Hi Everyone, I have known this person for about 15 years as a friend. I knew he drank quite a bit and whenever we got together it would be a drunken gathering or meeting for drinks.
As of the last few months be has claimed his love for me and wants to marry me and have kids. The problem now that i have been hanging out with him more and more is that he has a sever drinking problem. Not that he just stinks alot, but that if he doesn't he feels sick. That is so scary for me.
How can I even think ofnstarying a new relationship with someone like this. He seems to be a great guy besides the drinking. All of his other girlfriends have left because fornthe drinking. How am I any different. He says he needs me. He needs me to help him. I have asked if he is willing to go to detox or rehab and he says that he can't financially do that right now
Is that just an excuse. He also told me that if I don't want to spend the rest of my life with him he understands he just needs an answer. Can someone please give me as advice. In am reading on here other stories and I don't think I should open this can of worms. But I also don't want him to think I have failed him.
You dont need advice you know the answer.. tell him you will consider his offer when he has been sober for at least a year....see what happens .if he is sincere and willing he will do whatever it takes.
Good advice, pirate.
Unfortunately, you cannot do anything here. It is all in his court. You can't fail him, because he has to do it. Only he can fail at this.
I agree with pirate. Distance and put responsibility back on him.
Unfortunately, you cannot do anything here. It is all in his court. You can't fail him, because he has to do it. Only he can fail at this.
I agree with pirate. Distance and put responsibility back on him.
