on my home frontier nothing new of course. dishes? what are those? garbage? or at least tomorrows chores at best!! we are living in my world, uh huh, thats what i am talking about!
terrianne
yeah i am cooking, only half way there!! we are all drooling about now!! my son is playing video games and my daughter is whining watching mtv talking to her friends on the phone begging me to go shopping as if!!! lol but all is well on my home frontier nothing new of course. dishes? what are those? garbage? or at least tomorrows chores at best!! we are living in my world, uh huh, thats what i am talking about!
terrianne
Hey Tim,
Shudder...sounds like you s/b grateful you can spend it with friends instead. You're loved everywhere you go. If your family is too ignorant to see past their own narrow minds, it's their loss. FIll your belly and enjoy. We all love you!
Wendy,
I once used laundry soap in my dishwasher and it filled my entire kitchen floor with suds. I couldn't stop it. Had to let it run it's course. Hope you have a wonderful day!
Beck
Shudder...sounds like you s/b grateful you can spend it with friends instead. You're loved everywhere you go. If your family is too ignorant to see past their own narrow minds, it's their loss. FIll your belly and enjoy. We all love you!
Wendy,
I once used laundry soap in my dishwasher and it filled my entire kitchen floor with suds. I couldn't stop it. Had to let it run it's course. Hope you have a wonderful day!
Beck
beck,
hahahahaahahahaha i used regular dish soap in my dishwasher my 6 yr old son and his friend got the biggest laugh out of the bubbles spewing everywhere omg and yeah i couldnt stop it either. good times!!!!! got my floor cleaned though hehehe.
terrianne
hahahahaahahahaha i used regular dish soap in my dishwasher my 6 yr old son and his friend got the biggest laugh out of the bubbles spewing everywhere omg and yeah i couldnt stop it either. good times!!!!! got my floor cleaned though hehehe.
terrianne
Beck, thank you for sharing...I guess that makes us both sane...no floods just an after taste..yuck
have a great thanksgiving beck!
have a great thanksgiving beck!
Well Boo,
I guess your idea of a good time differs from mine. I remember being filled with panic. All I do is deal with messes it seems. But oh yeah, the floor was mighty clean. So glad you're around today. Always so bright and sunny! I've missed you. HAve fun sledding!!!
Love Beck
I guess your idea of a good time differs from mine. I remember being filled with panic. All I do is deal with messes it seems. But oh yeah, the floor was mighty clean. So glad you're around today. Always so bright and sunny! I've missed you. HAve fun sledding!!!
Love Beck
beck,
hey thanks, thats my new motto in life is to learn and take after my kids, they have taught me much this past year and half : ) well actually it goes both ways from me and them ya know? they still need some upper hand and authorty, you know how kids do? they look for and respect the smack down every now and then hehehe its been good for us all
terrianne
hey thanks, thats my new motto in life is to learn and take after my kids, they have taught me much this past year and half : ) well actually it goes both ways from me and them ya know? they still need some upper hand and authorty, you know how kids do? they look for and respect the smack down every now and then hehehe its been good for us all
terrianne
Tim:
It sounds like you have made new, positive holiday traditions for yourself. Go where the love is.
Rachel
Hey Tim,
I know the feeling about being alienated from family. It's hard to except. I think I have but then I still feel anger sometimes that they are the way they are. It's like I have a different perspective on what a family should be then them. I always felt family should support each other, be there when somebody needs help. Unconditional Love. I don't find any of that with my relatives. I had to stay away from them. I just got too frustrated seeing the way they are.
I guess the Holidays are still rough for me, but it doesn't help when I hear my 10 year old sons Christmas list and I don't have any money. Now that really sucks.
Oh well, somehow someway it will work out. Always does. I go through this every year and somehow I'm able to pull Chirstmas off. Just have to have the stress first I guess.
I know the feeling about being alienated from family. It's hard to except. I think I have but then I still feel anger sometimes that they are the way they are. It's like I have a different perspective on what a family should be then them. I always felt family should support each other, be there when somebody needs help. Unconditional Love. I don't find any of that with my relatives. I had to stay away from them. I just got too frustrated seeing the way they are.
I guess the Holidays are still rough for me, but it doesn't help when I hear my 10 year old sons Christmas list and I don't have any money. Now that really sucks.
Oh well, somehow someway it will work out. Always does. I go through this every year and somehow I'm able to pull Chirstmas off. Just have to have the stress first I guess.
liz,
that totally BITES!!! i know the feeling!!! my prayers are going out to you and your familly as well. no one should have to live through that crap nowhere. take peace in god sees us through k? and if there is anything i can do email me at naturesprincess@yahoo.com at anytime. you have always been strength for me. let me be something of comfort or help to you. ANYTHING AT ALL!! keep on keeping on.
terrianne
that totally BITES!!! i know the feeling!!! my prayers are going out to you and your familly as well. no one should have to live through that crap nowhere. take peace in god sees us through k? and if there is anything i can do email me at naturesprincess@yahoo.com at anytime. you have always been strength for me. let me be something of comfort or help to you. ANYTHING AT ALL!! keep on keeping on.
terrianne
Im a Republican but im anti religous and pro tattoos and shaved heads! Its nice to be an open minded spirit. Imagine how miserable they must be inside of their little box life with closed minded views on everything. hopefully your nephews will grow out of it in time. Be grateful of who and what you are and that youre not full of hate and judgement of others
