My husband has had a cocaine addiction before I even knew him but I really didnt find out the extent of it until being married ..of course for awhile he did stop between first moving in together and getting married ..but then it begun ..the lies ,taking money and the fights ..he is finally getting the help he needs but my question is how do you let go of the past ? All of the hurt
There is one specific time in having the most issues with ..we had been fighting a lot but this day was different ..we were having fun laughing together and just having a good day until we sold his old phone to a cell phone store for parts ..he told me they only gave him a certain amount which I didnt believe I then called the store and found out they gave him a lot more than he told me and when I confronted him he took it out of his sock and threw it at me ..who hides money in there sock (he would do drugs at work and that was his plan) I then realized Im married to the fakest person ..I understand its the drugs and an addiction ..but how do you let something like that go ..
Hi there,
Lying is the most detrimental thing to a relationship. It can be overcome, but it takes a lot of work. Most importantly, it takes stopping all lying. If your husband is committed to a sober life and committed to being honest, working on your relationship, you have a chance.
It still won't be easy for you. And, you both will have the frustration of not trusting for awhile. I went through something similar in the past, although not drugs. We had a good counselor, and he said that the only way to build trust is to stop lying. He was really upfront that some people make it and some people can't.
If you haven't, I would start seeing a counselor to deal with your hurt and betrayal. Also, couples counseling or a group or something to help the both of you.
Good luck. Tough to get over.
Lying is the most detrimental thing to a relationship. It can be overcome, but it takes a lot of work. Most importantly, it takes stopping all lying. If your husband is committed to a sober life and committed to being honest, working on your relationship, you have a chance.
It still won't be easy for you. And, you both will have the frustration of not trusting for awhile. I went through something similar in the past, although not drugs. We had a good counselor, and he said that the only way to build trust is to stop lying. He was really upfront that some people make it and some people can't.
If you haven't, I would start seeing a counselor to deal with your hurt and betrayal. Also, couples counseling or a group or something to help the both of you.
Good luck. Tough to get over.
