Hi all. I'm am at college at the moment and during my time at home over christmas i seen an old girlfriend and she told me i have a two year old baby girl. We met when her ex boyfriend was in jail and we were both clean at the time. We got together and all was cool for a bit, then her ex got out of jail and started kicking off. He came to my work starting fights and he even tried to stab me(he is just a little boy, you know the type) and was just not happy seeing us clean and together. I wanted to sort this guy out cuz he was being a proper pain and this girl didn't want me to so we fell out. When we fell out he was there with a shoulder to cry on and a bit of smack for her (not what i thought she needed but she thought otherwise). When i heard she was back on gear i just stayed out the way. I had a little relapse that lasted about 2 months. This 2 months was enough for me to know i had had enough of this life. I got off the gear, got a training course and then onto a college place and have been doing my thing since. 9 months after finishing with me this girl had a baby but she told everyone it was his. He keep up his usual stuff, in and out of jail non-stop, the usual stuff. She has been off gear for a while now and she tells me this baby is mine and there is a lot of things that make it look mine such as features and hair colour etc. The ex is still about, he got out of jail 3 days ago and he is a bit pissed but he kinda thinks it is mine. I came back to college yesterday so i'm out of the way and away from any trouble. Does anyone know anything about DNA testing and any other advice would be good. What a christmas present eh!
wow, frankie, sorry to hear about your situation. I don't know anything about DNA . Just wanted to say hello and wish you the best. Did you try looking up
psternity testing in the yellow pages in your area, they may be able to direct you further. Best of luck. Dawn
psternity testing in the yellow pages in your area, they may be able to direct you further. Best of luck. Dawn
Oh wow Frankie... what a surprise.... man, i can't imagine. I don't know much about dna testing but i will tell you what my sister did. She got preg a year ago with a guy and he denied it was his so she went to the attorney? I don't know i will have to find out... but they made the guy test and sure enough it was his. He is still a low life dead beat dad (i am in no way saying that you are like that... promise) and doesn't see my niece and the state takes his child support out of his paycheck. You know, i am her big sis and protective of her... you know how us older siblings are... lol! Surely you can get a dna test somewhere... i am glad you are doing the right thing and wanting to know... just stay away from that guy she is with... he sounds dangerous and you seem to be getting your life together. Hang in there... Love, Bri ;)
been on internet looking at DNA tests. It all looks quite easy, you just pay your money, give a little swab and 5 days later you get the results - just like trisha!
I've got to know now one way or the other, and as for her ex, that is down to her ain't it. I've said if she wants help then all she has to do is ask but if he is about i won't be. He is sick in the head and an idiot scumbag, and they tell ya not to argue with an idiot, he'll bring ya to his level and beat you with experience. I am sure i've seen that quoted on here somewhere and it is so true.
I've got to know now one way or the other, and as for her ex, that is down to her ain't it. I've said if she wants help then all she has to do is ask but if he is about i won't be. He is sick in the head and an idiot scumbag, and they tell ya not to argue with an idiot, he'll bring ya to his level and beat you with experience. I am sure i've seen that quoted on here somewhere and it is so true.
Whoa. That sucks all the way around in a way, Frankie.
I mean if biologically the baby is yours there's more to it than financial support. If that dude is around then he'll be raising up your child.
Definitely need a DNA. No more needles like you said. Just swabs. I would think this young lady is praying the baby is yours as you are on your way in life, and responsible. Either way I hope you make out alright.
Sorry you are having to deal with this.
I mean if biologically the baby is yours there's more to it than financial support. If that dude is around then he'll be raising up your child.
Definitely need a DNA. No more needles like you said. Just swabs. I would think this young lady is praying the baby is yours as you are on your way in life, and responsible. Either way I hope you make out alright.
Sorry you are having to deal with this.
If it is yours I hope you be a part of the kids life. If she relapses you might be the ont to care for the child. Dude, I promise in time you will love that kid unconditional.
yea dude u sound like ur open to the idea of being a father so y not go for it.. do a search for dna testing .. u should b able to pop down to ur local doctors tell this gurl that u want to b tested.. n trust ur guna get s*** frum this other guy but if u stand ur ground n fight for the truth ..whether u want her back or not i gaurentee she will fall for u again.. and it might even help her come clean for good? take care n i wish u all the best x
I ain't that bothered about the other bloke, he is just a joke. And as for him bringing up my baby, He has failed to be a dad since the kid was born and if i find out this kid is mine, i won't allow him anywhere near her. I mean, it is all on record about him attempting to murder me a few times, he has also threaterned this woman a number of times. I know what this woman is like when she is straight and she is a good person, but on the gear i have not got a clue how she thinks, it changes her so much.
great attitude.. i do soo hope this is ur kid.. i think it will do u sooo muchgood take care all the best xXx
....frankie...how things mate....if that kid is yours and you want to be a father to ..you need to step in there mate and claim whats yours..it sounds like the girl needs your help aswell to get away from that little prick...he,s like the sort of wanker that goes rond nicking phones of 12 yr olds and that..you know wot im talking about.....he don,t want nothing to do with that baby...he probably ain,t even made the kid a hot milk bottle...she,ll end up on a life of smag..and he,ll end up in and out of nick..and beating her up in between....she sounds like she still wants to be around ya...and she needs help getting away from that little knobhead.!!!!!..heroin changes all of frankie..maybe she will be the same girl you knew..maybe she won,t....but from wot you say...maybe you could both make it work and be a happy little family.of the drugs .with a child that both parents love.....good luck...i hope things work out for ya....robbie..
There's a possibility that if you go to the Support Enforcement department in your county that they will do this test for free. You will, of course have to start paying child support, but it sounds like you are ready to be a dad.
Congratulations
Congratulations
Just thought i'd let you's all know how things are going. I have done the d.n.a test and the baby is mine. What a little character she is as well, she has blown me away. The other bloke has just about dissapeared, i think he knew the child wasn't his and was just wanted to be with the woman. now she has had enough of his s***, he was using the baby as a lever. The last time i spoke to him was the day after the results came through and he didn't even want to know the outcome, he said he had always known and that he would be out of our lifes from now on.
Me and Anjali have been spending quite a bit of time together and it has been great. I didn't know what to do or think when i first found out, but i am so glad it has happened. Wow i'm a dad, how did that happen?
Me and Anjali have been spending quite a bit of time together and it has been great. I didn't know what to do or think when i first found out, but i am so glad it has happened. Wow i'm a dad, how did that happen?
I dont know if your into dealing with this or if you want to-but- if your clean and the mother is still using ,that creates a real danger and you could try and get full custudy.
I did. It wasnt easy ,my parents helped a lot but my son has been with mE since he has been 2 years old. There were a few years where I got all f**ked up again and my parents jumped in but I was always involved.
His mother is a alcoholic, on all kinds of assistance. I got on a mdone program ,started therapy ,did every thing I possible to convice the courts that my son would be better off in a home with me and my family than with his mother .She fought me in the beginning,but as the battle went on ,she saw that she didnt have a chance and more or less gave up.
This was 16 years ago(the whole story is somewhere on this board).
Like they say "anyone can be a father ,but not everyone can be a Dad"-and that OK. iT takes time and all kinds of adjustments and changes.
Whatever you choose -congrads!! and stay involved Its an awsome responsibily ,but worth it.
send me a cigar,
jack
I did. It wasnt easy ,my parents helped a lot but my son has been with mE since he has been 2 years old. There were a few years where I got all f**ked up again and my parents jumped in but I was always involved.
His mother is a alcoholic, on all kinds of assistance. I got on a mdone program ,started therapy ,did every thing I possible to convice the courts that my son would be better off in a home with me and my family than with his mother .She fought me in the beginning,but as the battle went on ,she saw that she didnt have a chance and more or less gave up.
This was 16 years ago(the whole story is somewhere on this board).
Like they say "anyone can be a father ,but not everyone can be a Dad"-and that OK. iT takes time and all kinds of adjustments and changes.
Whatever you choose -congrads!! and stay involved Its an awsome responsibily ,but worth it.
send me a cigar,
jack
Jack
I totally agree with you.
Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad
I totally agree with you.
Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad
Frankie - I have been reading your posts and for the sake of that child i am glad you are the father. Imagine what that girls life would have been like w/ a father in and out of jail.
It's amazing what a kid can do for you i have a 4 year old son and he's the love of my life and i just want to set the right example for him. I'm 6 months clean and now his father is letting me see him agian i have never been happier.
That is great that your her father and stay invoved they are so amazing when there young and the best is watching them grow. I'm verry happy for you.
All the best -Mia
It's amazing what a kid can do for you i have a 4 year old son and he's the love of my life and i just want to set the right example for him. I'm 6 months clean and now his father is letting me see him agian i have never been happier.
That is great that your her father and stay invoved they are so amazing when there young and the best is watching them grow. I'm verry happy for you.
All the best -Mia
Thanks for all the support guy's. In regards to the mother, she hasn't touched gear in quite a while but is on a m'done script, she is a bit flakey but she has been a good mother to my daughter and i can't deny that. All dad's might feel like this but this kid is so well behaved. she goes straight to bed, never cries. i've never seen anything like it. The only problem i ever had with the mother was cuz the old boyfriend used to totaly control her. He is a bit of a sick puppy if you know what i mean. She has wanted him to go for a long time - so she said, and i do know the details - he has done some bad things to her that made her realise she wasn't safe. If she isn't safe neither is her daughter so he had to go. I don't think she would have had the strength to get rid of him if it wasn't for the baby, but that ain't the case and she did the right thing in the end.She has had a panic button fitted incase he turns up but he has been very quiet these past few weeks-shame eh! His last words to the babys mother was "f*** you and f*** the baby, i'm off !" Nice ain't it.
I'm due to finish college next week, so i have been away during the week and back at the weekend since i found out at christmas. I'm looking forward to being around all the time cuz the weeks at college have seemed so long and the weekends i spend with my daughter seem so short. I'm just enjoying it all at the moment. I never thought being a dad would feel like this!
I'm due to finish college next week, so i have been away during the week and back at the weekend since i found out at christmas. I'm looking forward to being around all the time cuz the weeks at college have seemed so long and the weekends i spend with my daughter seem so short. I'm just enjoying it all at the moment. I never thought being a dad would feel like this!
Frankie, The baby's name is Anjeli? What a beautiful name.
I'm very happy for you.....I'm happy for the baby too....I don't think the guy will be back....no more leverage ya know.....on to the next thing.
Bless your baby girl...and you may want to chat with Robbie....he's a single dad, and an awesome one at that.....I was wondering how you made out.
All the more reason to stay clean....AND FINISH SCHOOL...LOL...hey, I'm a mom I have to say that.....thanks for letting us know....enjoy your daughter.
I'm very happy for you.....I'm happy for the baby too....I don't think the guy will be back....no more leverage ya know.....on to the next thing.
Bless your baby girl...and you may want to chat with Robbie....he's a single dad, and an awesome one at that.....I was wondering how you made out.
All the more reason to stay clean....AND FINISH SCHOOL...LOL...hey, I'm a mom I have to say that.....thanks for letting us know....enjoy your daughter.
Dear Frankie,
WOW! CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'm very proud of you for embracing fatherhood the way you have. Bless your heart! Your daughter is very lucky that you are the father.
God bless!
Susan
WOW! CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'm very proud of you for embracing fatherhood the way you have. Bless your heart! Your daughter is very lucky that you are the father.
God bless!
Susan
