Thinking of you. Sending love and light.
Hang in there, Jack.
Thanks-
today was the funeral for gramma- very emotional draining day for my mom & her brothers.
Yesterday was the wake- -
2- very long days. Now we have to go to the house and empty it out and get it ready to be put up for sale. (Northern NJ)- - So it goes on & on-
Again thanks for your thoughts
jack
today was the funeral for gramma- very emotional draining day for my mom & her brothers.
Yesterday was the wake- -
2- very long days. Now we have to go to the house and empty it out and get it ready to be put up for sale. (Northern NJ)- - So it goes on & on-
Again thanks for your thoughts
jack
Jack, I'm so sorry.
Hoping your mom is still hanging in there. It is so draining. Seems like ya run on just all determination through that time, don't it?
Again, I'm sorry for the loss of your dear Grandmom.
Hoping your mom is still hanging in there. It is so draining. Seems like ya run on just all determination through that time, don't it?
Again, I'm sorry for the loss of your dear Grandmom.
Jack my friend it seems like it's been one thing after another recently.
Something good around the corner.
k
Something good around the corner.
k
1 Thing after another is right.
Sandy ,who is now not working anymore, was with me at the whole funeral thing- - which was important. Now she is going on about moving back to upstate NY again. Well, I hate to tell her, but she has to make a decision. She cant just not work,& leave the whole financial burden on me here. - Not forever anyway. She balks at going back to the doctor to take care of her "woman issues"- I think she is getting into a real rut & depression. I see her drinking a bit more than usual. This is all not good. Im supportive as can be but she is so confused as to what she wants to do, it makes it hard. You would figure after 15 years together ,we would be able to handle just about anything.
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She really has to decide on a direction . She needs to go to a doctor first,while she still has 3 weeks of insurance left. Then she can decide if she really wants to move away.
I want her to stay- but she needs to be happy and healthy.
I know she is stressed out- -but Im getting pretty stressed too. We have to figure it out soon- -
gotta go--
thanks for the space
jack
Sandy ,who is now not working anymore, was with me at the whole funeral thing- - which was important. Now she is going on about moving back to upstate NY again. Well, I hate to tell her, but she has to make a decision. She cant just not work,& leave the whole financial burden on me here. - Not forever anyway. She balks at going back to the doctor to take care of her "woman issues"- I think she is getting into a real rut & depression. I see her drinking a bit more than usual. This is all not good. Im supportive as can be but she is so confused as to what she wants to do, it makes it hard. You would figure after 15 years together ,we would be able to handle just about anything.
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She really has to decide on a direction . She needs to go to a doctor first,while she still has 3 weeks of insurance left. Then she can decide if she really wants to move away.
I want her to stay- but she needs to be happy and healthy.
I know she is stressed out- -but Im getting pretty stressed too. We have to figure it out soon- -
gotta go--
thanks for the space
jack
Jack
Just a thought - when some people have health issues they're scared and there is a feeling of restricted options because you know in your heart that things may play out badly - restricting where you go - restricting how much time you have to do things. It is a natural reaction to say i'm going to do this or that go here or there almost as a way of trying to pretend that you can do whatever you want. It's a sort of denial thing maybe this is part of it, the depression coming from the realisation that she doesn't feel strong enough to do very much.
15 years is a long time but it all depends on how close you've been how much you talk. You have to be the strong one here, tell her what you need, give her options to choose from to help her decide.
k
x
Thinking about you, Jack...
~MomNMore
~MomNMore
Dear Jack,
Good to hear from you. I'm sure you're emotionally exhausted with everything that's been going on. I'm so very proud of you for staying strong in your recovery through it all. You and Sandy and both in a very difficult situation. I will keep you in my prayers for strength, wisdom, and guidance. God bless!
Love,
Susan
Good to hear from you. I'm sure you're emotionally exhausted with everything that's been going on. I'm so very proud of you for staying strong in your recovery through it all. You and Sandy and both in a very difficult situation. I will keep you in my prayers for strength, wisdom, and guidance. God bless!
Love,
Susan
I didnt want to start a whole new thread., for an old topic so here is the latest on the relationship saga.
Sandy is still not working ,nor seeing a doctor about her woman,s cyst problem.
(That's really the only way I know how to put it- -she has a cyst down there & avoids getting it checked out)- So she is taking another trip up to her sisters Labor Day week-end. Im going to call her sister & try to get her to give Sandy some sisterly advise.
As for me- -I am taking a deserved vacation (or going on Holiday as some of you say). Im going to visit my cousin in Baltimore this weekend( he has been clean for 5 years after a long time heroin/mdon addiction)- He is OK with me stopping in for a few days even though Im bringing my m -done with me.-
So Sandy & I are taking a break from each other. It cant hurt.
My cousin got clean 5 years ago when he went into a hospital and went through that rapid detox method. He,s one of the few people I know ,who it really worked for. He came out ,took his G/F & moved to Maryland. Also,he dont go to any meetings and has been working full-time for the first time in years. This guy truly pulled off a miracle. Good for him- he relates to my situation and is so non judgemental- it will be good seeing him (and his long time G/F)-
Instead of driving ,I reserved a seat on a Amtrak train-- I have been on a train in 30 years, since I used to take them from NY to Boston in the college days. Should be pretty cool- -no driving stress,and it turns a 4-1/2 hr trip into about a 2&1/2 hour trip.
Anyway, its only Thursday ,I have a few more days of work- -but when Friday ends ,Im outta there for almost a week.
When we both come back ,we should have a better perspective on what direction to go. We have to come to a solution that both of us can live with. I never would have thought this in a million years- - but maybe our lives paths are changing so much that its time to move on without each other. Can that be possible??- It might be . Well see - -
tobecontinued,
jack
Sandy is still not working ,nor seeing a doctor about her woman,s cyst problem.
(That's really the only way I know how to put it- -she has a cyst down there & avoids getting it checked out)- So she is taking another trip up to her sisters Labor Day week-end. Im going to call her sister & try to get her to give Sandy some sisterly advise.
As for me- -I am taking a deserved vacation (or going on Holiday as some of you say). Im going to visit my cousin in Baltimore this weekend( he has been clean for 5 years after a long time heroin/mdon addiction)- He is OK with me stopping in for a few days even though Im bringing my m -done with me.-
So Sandy & I are taking a break from each other. It cant hurt.
My cousin got clean 5 years ago when he went into a hospital and went through that rapid detox method. He,s one of the few people I know ,who it really worked for. He came out ,took his G/F & moved to Maryland. Also,he dont go to any meetings and has been working full-time for the first time in years. This guy truly pulled off a miracle. Good for him- he relates to my situation and is so non judgemental- it will be good seeing him (and his long time G/F)-
Instead of driving ,I reserved a seat on a Amtrak train-- I have been on a train in 30 years, since I used to take them from NY to Boston in the college days. Should be pretty cool- -no driving stress,and it turns a 4-1/2 hr trip into about a 2&1/2 hour trip.
Anyway, its only Thursday ,I have a few more days of work- -but when Friday ends ,Im outta there for almost a week.
When we both come back ,we should have a better perspective on what direction to go. We have to come to a solution that both of us can live with. I never would have thought this in a million years- - but maybe our lives paths are changing so much that its time to move on without each other. Can that be possible??- It might be . Well see - -
tobecontinued,
jack
Jack - You sound real good. So sorry to hear about your grandmother, mine died a couple of weeks ago, too. Glad you two are talking and figuring out what's next. Enjoy your trips and try to have some fun.
Peace~MomNMore
Peace~MomNMore
Jack, Jack
Missed you mucho.........AmtraK........just you wait.........LOL........at least ya ain't got to go up to DC cause it stops there and switches engines........it beats driving though.........shouldn't be crowded cause them kids are all back to school and all.
Holy heck, Cynical One comes from Baltimore........LOL.........you see Snoopy driving one of them Segway thingies look out.......LOL.......cool it's good you are going away for some R&R.......by yourself, and your cousin sounds like one tough guy..........one strong fellow..........this is good.........hope Sandy gets some quality talk time in with her sister.........Jack, she just sounds sad or lost or just BLAH..........it stinks.........I feel bad for her.........I'm hoping she feels better as well.
Jack, you don't stick your ticket on the back of the seat like on New Jersey Transit............LOL.......a real conductor comes along..........then HE sticks the ticket like above your head..........shocked me so I figured I'd tell ya........LOL!!!
Missed you mucho.........AmtraK........just you wait.........LOL........at least ya ain't got to go up to DC cause it stops there and switches engines........it beats driving though.........shouldn't be crowded cause them kids are all back to school and all.
Holy heck, Cynical One comes from Baltimore........LOL.........you see Snoopy driving one of them Segway thingies look out.......LOL.......cool it's good you are going away for some R&R.......by yourself, and your cousin sounds like one tough guy..........one strong fellow..........this is good.........hope Sandy gets some quality talk time in with her sister.........Jack, she just sounds sad or lost or just BLAH..........it stinks.........I feel bad for her.........I'm hoping she feels better as well.
Jack, you don't stick your ticket on the back of the seat like on New Jersey Transit............LOL.......a real conductor comes along..........then HE sticks the ticket like above your head..........shocked me so I figured I'd tell ya........LOL!!!
