I pray over and over for God to take me and let my son be ok from his addiction. My son is 25 now and have been battling this horrific nightmare for 8 years. He started with drinking, but later turned to cocaine, meth, opiates, heroine, and anything else he can get. He has been to a couple rehabs and may stay clean for a couple weeks. Most of the time he leaves the halfway house or rehab within a couple weeks. He once again asked to come home last week, and I would not allow it if he could not pass a drug test for everything including pot. Of course, he could not, so I would not allow it. He looked awful and I could tell he had been on a binge. He left to go an hour away to another halfway house. That did not last long. Just a couple days. He showed up today looking better than last week. However, he still could not pass a test, so he could not stay. I feel so bad for making him leave. He kept saying he would have to sleep on the streets. It is the hardest thing I have ever done. I have two other teenage sons, and I try to be strong for them, but my heart is split into three. One part per son. How can I survive without one part being whole? What is helping and what in enabling?
Helping is being there to offer emotional support to your son when he shows you he is making a serious effort to get clean- that means several months of sobriety, engaging with some sort of program and proving to you by his actions, not words, that he is serious about getting clean- anything you do for him while he is in active addiction is enabling - you made a brave decision to remove him when he is using- well done- stick to your boundaries for your sake and your other two sons- wish you all the best- keep posting here for support
Hi I have no children .I do have a boyfriend of forever and he is a heroin addict.lucky me. His mom threw him out when he was like seventeen even though she was a drunk herself. I understand you have other kids and you want a normal life. My boyfriend is 45 and just relapsed after three years clean. I'm just saying tough love didn't work.The only way to stop is to want it. There's nothing you can do but take them to rehab over and over and over it took me 23 years to learn that . I hope he stops.I know how heart breaking it is.we had apartments.nice apartments and he would chose to live on the street.drugs suck.
Your statement that you "pray for God to take you and your son to be ok in his addiction" is exactly how I feel every single day. I feel like my life is so consumed with keeping my son alive that I cant experience any other aspect of life. Im about to turn 50 years old, my son will be 29 and this has gone on since he was 13 years old. Im tired. I feel like I have nothing left.
Im going to make myself get up and go to an alanon meeting tomorrow night. Im really going to try because I cant go on this way. Just know my prayers are with you. I truly do understand how you feel. Trying to help but every time you do they just seem to fail. My son has been kicked out of so many halfway houses. Now I am paying for an apt that he has made into a crack house so that is not appreciated either. That is stopping too. Every time I try to make his life better or normal he goes back to the gutter. Hes my only child and I don't know how you have the strength or energy to give another child im sure that is tough.
God Bless the mothers of addicts, there has to be a special place in heaven. I always say I have to go to heaven because my time on earth has been hell. Sorry if I sound so negative its my life these days...I feel hopeless
Im going to make myself get up and go to an alanon meeting tomorrow night. Im really going to try because I cant go on this way. Just know my prayers are with you. I truly do understand how you feel. Trying to help but every time you do they just seem to fail. My son has been kicked out of so many halfway houses. Now I am paying for an apt that he has made into a crack house so that is not appreciated either. That is stopping too. Every time I try to make his life better or normal he goes back to the gutter. Hes my only child and I don't know how you have the strength or energy to give another child im sure that is tough.
God Bless the mothers of addicts, there has to be a special place in heaven. I always say I have to go to heaven because my time on earth has been hell. Sorry if I sound so negative its my life these days...I feel hopeless
