Hello to everyone,
Just wanted to see if there were some people out there like myself that have been through the recovery process with a spouse. My spouse is currently in rehab on a 90 day (average) program, We are in day 17 and it seems like forever. The place is good but very strict and we do not get to talk but about 15 min. per day on the phone. But there is visitaton on Sunday for 4 hours. She wis an RN that got hooked on pain medicine. I was completely unaware of her addiction till it was uncovered. I am still dealing with the shock, anger, and lies of her covering up for the last 2 years. I could sure use some support and advice if anyone out there has been where I find myself now.
I just really need getting over the anger of what has happened to our life so I can focus on supporting here though this. Any help ou there?
Good Morning Laengr.
My story is a bit different but its all the same in the end. My husband went ct at home from painkillers which he took for 4 years (heavily for the last year) and herion which he started to take in the end of his run because frankly it was cheaper in a pinch when he couldn't get pills. I know it is hard not having your wife around but at times I wish I didn't have to watch the withdrawl process. It is not a pretty site. Physically he wasn't all that bad compared to others......mentally he was basically insane. At one point just after 24hours without any pills I had to give him 40 mgs of valium just to knock him out so he wouldn't hurt himself. He is almost 30 days clean that will be this coming Sunday. It is better for your wife to be where she is. There is less of a chance she will relaspe like some do early on.
The lies.....half truthes.....and bull I have been feed especially in the last year have been hard to deal with. As each day passed it does get easier but I won't be trusting much of anything he says for awhile. I feel like a I was used.....I know that seems strange.......but here I am doing the day to day and your hiding from everything behind the pills. I don't know if you had an idea of what your wife was doing but I knew. I knew for a long time even though he lied about it. That has been the hardest part for me. I sat and watch and waited for him to get disgusted with his behavior and ask for help.
Please hang in and pray for her everyday. Make that call everyday and visit on Sundays. It is very important for her to know you are supportive of her getting clean. Please excuse me for rambling.....under alot of stress still not sleeping well. If you need to vent, or have questions or just need someone to talk to just post.
Good Luck to You,
Tina
My story is a bit different but its all the same in the end. My husband went ct at home from painkillers which he took for 4 years (heavily for the last year) and herion which he started to take in the end of his run because frankly it was cheaper in a pinch when he couldn't get pills. I know it is hard not having your wife around but at times I wish I didn't have to watch the withdrawl process. It is not a pretty site. Physically he wasn't all that bad compared to others......mentally he was basically insane. At one point just after 24hours without any pills I had to give him 40 mgs of valium just to knock him out so he wouldn't hurt himself. He is almost 30 days clean that will be this coming Sunday. It is better for your wife to be where she is. There is less of a chance she will relaspe like some do early on.
The lies.....half truthes.....and bull I have been feed especially in the last year have been hard to deal with. As each day passed it does get easier but I won't be trusting much of anything he says for awhile. I feel like a I was used.....I know that seems strange.......but here I am doing the day to day and your hiding from everything behind the pills. I don't know if you had an idea of what your wife was doing but I knew. I knew for a long time even though he lied about it. That has been the hardest part for me. I sat and watch and waited for him to get disgusted with his behavior and ask for help.
Please hang in and pray for her everyday. Make that call everyday and visit on Sundays. It is very important for her to know you are supportive of her getting clean. Please excuse me for rambling.....under alot of stress still not sleeping well. If you need to vent, or have questions or just need someone to talk to just post.
Good Luck to You,
Tina
Hi
My story is a lot like Tina's with a few differences. My boyfriend went on Sub for 3 weeks and has been off of the Sub now for almost 2 weeks. Physically, he's not bad now, although he gets the restless legs sometimes still at night and he's very fatigued and tired, but not sleeping great. His biggest problem right now is the mental. He says he feels like he is constantly jonesing. He's had a ten year habit though and is having to learn to live life completely differently. I'm having a hard time trusting, especially since I know he is at a very weak stage right now and wonder the entire time he is not by my side what he is doing. This last week has been really rough, but he is still clean and I'm giving credit where credit is due. Today is his first day back at work and he's already called me this morning about how rough it is, but he's doing it. I'm very proud of him. We have talked about the trust issue and he knows that he has to earn that trust back which he has been doing by telling me the whole truth (even when he knows I won't be too happy with him because of certain other things he's done).
It takes time and a lot of love, but you can get through it.
Good luck and know you are not alone!
Mickey
My story is a lot like Tina's with a few differences. My boyfriend went on Sub for 3 weeks and has been off of the Sub now for almost 2 weeks. Physically, he's not bad now, although he gets the restless legs sometimes still at night and he's very fatigued and tired, but not sleeping great. His biggest problem right now is the mental. He says he feels like he is constantly jonesing. He's had a ten year habit though and is having to learn to live life completely differently. I'm having a hard time trusting, especially since I know he is at a very weak stage right now and wonder the entire time he is not by my side what he is doing. This last week has been really rough, but he is still clean and I'm giving credit where credit is due. Today is his first day back at work and he's already called me this morning about how rough it is, but he's doing it. I'm very proud of him. We have talked about the trust issue and he knows that he has to earn that trust back which he has been doing by telling me the whole truth (even when he knows I won't be too happy with him because of certain other things he's done).
It takes time and a lot of love, but you can get through it.
Good luck and know you are not alone!
Mickey
Sorry forgot something important in the first post. Don't know if either of you know but they are adding a new forum for the family and friends of those addicted. It should be up in a few weeks. Thanks moderators for adding to a post to let people know.
My spouse will be in rehab nearly two weeks. It has been very difficult I can only imagine for him inside, but I can empathize with you on how difficult it also is for us. So confusing. Be supportive or get out while you can and start a new life. I find myself strong and wanting our marriage to win. And then I can't stop crying...not tears, weeping. Sad for the lies that were told to my face, sad for the promises I thought were real, sad that its an illness and everything just may begin all over one day for some unknown reason. My insides are ripped apart and my heart is broken. I try to be supportive when he calls. And I want him to win. I just don't know if I can continue. Every muscle in my body hurts from this stress. I have headaches every day. Its tough on all of us. I look forward to the new posting site for loved ones. We all need help. Good luck and hang in there.
Guys- all I can tell you is PLEASE hang in there for your spouse in rehab. It might take 3-4 times, but you feel so alone in there. I've been there. Nowhere to turn, feeling helpless, and knowing someone is on the "outside" waiting for you is what pulls you through. So, yep, you have a right to be mad. But they should be more mad at themselves for what they have done to themselves. And they are. BELIEVE me..
May I add that we must stick by our children with addiction as well as our spouses.WE are over 50 days clean of street drugs but still on prescriptions. Im starting to feel I need the nerve/anxious meds to deal with all goign on. Please send a prayer for me if you could. I promise to do the same.
Hi labecca,
Wanted to tell you I got your e-mail. Also I will send lots of prayers your way......I hope things are going ok for you. If you need anything, just post or send me an e-mail. I check my mail a couple times a day.
Hang in there..........
Tina
Wanted to tell you I got your e-mail. Also I will send lots of prayers your way......I hope things are going ok for you. If you need anything, just post or send me an e-mail. I check my mail a couple times a day.
Hang in there..........
Tina
Becca- The kids are part of the package. So yep, stick by the kids, be honest with them if they are old enough to understand and make sure they show their Mom/Dad love when they are in rehab. My little 4 year old loves Carebears. I said that on another thread somewhere. And when I went in, she, for some reason, gave me "Braveheart Lion" to take with. I actually slept with that thing. She has since reclaimed it as her own, but I held that SO tight. She's only 4, but she KNEW something was wrong with Daddy. BTW, the others laughed at me for it, and then told me never to let that Bear go...
Hi Danny,
The story about your little 4 year old really touched me. It's amazing how much our children know. I was in rehab when my son was 3 years old. I want to say to the spouses who are angry about what your spouse has done to you and to themselves. I have to agree with Danny about them being angry at themselves. Everytime I had to watch my 3 year old leave kicking and crying for me it really tore me up inside. Nobody could had been as angry at me as I was at myself.
I can't promise you however that they will not relapse sometime down the road. It's a decision only you can make whether you can deal with this. This is a disease and there is no cure. But they can go to meetings. NA/AA meetings that will help them learn how to live with the disease without ever relapsing. You can also go to Alanon meetings. It's support for people dealing with a loved one that is addicted to drugs or alcohol.
Good Luck
Liz
The story about your little 4 year old really touched me. It's amazing how much our children know. I was in rehab when my son was 3 years old. I want to say to the spouses who are angry about what your spouse has done to you and to themselves. I have to agree with Danny about them being angry at themselves. Everytime I had to watch my 3 year old leave kicking and crying for me it really tore me up inside. Nobody could had been as angry at me as I was at myself.
I can't promise you however that they will not relapse sometime down the road. It's a decision only you can make whether you can deal with this. This is a disease and there is no cure. But they can go to meetings. NA/AA meetings that will help them learn how to live with the disease without ever relapsing. You can also go to Alanon meetings. It's support for people dealing with a loved one that is addicted to drugs or alcohol.
Good Luck
Liz
Laengr, from an addicts mouth, hang in there. I too am a nurse who became addicted to pain pills and went into a rehab center for 30 days. My husband was also very hurt and upset with me because of the lies. He almost left me. I don't think he could have said anything to me that would have made me feel worse than I made myself feel. Please try to go to support groups to try to understand this disease. I know there is nothing I can say to make the hurt and betrayal go away, but try to image how she is feeling. I too lied to my husband and did things that were pretty bad. This disease is cunning and selfish. Its almost like the disease is your partner and is the only one you want to please. It sounds horrible but it is the truth. I knew when I was using that I was doing wrong by my hubby but all I cared about was the pills. They made me complete, a whole person, or so I thought. I have 2 young children and hurt them so much. I have tried to forgive myself for it but that hasn't quite happened yet. They are too young to understand addiction, so thye couldn't understand why mommy wasn't around. I thought I was a good mother but what good mother puts their kids through that. So not only did I scar my family, but also myself.. I am not trying to make excuses for the lying and deceiving but in time things will get easier. Just try to hang in there for her and let her know you still love her. If my family would have abandoned me I don';t think I would be here writing this to you. Go to a supprt meeting and try to find out what she is living with and how she has to live with herself. Beleive me she is being hard on herself right now and she needs to finish this rehab to learn her tools to deal with this disease. There is no cure for this disease it lives with us forever. We as addicts have to learn to keep this ugly disease from destroying our lives and our loved ones lives. My husband used to tell me that I was selfish for leaving and going into rehab, but what he doesn't understand that if you don't get help(whether it be in a rehab or at home cold turkey)this disease will eventually kill you. I told him I had to take care of me first and fix me before I could take care of him and the kids. It is not an easy journey, but don't give up on her if you love her. I'm sorry started rambling and don't know if I made any sense. I hope this helps a little. My prayers are with you and your family. Ann
Hi, Laengr
I'm really glad that you have joined this site. I found it in search of trying to understand my son and help him overcome his addiction problem, and it has been a big help to me in helping to see the "other" side and to know that I'm not the only one hurt by the deceit of a loved one. I am very much looking forward to the new forum for families, but I wouldn't have wanted to miss this either.
My son is 28 years old and addicted to oxycontin. He is in financial crisis and in trouble with the law as a result. The worst part of it is the fear for his life (worry about overdosing) and not being able to trust a word he says to me. At one point, I felt he didn't love us anymore because we would let him use our cell phone (since he lost his because of not paying his bill), and he would only answer when he needed something. He'd let me worry the whole night and into the morning about where he was and how he was doing. He now swears he's not doing the oxycontin, but taking some vicodin to ease his withdrawal pain until we get a call that there is room for him on the list for treatment. He wants to try outpatient first, but promised to do inpatient if it's not working for him.
My son has hurt our family financially (we have put out thousands of dollars to keep him out of jail for not paying his rent/bills), emotionally by not wanting to be a part of very important family activities and by not being honest with us, and we can't even let our wallets/valuables lay in our own home for fear he will use or sell them for drugs. But yet....we still love him dearly. The trust will come back in time. The bills will all get paid in time. The important thing is that we are blessed that we found out about his addiction before anything serious happened to him. Thank God!!!!! The rest will heal in time.
I know I would miss my son a LOT if he had to go away for rehab, BUT I could put up with anything just to know that he was doing what is necessary to turn his life around and be safe.
By the way, I don't like doctors or taking medication, but I found it necessary to go on Zoloft to deal with all of this...the drugs, lies, bills, and legal problems. I'm crying a lot with it, so I can't imagine I would have made it without it. Please know that you aren't alone by any means. There is pain on both sides, but love and prayer can overcome. Take one day at a time. I've shared a prayer for healing of relationships on here. I will copy and paste it on my next post on here for you. I put it on my mirror and say it every night when I'm brushing my teeth before bed. It opens the door for God to heal your heart. Try it!
I care!
Susan
I'm really glad that you have joined this site. I found it in search of trying to understand my son and help him overcome his addiction problem, and it has been a big help to me in helping to see the "other" side and to know that I'm not the only one hurt by the deceit of a loved one. I am very much looking forward to the new forum for families, but I wouldn't have wanted to miss this either.
My son is 28 years old and addicted to oxycontin. He is in financial crisis and in trouble with the law as a result. The worst part of it is the fear for his life (worry about overdosing) and not being able to trust a word he says to me. At one point, I felt he didn't love us anymore because we would let him use our cell phone (since he lost his because of not paying his bill), and he would only answer when he needed something. He'd let me worry the whole night and into the morning about where he was and how he was doing. He now swears he's not doing the oxycontin, but taking some vicodin to ease his withdrawal pain until we get a call that there is room for him on the list for treatment. He wants to try outpatient first, but promised to do inpatient if it's not working for him.
My son has hurt our family financially (we have put out thousands of dollars to keep him out of jail for not paying his rent/bills), emotionally by not wanting to be a part of very important family activities and by not being honest with us, and we can't even let our wallets/valuables lay in our own home for fear he will use or sell them for drugs. But yet....we still love him dearly. The trust will come back in time. The bills will all get paid in time. The important thing is that we are blessed that we found out about his addiction before anything serious happened to him. Thank God!!!!! The rest will heal in time.
I know I would miss my son a LOT if he had to go away for rehab, BUT I could put up with anything just to know that he was doing what is necessary to turn his life around and be safe.
By the way, I don't like doctors or taking medication, but I found it necessary to go on Zoloft to deal with all of this...the drugs, lies, bills, and legal problems. I'm crying a lot with it, so I can't imagine I would have made it without it. Please know that you aren't alone by any means. There is pain on both sides, but love and prayer can overcome. Take one day at a time. I've shared a prayer for healing of relationships on here. I will copy and paste it on my next post on here for you. I put it on my mirror and say it every night when I'm brushing my teeth before bed. It opens the door for God to heal your heart. Try it!
I care!
Susan
Here's the prayer!
Healing Prayer at Bedtime
Lord Jesus,
Through the power of the Holy Spirit, go back into my memory as I sleep.
Every hurt that has ever been done to me, heal that hurt.
Every hurt that I have ever caused another person, heal that hurt.
All the relationships that have been damanged in my whole life that I am
not aware of, heal those relationships.
But, Lord, if there is anything that I need to do,
If I need to go to a person because he or she is still suffering from my hand,
bring to my awareness that person.
I CHOOSE to forgive, and I ask to be forgiven.
Remove whatever bitterness may be in my heart or their hearts, Lord, and
fill the empty spaces with your love.
Amen.
Healing Prayer at Bedtime
Lord Jesus,
Through the power of the Holy Spirit, go back into my memory as I sleep.
Every hurt that has ever been done to me, heal that hurt.
Every hurt that I have ever caused another person, heal that hurt.
All the relationships that have been damanged in my whole life that I am
not aware of, heal those relationships.
But, Lord, if there is anything that I need to do,
If I need to go to a person because he or she is still suffering from my hand,
bring to my awareness that person.
I CHOOSE to forgive, and I ask to be forgiven.
Remove whatever bitterness may be in my heart or their hearts, Lord, and
fill the empty spaces with your love.
Amen.
dear laengr -
what a remarkable opportunity your wife has been given to be able to go into rehab and work on herself as it relates to her addiction. there is a reason why visits and phone calls are limited from family members and friends when we go to rehab. it is in the best interest of us addicts to take all of the time and energy we can muster and focus on our healing. until we heal ourselves, there is little an addict can do to help and support our families.
the disease of addiction is a family disease. not only is the addict obviously affected by it, so are the people whose lives come into direct contact with the addict.
this remarkable opportunity to heal is not limited to your wife, laengr - it is available for you too. have the counselors at this treatment center talked with you regarding a support group for family members? has it been suggested that you go to al-anon or nar-anon. these are support groups for spouses/friends/significant others who find themselves affected by the addiction of their loved ones. they offer so much in the way of a solution to those who care for the addicted.
bless your heart laengr - and your wife's too. rejoice in the fact that this is all out in the open and healing has begun. my prayer is that you will reach out to these same professionals that your wife has and find a place to comfort your pain too.
there is a solution.
hugs and much encouragement to the both of you.
namaste'
sammy
what a remarkable opportunity your wife has been given to be able to go into rehab and work on herself as it relates to her addiction. there is a reason why visits and phone calls are limited from family members and friends when we go to rehab. it is in the best interest of us addicts to take all of the time and energy we can muster and focus on our healing. until we heal ourselves, there is little an addict can do to help and support our families.
the disease of addiction is a family disease. not only is the addict obviously affected by it, so are the people whose lives come into direct contact with the addict.
this remarkable opportunity to heal is not limited to your wife, laengr - it is available for you too. have the counselors at this treatment center talked with you regarding a support group for family members? has it been suggested that you go to al-anon or nar-anon. these are support groups for spouses/friends/significant others who find themselves affected by the addiction of their loved ones. they offer so much in the way of a solution to those who care for the addicted.
bless your heart laengr - and your wife's too. rejoice in the fact that this is all out in the open and healing has begun. my prayer is that you will reach out to these same professionals that your wife has and find a place to comfort your pain too.
there is a solution.
hugs and much encouragement to the both of you.
namaste'
sammy
Dev- I read your post. I would force your son into in-patient, only from the simple fact that he's going to end up there anyway. It's WAY too easy to get something if you are not and relapsing. It's also "somewhat" easy EVEN for in-patients to get something. When there is a will, there is a way. But as I was telling someone last night on the phone, in-patient is basically like jail (except the people are nicer). It is very regimented. Very much to do. It's really a no BS kind of thing. Some people have it in their heads thats it like some country club. It's totally not. You do it their way, or it's the highway. It would be my guess (and ONLY my guess), that he's looking at outpatient, because if he wants to use again, he easily can. The addicted mind easily "rationalizes". Obviously up to you, but if he were my son, I'd force him in. Just understand, it's harder than outpatient on everyone, including you.
Thanks for your input, Danny. I totally agree that inpatient would be much better, but unfortunatley he's 28 years old and I can't force him into anything. Wish I could. I am going to share Sammy's response (from above) with him and see if that has some impact. My son is VERY smart. His girlfriend told me before that that has caused some of the problem because he's using it to be shrewd to get money and stuff. We even had our truck which he had been using since he didn't have money to keep his on the road, and we took it and put it in the garage at my mom's condo (since she's in a nursing home). We hid the keys for the truck and condo. To make a long story short, he was capable of finding truck keys he had misplaced a LONG time ago, found the condo keys (where they were hidden), and took the truck without our permission or knowledge. This was after we had told him that we were told that if he was driving our truck without a license and had an accident, we could lose everything because insurance doesn't cover. To be honest, I feel like I've aged about 10 years in the past 3 months!!!! I want out of this nighmare!
He was on Zoloft for his depression because he had convinced us and the doctor that he was off of the oxycontin. I think he is off it now, but taking vicoden for the withdrawal pain. He is SO sedated!!! Can fall asleep sitting up. Even burned a pair of his pants smoking and falling asleep on our porch. I read on the internet that he shouldn't be taking vicoden with Zoloft because it can cause dangerous sedation and the lungs could stop functioning. I don't know how much longer we can live like this. Please pray that he gets some help real soon!!!
Thanks for letting me vent. I would give ANYTHING to have my son safely in a rehab for however long it takes to make him well again!
In appreciation for your concern,
Susan
He was on Zoloft for his depression because he had convinced us and the doctor that he was off of the oxycontin. I think he is off it now, but taking vicoden for the withdrawal pain. He is SO sedated!!! Can fall asleep sitting up. Even burned a pair of his pants smoking and falling asleep on our porch. I read on the internet that he shouldn't be taking vicoden with Zoloft because it can cause dangerous sedation and the lungs could stop functioning. I don't know how much longer we can live like this. Please pray that he gets some help real soon!!!
Thanks for letting me vent. I would give ANYTHING to have my son safely in a rehab for however long it takes to make him well again!
In appreciation for your concern,
Susan
devangreb- When I first started to drink heavy (and was on Xanax), I woke up in the middle of the night ON FIRE. Evidently, I had woke up, smoked a cig and fell back asleep. I mean, I was buring alive and I'm not being dramatic by any means. I have the scars to prove it. I mean, I was dreaming I was being stung by 100's of bee's. And I woke up and my clothes were are fire. I ripped them off me, and threw the clothes into the washer. Then I came back, and the couch (sleeping on the couch, ya I know) and my blanket were on fire! The house was filled with smoke. My wife came out and I was laying on the kitchen floor naked, burned, and she freaked. I had really bad 3rd degree burns. So, the condition he is in is dangerous. Something like Vicodin perks people up. Something else is going on here. That's ONE of the reasons I get paranoid about myself. If you can't force him in, get his girlfriend to do it. Because in the end, from the symptoms I am reading from you, his life depends on it. I'm not preaching by any means and not being dramatic by any means. Just giving you a real life experience. And one I wouldn't wish on anyone. I've only been a "true" addict for 2 years, and I know what an addict is. But if people here knew what I have gone through, they would FREAK. But then again, when I hear their stories, I FREAK, so we all have problems. BTW, one more. Once, my wifes best friend had a "problem" with her husband. Really don't want to go into what type. But, she actually hired 3 private investigators to find something in their house. They looked and looked. For HOURS. I came over and found it in 5 minutes. When the PI's and my wifes friend asked me how I found it, I said to them "You have to think like a 17 year old hiding something from his Mom". I looked around the house, thought if I was going to be sneaky, where would "I" hide something. And there it was. Point of story..addicts have a hard time being honest with ourselves, let alone family members.
Also, if he's 28 and you are helping him financially, tell him he has NO choice. NONE. And get his girlfriend to back you. If he wants his life back on track, he'll listen. If not, the rehab place will pretty much beat it into him.. ;-)
Also, if he's 28 and you are helping him financially, tell him he has NO choice. NONE. And get his girlfriend to back you. If he wants his life back on track, he'll listen. If not, the rehab place will pretty much beat it into him.. ;-)
Wow, Danny! I'm so glad you woke up! People are often overcome with smoke and don't wake up. My son was a very heavy drinker, and when he stopped that cold turkey, he turned to the drugs for that "good" feeling. He tells me that he was on vicodin and didn't find that as addicting, but the person he was getting it from encouraged him to try oxycontin (saying he was out of the others), and he was hooked!
I really have no idea what he truly is taking, because I can't trust a word he says at this point. I did look up the vicodin/zoloft combination and it did say it could bring about a dangerous sedation. It could be something else though.
Who knows?! I just get scared watching him fall asleep about every 5 seconds!
My little granddaughter lives with us and I'm afraid he'll accidently hurt her or drop her. I try to keep him from going the steps with her. She is my little ray of sunshine that is getting me through with her smile, her hugs, her kisses, and her laughter. Without her and the zoloft, I would be going insane!!!!
I've thought of telling him that he has to go into rehab, but people have told me that if you're forced into rehab, it won't work. You'll just check yourself out. We did, however, tell him that come December there will be no more financial help if he doesn't get treatment, and we are going to stick to it! We have to for the sake of his life! He has a classic car (1972 Mustang Mach I) that he has been restoring, and he put that up as colateral for one of his loans. I warned him that the time that if he defaulted, he'd lose it, but he chose to do it anyway. I told him if he has to lose his precious car to get a wake up call, so be it! It's better to lose the car, than lose him! It will be very hard for me to do, but I realize I have to.
Thanks so much for all your help. You are very kind.
Susan
I really have no idea what he truly is taking, because I can't trust a word he says at this point. I did look up the vicodin/zoloft combination and it did say it could bring about a dangerous sedation. It could be something else though.
Who knows?! I just get scared watching him fall asleep about every 5 seconds!
My little granddaughter lives with us and I'm afraid he'll accidently hurt her or drop her. I try to keep him from going the steps with her. She is my little ray of sunshine that is getting me through with her smile, her hugs, her kisses, and her laughter. Without her and the zoloft, I would be going insane!!!!
I've thought of telling him that he has to go into rehab, but people have told me that if you're forced into rehab, it won't work. You'll just check yourself out. We did, however, tell him that come December there will be no more financial help if he doesn't get treatment, and we are going to stick to it! We have to for the sake of his life! He has a classic car (1972 Mustang Mach I) that he has been restoring, and he put that up as colateral for one of his loans. I warned him that the time that if he defaulted, he'd lose it, but he chose to do it anyway. I told him if he has to lose his precious car to get a wake up call, so be it! It's better to lose the car, than lose him! It will be very hard for me to do, but I realize I have to.
Thanks so much for all your help. You are very kind.
Susan
P.S. to Danny
I forgot to mention that my son's girlfriend is also a addict. She claims to be on a methodone treatment, but I can't believe a word she says either. They were both caught shooting up by the police back in early October, but bargained to get it reduced to having a syringe. I definitely don't think they are good for each other, but sometimes the more a parent says, the more it pushes them together. Anyway, I can't count on her for help. Sometimes I think she takes him for stuff.
Susan
I forgot to mention that my son's girlfriend is also a addict. She claims to be on a methodone treatment, but I can't believe a word she says either. They were both caught shooting up by the police back in early October, but bargained to get it reduced to having a syringe. I definitely don't think they are good for each other, but sometimes the more a parent says, the more it pushes them together. Anyway, I can't count on her for help. Sometimes I think she takes him for stuff.
Susan
Susan,
I am keeping you and your family in my prayers everyday. I hope that your son realizes how truely blessed he is to have a mother as wonderful as you. You are not alone out there.....many of us are on the other side of the terrible disease.
Take care.........
Tina
Thank you for posting the Healing Prayer......powerful I think.
I am keeping you and your family in my prayers everyday. I hope that your son realizes how truely blessed he is to have a mother as wonderful as you. You are not alone out there.....many of us are on the other side of the terrible disease.
Take care.........
Tina
Thank you for posting the Healing Prayer......powerful I think.
