Lisa,
I'm glad you're sleeping well and yes, I know exactly what you mean! My son called me tonight with a calling card he got. It wasn't a good conversation. He's not happy with being in jail, not happy with detoxing, not happy that he can't live at our house when he gets out. He still refuses to take any responsibility for anything in his life. He ended the conversation saying mean things and cussing up a storm so I said I loved him and hung up.
As far as my recovery from surgery. I've got about another month at home and then hopefully the doctor will release me to go back to work.
Take care,
Michelle
Hi Michelle- I'm sorry your conversation with your son wasn't a good one. They seem to forget why they are there. It's everyone else's fault. I've been through it too. But my son seems to have accepted that he may be there a while. Almost a little too accepting. Kinda scares me. I don't want him to get too comfy with this life. Sometimes it becomes a way of life unfortunately. They get so used to being there that they dont know how to function in the outside world. I don't get it. But then again I don't get how a drug addicts brain works I guess.
I hope your next call/ visit will be better. It's never easy but it makes it harder when it's so negative.
Try to relax knowing he's ok right now. You know where he is and he's eating. I know that helps me. I have a food thing. Lol. I need to feed everyone!
Hugs to you.
Lisa
I hope your next call/ visit will be better. It's never easy but it makes it harder when it's so negative.
Try to relax knowing he's ok right now. You know where he is and he's eating. I know that helps me. I have a food thing. Lol. I need to feed everyone!
Hugs to you.
Lisa
Hi Michelle, Do you feel you are healing and will be well enough to go back to work when the month is up? It's a shame you don't get peace of mind to heal with the worry you have with your son. How long do you think he will be in jail for? Surely they get given some sort of medicine to help them with their withdrawals when their inside like this? Seems cruel to let them suffer I would think. Shell I'm quitting coming on here I'm sick of the BS from this one Jky when she's high or going through withdrawals. I also find on here too sad at times too. I'd like to thank you for all the help you've given me over the months. You really have made me stronger. I wish you well and hope everything works out with your son. It's been great having you to talk to. I may come across harsh at times but I come from another country and have a different way of expressing myself. The best of luck to you as you are a wonderful person. Love and God bless you. Mary. .
Mary,
I'm so sad to hear that you won't be on the message board any longer. I do understand why you're upset as that person has been obnoxious with me as well. I just hate to see you leave because of that. You have always given good advice and have been compassionate to everyone on here. I've been closer to you than anyone else on here. Maybe you'll change your mind after a break?
Right now I can't imagine standing on my feet for 8 hours at work but I'm better than I was, even a couple weeks ago. I'm hoping that in another month I'll be able to handle it. My job is a pretty active one, I won't get the chance to sit very often, so I want to be sure I'm ready before I go back.
I guess my son did get some meds for the first few days to help with the worst of the detox symptoms. His attitude is terrible.
I have no idea how long he'll be in jail. These last charges can be up to 2 years. I'm hoping he's there at least 6 months so he can have some longer clean time and maybe think differently.
Is your daughter gone now? I hope your granddaughter isn't too upset about it. I know it's got to be such a disappointment for you that she wasted yet another chance.
Please take care and know that even though I wouldn't know your face if you were standing right in front of me, I consider you a dear friend.
Michelle
I'm so sad to hear that you won't be on the message board any longer. I do understand why you're upset as that person has been obnoxious with me as well. I just hate to see you leave because of that. You have always given good advice and have been compassionate to everyone on here. I've been closer to you than anyone else on here. Maybe you'll change your mind after a break?
Right now I can't imagine standing on my feet for 8 hours at work but I'm better than I was, even a couple weeks ago. I'm hoping that in another month I'll be able to handle it. My job is a pretty active one, I won't get the chance to sit very often, so I want to be sure I'm ready before I go back.
I guess my son did get some meds for the first few days to help with the worst of the detox symptoms. His attitude is terrible.
I have no idea how long he'll be in jail. These last charges can be up to 2 years. I'm hoping he's there at least 6 months so he can have some longer clean time and maybe think differently.
Is your daughter gone now? I hope your granddaughter isn't too upset about it. I know it's got to be such a disappointment for you that she wasted yet another chance.
Please take care and know that even though I wouldn't know your face if you were standing right in front of me, I consider you a dear friend.
Michelle
I hate to say this , but I am more at peace when my son is in jail. I know he is not stealing, he is not trying to find a place to live. He is not begging for food. Not trying to con people into feeding him, giving him rides or any other nonense that he comes up with.
I wish I could lock him up myself in a world but reality sets in and either way we are paying , for their hospital bills when they od or their jail time or when they rob someone and the injured have to file for insurance and then they don't feel safe in their own homes anymore. I just don't know what the answer is. BUT something has to change and I honestly don't know what it is.
Educating them about what drugs can do is useless the kids take it as a challenge, I know my son did. I told him what would happen and he felt invisible, until now he is an addict.
Michelle, I hope you are recovery ok and you will finally feel some relief from your back.
XX
Sue
I wish I could lock him up myself in a world but reality sets in and either way we are paying , for their hospital bills when they od or their jail time or when they rob someone and the injured have to file for insurance and then they don't feel safe in their own homes anymore. I just don't know what the answer is. BUT something has to change and I honestly don't know what it is.
Educating them about what drugs can do is useless the kids take it as a challenge, I know my son did. I told him what would happen and he felt invisible, until now he is an addict.
Michelle, I hope you are recovery ok and you will finally feel some relief from your back.
XX
Sue
Sue.
Thanks, my recovery is going pretty good. It's just taking longer than I'd like.
Yeah, I'm glad my son is in jail right now. I do get a little mental relief but not really. I can't help but worry about him and the hole he's dug for himself. There's absolutely nothing I can do about it but jail is one thing and prison is a whole other thing and he could end up spending time in prison this time. I'll continue to pray for him and hope that something good comes out of this.
I've been on here for a little over a year and I've never felt any drama or bad vibes but things have changed in the past couple months. I feel bad that Mary left because of someone giving her crap. She has such a good heart and has helped me a lot. I'll still check in but I feel like it's not the same anymore.
Your friend,
Michelle
Thanks, my recovery is going pretty good. It's just taking longer than I'd like.
Yeah, I'm glad my son is in jail right now. I do get a little mental relief but not really. I can't help but worry about him and the hole he's dug for himself. There's absolutely nothing I can do about it but jail is one thing and prison is a whole other thing and he could end up spending time in prison this time. I'll continue to pray for him and hope that something good comes out of this.
I've been on here for a little over a year and I've never felt any drama or bad vibes but things have changed in the past couple months. I feel bad that Mary left because of someone giving her crap. She has such a good heart and has helped me a lot. I'll still check in but I feel like it's not the same anymore.
Your friend,
Michelle
Hang in there!
Michelle,
I had no idea that someone was saying anything to Mary. She needed lots of TLC. This forum helps it shouldn't chase a person off.
My son did prison time and it wasn't pretty, but he did the crime he need repercussions for what he did.
He broke into people homes, he rob stores. He broke into his own father's garage while he was living with me. List goes on. Right now I wish he was in prison, jail.
Take this time to regroup, recoup, because before you know it, the drama begins.
Keep coming back , xxxx
Sue
I had no idea that someone was saying anything to Mary. She needed lots of TLC. This forum helps it shouldn't chase a person off.
My son did prison time and it wasn't pretty, but he did the crime he need repercussions for what he did.
He broke into people homes, he rob stores. He broke into his own father's garage while he was living with me. List goes on. Right now I wish he was in prison, jail.
Take this time to regroup, recoup, because before you know it, the drama begins.
Keep coming back , xxxx
Sue
Con, thank you for helping me understand why one feels the need to use after getting out of a controlled environment. You are such a tremendous source of help to us here and I can't thank you enough!
Michelle, I know how you feel about being relieved your son is in jail. I slept so much better and had peace of mind because I knew exactly where my son was every day and that he had a bed and meals even if not the greatest. I will continue to pray for you and your son.
I hope Mary decides to come back to this message board. I was sad to read that whatever someone was saying was upsetting her. Mary was always so supportive even with all she is going through.
Well, going to bed. It's back to school for my 9 yr.old granddaughter so no more sleeping in for us.
Peace and live to all!
Michelle, I know how you feel about being relieved your son is in jail. I slept so much better and had peace of mind because I knew exactly where my son was every day and that he had a bed and meals even if not the greatest. I will continue to pray for you and your son.
I hope Mary decides to come back to this message board. I was sad to read that whatever someone was saying was upsetting her. Mary was always so supportive even with all she is going through.
Well, going to bed. It's back to school for my 9 yr.old granddaughter so no more sleeping in for us.
Peace and live to all!
