I dont know if this is the right place, but Im starting here. Ill shorten the story as best I can. My son moved away to college and his girlfriend followed him. Shes struggled to find/keep a job for the two years hes been there in school. 2 days ago we think we found our reason why....she was shooting up in their apartment. I dont have a lot of details (what drug, how long, etc.) but it does make a lot of her actions and previous comments make more sense.
My question/problem is my son has one responsibility....SCHOOL! But hes not able to focus on that because of her. They signed the lease together and his landlord said that he (my son) cant kicked her out....even though he has a photo of her shooting up! I want to know what his recourses are...if anything?! He told her to leave 2 days ago and she left willingly but apparently she slept on his porch. I think shes manipulating him to feel guilty but I am stressing that he has to focus on HIM.
I feel horrible even posting after reading about months/years of struggles that others have endured. But HE is my priority and simply put, her addiction is not his problem. I offered to buy her a train ticket to get her home to her family. But hes not comfortable with the idea of her in the house, as he knows she already stolen from him!
Any guidance or suggestions (and prayer) are appreciated!
Humm - I will give some suggestions. idk which will work for you. It helps to talk it out from our collective experiences.
1. Rent. If they signed the lease together, your son is responsible for his half of the rent for the time period. Either of them could break the lease. Maybe your son can break the lease and pay off his half of the contract?
2. Restraining order. She would not be allowed to speak to him or be on the premises, etc
3. Train ticket, Get her out of town. She will always have reasons to be at the apartment, or need food, etc.
4. Your son should not answer her phone calls or messages.
5. Are you sure he is not part of the problem?
6. It would be pretty distracting for him to do well in school if he has to deal w drama, etc.
7. Call or Send a message to her parents to go pick her up.
1. Rent. If they signed the lease together, your son is responsible for his half of the rent for the time period. Either of them could break the lease. Maybe your son can break the lease and pay off his half of the contract?
2. Restraining order. She would not be allowed to speak to him or be on the premises, etc
3. Train ticket, Get her out of town. She will always have reasons to be at the apartment, or need food, etc.
4. Your son should not answer her phone calls or messages.
5. Are you sure he is not part of the problem?
6. It would be pretty distracting for him to do well in school if he has to deal w drama, etc.
7. Call or Send a message to her parents to go pick her up.
