Hi everyone....havin a hard day/night. I just found out my gf has been doing heroin...but of course she denies it. Well I saw her arm and they looked like this : bruises with lots of little swollen bumps that almost look infected. Is that definitely needle marks? Thank u.......
To me it sounds like needle marks...Herion is "not" the only thing people shoot. Do you have a reason to belive it's H? Cocain is pretty often shot up, it tends to leave worse bruises. Either way it's a crappy thing for sure. I can't think of anything else it could be if there are several spots like that on her. You can't MAKE her stop unless she's willing. I lied to my boyfriend about how much i used in the begining. I told him ALL the time I was stoping... I did want to stop. It was hard, he stuck it out and took me to methadone treatment. It can work but, most often dose not. Seek help for yourself you can't force her, you can't change her. The only thing you can do is not enable her DON'T give her money. When we were 1st togther my bf let it be known he was not going to feed my addiction. He would never give me money he took me out to eat. I totally respect him more now because he did not buy my lies did not ever get weak on me. Good luck, it not a good situation to be in for either of you .
Thanks for the response....I need some answers!!! Anyway...I believe its heroin because she is an opiate addict....vicodin, oxys, etc... She associates with heroin users.....this is so hard I don't know what to do. I have not enabled her for a while and I have set up my boundaries...but now its like when u think it can't get worse...it does...10 times worse....bad bad day.
Best answer I have is treat yourself RIGHT be good to you!. If you are not willing to put up with her using and her junkie friends you need to step back from her maybe just 4 a while maybe longer. You need to not let your life be dragged down by her. It ALWAYS gets worse before it gets better that's the nature of addiction. I'ld let her know you love her and that she's better then the dope. She could die and your not gonna watch her do it. No addict stops if they don't see the conquences of their actions. If she has not went to jail, lost a lover, lost her family, done stupid crap 4 $, been dope sick, all those unpleasent things she won't see the REASON to stop. Face it, who would stop if they don't lose anything?. You can suport her, talk to her, go to meetings with her, IN THE END this is all her issue and it's she that will have to change NOT YOU. You can't beg enough, love enough, support enough, want enough, to stop this. You deserve to be happy and you are the only one responsible for your happiness. If she wants to stop that is a steping stone to helping her. If she is not trying or dose not WANT to stop not anything for you to do about it.
